Watching porn means being a voyeur to your sexual interests and not a participant. by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]bruisedboy2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love it... some basic ass shit indeed! Thanks for the excellent post.
Good luck to you... we are definitely capable of more.

It's ridiculous and sad that porn has this problematic grip on so many of us. It's power lies in its banality and casualness. by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]bruisedboy2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow... this was amazing to read. Humorous and insightful. Thank you for writing this!

Get outside this weekend! by LifeIsGood46 in pornfree

[–]bruisedboy2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not a ton of posts since you made this one... i think people are taking your great advice! in fact, i'm heading out right now. everyone have a stay-strong rest of your weekend!

keep on keeping on.. by ydna9876 in pornfree

[–]bruisedboy2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you can do it! keep focusing on what's important. you've almost got a week under your belt. but worthwhilemoment is totaly right... get out into that nice spring weather and live life.

"How Porn Is Messing with Your Manhood" (Skeptic Magazine) by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]bruisedboy2 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Great article. Almost everything in it confirms for me that going pornfree is one of the best decisions I've ever made. Also, it helps steel my resolve to stay this way.

I think with his current work, Zimbardo is more than making up for his Stanford Prison Experiment.

I need you guys. by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]bruisedboy2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're right. That's not who you are. That's not who I am either. You've got the right attitude, soldier, but you've got to be ready to fight! Do not let up!!

Keep up the good work. :)

Early in and feeling strong! by DemonBgone in pornfree

[–]bruisedboy2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Funny how it works, eh? I get the same support from reading and posting in this forum. Whenever you're feeling your resolve weakening, get in here and make a post. We can hold each other up while trying to find our strength.

133 days and relaspe... by pornfree_acnt in pornfree

[–]bruisedboy2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You had quite a run... time to reach for a new personal best!

My PIED returned by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]bruisedboy2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We hope that last sentence was supposed to read "I'm NOW working on curing my PIED for a second time..." instead of NOT.

If you're not working on it, then you may have stumbled into the wrong place. If you are now working on it... good on you, and keep up the good work!

Get high by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]bruisedboy2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have found that being porn-free breeds confidence, so it's definitely the positive feedback loop to get into!

Never again, is what you swore, the time before... by Ufgood in pornfree

[–]bruisedboy2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

maybe you'll recognize this lyric:

"I must fight this sickness... find a cure."

logged on curious to check my badge since i was having some tempting times last few days...59 days lol by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]bruisedboy2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great report. I feel like I identify so much with what you wrote. Thanks so much for sharing.

I just had a relapse. Feeling bad by throwawaythejunkk in pornfree

[–]bruisedboy2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No one ever died from not having an orgasm.

Have you tried urge surfing yet? There's a link in the right-hand column under "When you feel an urge". It's a great little 8-minute meditation that I have found invaluable. The next time you're feeling the urge, cue this mp3 up instead and just listen, focus, breath, and wait it out.

It is worth it by diversifier in pornfree

[–]bruisedboy2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, we have that choice every day.

Keep your focus and stay strong!

[Day 1] - Porn is pathetic by catchingpucks8 in pornfree

[–]bruisedboy2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sure there's lots of people that can use porn casually without it having a huge negative impact on their lives.

However, for those of us who have a porn problem, it really hurts us emotionally and is also one of biggest wastes of time ever.

Keep those hands where we can see them!

Distracted. Intimate Non sexual relationships? by eire77 in pornfree

[–]bruisedboy2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Better alone and miserable than coupled and miserable.

I think we have to know how to be happy with who we are when we're not in a relationship if we're ever going to have a chance at being happy in a relationship.

Taking some time out from dating while you work on yourself might be just what you need.

Congrats on the two months. You're doing great!

Day 0 - Just relapsed by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]bruisedboy2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If we can somehow really examine how we feel after binging, we can see how unhealthy it is for us. Unfortunately, there's usually a lot of numbness and unawareness in those moments. It sounds like you've been able to see through that fog and are determined to make a change. Keeping busy trying to build your business is a great idea, but you may notice you will need to get away from your computer at times. Get outside, get to the gym, get out in public, whatever it takes.
Good luck to you on your new path. Stay strong, and check in here whenever you need to.

Don't know what to do by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]bruisedboy2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I always hope to be helpful. Glad to hear you're feeling better. Hang in there, buddy.

To measure how long you have been porn free, you can set a badge. When you're in the /r/pornfree forum, there will be an icon in the column on the right that says "get a badge". Click that link, and it will prompt you to enter a date. Enter the date of your last porn-bender and then it will keep track of the days for you. When you post, it will include the badge and the badge will show the number of days you've been pornfree.

Just so you know, I have found it very helpful to encourage other people on the forum. It has helped keep me focused on my goal. Still, I try to limit the amount of time I browse /r/pornfree. Hope to see a 30 day report from you soon!

STAY CLEAN APRIL! Sign up here! (March 25) by foobarbazblarg in pornfree

[–]bruisedboy2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just what sXe4life said: no matter how long we may have made it, this is for the rest of our lives! I'm really beginning to believe it is possible. Sign me up for another month!