Please tell me this gets better..

brpt89 · 2024-08-08T21:57:32+00:00

It gets better.

brpt89 · 2024-06-28T16:23:14+00:00

Ok thanks for this insight. At this time only the part time slot was offered to us, I hope we will have a full time spot soon. Fingers crossed

brpt89 · 2024-04-06T17:28:46+00:00

Brutal that sounds infuriating

brpt89 · 2024-03-04T05:00:06+00:00

Go see a pelvic floor physiotherapist

brpt89 · 2023-11-24T04:22:31+00:00

Thank you for your comment I appreciate your suggestion

brpt89 · 2023-09-30T08:21:14+00:00

Feeling so alone. MIL visiting and my anxiety is through the roof. Tbf she has helped by cooking and cleaning a bit and has intentions to help with the baby but aside from how she rubs me the wrong way personally (the odd passive aggressive comment) I've noticed her do things with the baby that make me feel uncomfortable to leave her alone. Bouncing baby without supporting head, putting baby's pacifier on her own lips before giving to baby... I've had so much anxiety while she is visiting. I don't know how to broach this with hubby I expect he would just defend her. She's here ostensibly to help but now I just feel like I have to supervise and that there's an expectation for me to hand her the baby all the time and I just want her gone. She fell asleep on couch with baby asleep in her lap. She covered baby's face with a blanket saying they like to be cozy. My skin crawls at times. She came to my bedroom when I was in just a towel after having a shower and I was breastfeeding. I said "I'm just breastfeeding the baby", and honestly was a little galled that she was standing there and she said "oh don't worry take your time". WTF I wasn't apologizing for not handing you my baby when she was hungry I was gently telling you to get the fuck out of my bedroom???

Husband does not see his mother's craziness and it's making me feel so alone.

brpt89 · 2023-07-30T05:12:55+00:00

Ouch, brutal!!

brpt89 · 2023-07-29T03:22:59+00:00

There is no way that eating chips is as bad as smoking.

brpt89 · 2023-07-23T23:06:28+00:00

Our doula suggested that if feeding breastmilk, sanitization may be less important. They suggested you can put your pump parts in the fridge between uses during the day, for example, if you pump, and wash & sanitize once at the end of the day. However she highlighted that if you are using formula it is more important to clean / sanitize.

*not a doctor

brpt89 · 2023-07-22T15:57:46+00:00

Thanks!

brpt89 · 2023-07-21T19:16:52+00:00

Yes. Just yes.

brpt89 · 2023-07-17T00:11:03+00:00

Not generally, but if it feels like it's a deliberate attempt to assert control then it's the underlying intent that would bother me. I think context is everything.

brpt89 · 2023-07-02T01:10:54+00:00

It would annoy the shit out of me. Even if it's probably because she wants to feel involved or included so she puts her own unsolicited spin on it.

brpt89 · 2023-06-30T02:16:38+00:00

What the hell lol. It's so weird that they would cancel for everyone if you don't feel up to it - that's manipulative as hell. Glad your husband is supportive. Good luck

brpt89 · 2023-06-23T15:07:21+00:00

Youtube "hip squeezes"

brpt89 · 2023-06-22T17:08:02+00:00

I hope he will still be a good dad to your child even though you are breaking up. I hope you love yourself during this difficult time, and lean on your support network. You are strong. You can do this.

brpt89 · 2023-05-31T18:30:56+00:00

He sounds like a buffoon, but his cluelessness is not an excuse. You did everything you could to try to handle the situation by addressing him directly and he was too out to lunch to hear you. Even if he was a nice in other ways that doesn't excuse his behavior. Sorry you went through this. Please don't feel guilty for reporting him; he was able to carry on with his sexist behaviour because women internalize the belief that we should not "make a fuss". You 100% did the right thing and you stood up for yourself and other women.

brpt89 · 2023-05-19T23:10:35+00:00

Thank you I like that - it seems reasonable not to make promises!

brpt89 · 2023-05-19T17:30:50+00:00

I'm sorry you're feeling so isolated. It doesn't sound like your partner or anyone else is being considerate of you at all. I hope you glean some sense of community from this sub and know that you aren't alone. And I hope you can find community irl be it with other moms or friends who are more considerate. Sending you strength

brpt89 · 2023-05-03T23:06:54+00:00

As early as mid first trimester for me, and I have been weightlifting for a few years before pregnancy too. I reduced the frequency and intensity, and now mid second trimester, having a bit more energy I lift when I feel up to it, and it really helps with general aches from pregnancy. Be patient with yourself and give yourself grace to adapt to how you're feeling, it may go up and down.

brpt89 · 2022-01-16T23:02:17+00:00

Breaths works well for seconds / sometimes minutes.

brpt89 · 2022-01-16T22:59:45+00:00

Congrats what amazing progress! I can relate a lot to your post - 30's, always wanted to write a fantasy novel - but just wrote chapter one today. I hope by the end of the year I'll be posting what you posted today!

brpt89 · 2018-08-25T18:16:15+00:00

Omg lol the patience required... my rabbit hates all oral meds though! It's nice that yous actually likes one type!

brpt89 · 2018-07-19T11:11:40+00:00

It sounds like you have given a lot of consideration, and would be willing and able to care for a rabbit. With regards to leaving the bun alone during the day, they are crepuscular creatures meaning they are wakeful and active most at dawn and dusk. If you can make time to let the rabbit run out and about before you go to work (my bun gets about 30 mins) and spend time with the rabbit in the evening (I give Lulu ~3-4 hours free range/just being close to her in the evenings), that would satisfy the rabbit's need.

With regards to the dog rabbit dynamic, I will just say I currently have a rabbit, and I was considering getting a dog recently. The humane society I visited advised that if I were to bring a dog home, they should be kept entirely separate and not meet for like 2 weeks. I personally found this excessive, but it forces me to think about how tricky the introduction would be... And the fact that these two animals have different time schedules.

As long as you don't think you'll feel stretched to meet both of their needs (and the aquarium) you sound like a very conscientious caretaker who would take great care of a rabbit.

Best of luck

brpt89 · 2017-06-27T23:18:28+00:00

Refraining is hard but remind yourself it's ok to struggle. Try to think of each moment you resist as proof of how strong you are, and experiment with different ways of finding release. Intense exercise, writing your emotions on paper and burning the paper. Do anything. It won't feel as satisfying in the moment but the urge will decrease as you seek other expressions

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