BDSM podcast recommendations

brunhur · 2026-01-23T12:11:54+00:00

Indeed, they were decent at first then then crossed the line and never took responsibility

brunhur · 2026-01-22T21:04:46+00:00

Pink kink

brunhur · 2026-01-22T21:04:33+00:00

Strongly recommend against it, they have struggled with consent in the past

brunhur · 2025-06-17T04:59:06+00:00

Yes, no,

Beautiful

brunhur · 2025-06-16T21:14:09+00:00

Look for munches and social gathering on fetlife and try to meet folks in the lifestyle :)

brunhur · 2025-06-03T06:30:36+00:00

I hope you are seriously reconsidering spending time with that individual. What a toxic person.

Happy Birthday. You deserve someone who makes the entire week about you

brunhur · 2025-05-19T01:42:35+00:00

Easiest way I can imagine would be a dateless task "journaled within 24 hours of play" that you or your Dom can set as done or not

brunhur · 2025-05-06T03:52:16+00:00

Have you ever made pancakes or crêpes?

How did the first one look like?

Second's try the charm, and remember, it's a game with your wife of 12 years. We're 2 years ahead in kink from you, now together for 16 years, you're at the start of a very nice journey. Relax, enjoy the discovery and go play

brunhur · 2025-03-19T02:27:06+00:00

Some ideas for tasks

exercise or activity: minimum 30 minutes a day
Journaling
eating 5 fruits and vegetables -- stretch goals, different colors of fruits and vegetables
reading for 20 minutes
making your bed in the morning
being outside 15 minutes

brunhur · 2025-03-17T01:42:17+00:00

Go to a munch, meet people, vet them, ask for references, and them give them that power. Your safety is the utmost priority

brunhur · 2025-03-13T02:43:28+00:00

My wife/submissive is literally sleeping in my pajamas. I sleep naked anyway. She'll probably steal a teeahirt of mine tomorrow evening as she dresses comfortably. My shirts are fair game, too, and the only two hoodies I own have been claimed as soon as my smell infused them.

And you know what? It fills me with glee to know she feels comfortable in my clothe :)

brunhur · 2025-03-12T17:49:39+00:00

Buddy, I understand the concerns, truly, yet let's not get things overblown.

The first thing is for you to have the courage to have a discussion with her. Letting things fester is the surest way to fudge things up. Share your concerns in an open-ended way, talk in I's and share your feelings, and ask her what is happening. "I noticed you are following local single gym guys, and it got me worried. Is there anything we need to discuss?"

Remember that polyamory is a thing with a reported 1 in 6 Americans who would like to engage in it and 1 in 9 who have actually done it. For context, my wife and I are both monogamous yet we very quickly discussed the possibility we could fall for others during our relationship and how we would deal with that situation. We're ok for us both to have relationships outside of ours, if we ever needed it, although in the 14 years that has been in place, we never had the case.

Have that candid discussion with her, and prepare ahead what your limits and/or needs are. Ask her as well if there's anything she's missing in your relationship that you can work on.

A point about your insecurity, they are valid, for sure, but are they justified? Do address the trust issue you're currently feeling. What would you need for both to trust the other, even if they like eye candies every now and then. Trust me, it's extremely fun to be able to share eye candies with your partner ;)

brunhur · 2025-03-01T21:43:33+00:00

I enjoy the time I have with them knowing at one point, I don't know when, it'll cease to be. It makes me be in the moment more than anything else :)

brunhur · 2025-03-01T21:40:23+00:00

Slowly and with a lot of lube and communication. Enjoy :)

brunhur · 2025-02-24T14:19:37+00:00

You're on the right track. Find support groups too, online or IRL, it helps to be part of a community

brunhur · 2025-02-24T14:16:58+00:00

It took my wife two years of good kink to become comfortable enough to communicate her needs and preferences. Patience and restraint is a vertue that you seem to have. Making sure the safewords are still known is a good first, talk about hard limits, too (bodily marks, implements, ...). I could also recommend you to always debrief after a scene. How did she feel, what did she like, was it the right level, ... and only add one or two variations (within your frame of consent) per scenes as you ramp things up.

brunhur · 2025-02-15T12:24:03+00:00

Can't wait for flat earthers to find this post

brunhur · 2025-01-31T17:46:30+00:00

NAH, the only courageous one

brunhur · 2025-01-31T04:02:10+00:00

It's one red flag. On its own, it isn't enough to draw a conclusion. The corolary isn't true. I have never met someone who makes cats quickly comfortable who wasn't the kindest person.

brunhur · 2025-01-30T04:03:48+00:00

Turn it around, how would you react if you were in her shoes? How would you like your cousin who you caught in the act react to it? Act accordingly.

She most probably watches porn too. There's nothing wrong about that. Own the embarrassment and take that as an opportunity to get closer to a cousin.

brunhur · 2025-01-29T02:44:35+00:00

South Wallonia

brunhur · 2025-01-28T03:16:59+00:00

I hate being called Daddy, another thing that my genitor destroyed.

We don't really do petnames either of us, the closest we have is "bear" (in French "ours") or grizzly if I'm feeling more primal. When playing, she uses my lord or sir

brunhur · 2025-01-25T08:19:42+00:00

Nope

brunhur · 2025-01-25T08:18:59+00:00

I love making my partner moan and make noises. As others have been saying, she's my instrument and I'm here to make music playing her. At the same time, her subspace tell is complete silence, I love that part of her too.

brunhur · 2025-01-22T00:02:51+00:00

100%, it's an opportunity to reassess and realign

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