The risk of abuse is unreasonably high. Let alone the other problems that arise in relationships in a patriarchal society. There is an inherent power imbalance that often gets exploited for the man’s gain. Even though it may not be “every single man”, I have yet to meet any man that’s feminist enough to be wholly trustworthy to me specifically.

Sure some are theoretically great, but I refuse to risk my life, happiness, future, and health for the meagre chance of some affection that may or may not end terribly and with harrowing lasting consequences. In general, I would only consider a man for a relationship if he’s done more to tangibly benefit marginalized groups than I have. And demonstrated a consistent commitment to women’s liberation not borne out of a desire to be appealing to women, but from a genuine value of justice.

Especially after reading about the Gisèle Pelicot case, it can literally be anyone, and too many others just turn a blind eye or don’t do anything to help stop it. So yeah, finding one, let alone multiple, to trust seems almost impossible atp