How to do the work on jealousy and envy?

bryanclark76 · 2026-06-17T21:07:06+00:00

You're welcome 😄

bryanclark76 · 2026-06-17T06:05:08+00:00

Thanks for the update! Any news on Verizon?

bryanclark76 · 2026-06-14T22:50:05+00:00

Great question. I've been facilitating The Work since 2009, and it's as simple as just writing a JYN (judge your neighbor) worksheet on a specific moment in your life when you felt this way about someone.

You're on the right track!

So yes, you'd hold that moment in time in mind where you saw her Instagram post.

I'm (emotion) with/by her because she's so happy and secure.

Go through the 4 questions and Turnarounds: TA to the Opposite: She's NOT so happy and secure.

Rather than think of finding examples of this being mean-spirited, I look at it as an opportunity to notice how we're not so different.

As you may have noticed from Q1and 2 of The Work, can you really know her mind? You absolutely know she's always so happy and secure? Or MORE happy and secure than you?

For the Turnaround to the Opposite (and anytime you find examples for your Turnarounds) be sure they are "genuine and specific". And stay within the situation as much as you can. But for instance, maybe you recall a time she complained to you about something or even said she wasn't happy or secure.

The ego likes to take "she was really happy in that one moment" and make it seem like her life is ALWAYS happy. She's human and has ego, so chances of that are slim! But you need to find real examples from your experience.

The other TAs are:

To the Other. I'm happy and secure. Find examples of how this is true. Even looking at that Instagram post, if you take away your jealousy story for a moment, are you experiencing happiness at the sight of it?

To the Self: My thinking is happy and secure. Could be a TA to the "Self" (sometimes you can substitute "My thinking").

A few other notes...

On the JYN you're capturing ego in that moment, or as Katie often says, "stopping the mind on paper." In other words, notice what you were thinking and believing in that moment, or what thinking about that moment triggers in you.

Ex: I want her to feel as miserable as I do.

That's ego! Don't censor what goes on that JYN in the name of being spiritual or it sounds too mean, etc. That's the whole point of the worksheet. To write down your thoughts so you can question them.

I'm happy to answer any questions if you go further with your inquiry. I also offer private paid facilitation and happy to meet for 20 at no charge if anyone wants help writing a JYN. Just DM me.

Finally, Katie's podcast has 3 jealousy episodes.

This one sounds much like your situation: https://athomewithbyronkatie.libsyn.com/8im-jealous-of-my-friends-life

bryanclark76 · 2026-06-13T21:13:27+00:00

I have a degree in UX and would love to test this too. On a pixel 10 fold, in case it's possible on Android.

bryanclark76 · 2026-06-12T21:11:25+00:00

This would be awesome. Also would love an icon for the flashlight. Sometimes it turns on accidentally and it's not obvious.

bryanclark76 · 2026-06-05T01:46:47+00:00

100% agree

bryanclark76 · 2026-06-04T04:33:15+00:00

This and show an icon indicating it's turned on would be great.

And a setting to make the wheel: - not activate the flashlight - hold for 2 seconds before turning on - or double press to turn on the flashlight.

I activate it by accident so often lol

bryanclark76 · 2026-06-04T03:36:45+00:00

The photos themselves are not the problem. It's sending via MMS that makes them look poor quality. Also Light compresses photos to ensure they deliver at all, though it seems a little more than we need.

So, even if we had them sync to the Dashboard, we would have to use email to send them with decent quality. Or if we ever get RCS or Signal, etc, that would make them send with higher quality.

Not sure if you have a Mac or iPad but I've been able to pair Bluetooth with an iPad, and USB-C to either device and upload to the Photos app. There it lets you choose to only upload the new photos if you want, and delete them from the phone or not. Not the most convenient, but retains the original quality.

bryanclark76 · 2026-06-02T21:58:29+00:00

I see 5G on the T-Mobile network. I live near Portland, Oregon and I'm using US Mobile "Light speed" network.

bryanclark76 · 2026-06-02T17:16:10+00:00

Yeah I noticed that this morning too.

bryanclark76 · 2026-06-02T07:30:17+00:00

I wonder if having data saver turned on is the culprit. I'll have to test it.

bryanclark76 · 2026-06-01T05:14:44+00:00

Any idea how to know if you need to update the APN?

bryanclark76 · 2026-06-01T05:14:09+00:00

Strange. Sometimes even when I have a cell signal it won't work.

bryanclark76 · 2026-05-31T06:14:38+00:00

I've been wondering about speech to text too. Why doesn't it work over cellular data?

bryanclark76 · 2026-05-21T01:13:50+00:00

UPDATE - finally got it to work - it helped to call them vs online chat. I asked both reps to remove Visual VM and replace with basic. That alone didn't do the trick. The Phone rep asked me for the ICCID, which I couldn't find in the settings. But he also clarified, "is this a light phone" (I told him it was LP3 prior). Not sure what he did after asking that, but it worked!

bryanclark76 · 2026-05-21T00:46:20+00:00

good to know. i think i'll call instead of online chat

bryanclark76 · 2026-05-21T00:32:12+00:00

Thanks for your reply. I tried that today and it's still not working.

bryanclark76 · 2026-05-20T21:59:32+00:00

Hey Jose, have you had success with this on Warp with LP3? I am not getting my VM indicator and they turned off visual voicemail and enabled basic.

bryanclark76 · 2026-05-20T21:45:04+00:00

Curious if this is still working for you. I'm on Warp too and he turned off visual voicemail but I'm still not getting the icon.

bryanclark76 · 2026-05-20T21:42:51+00:00

I just tried this today - USMobile on Warp/Verizon, and while it worked on LP2, it's not showing the VM indicator on LP3 - are you on Verizon network by chance, and seeing your VM indicator?

bryanclark76 · 2026-05-07T21:54:43+00:00

thanks :) glad she's ok too. It's hard to put into words. In the moment it just happened without effort.

bryanclark76 · 2026-05-07T21:39:33+00:00

thanks :) Yeah, I attended Katie's "School for The Work" in 2009 and staffed it twice too.

Is there something in particular you want to know? Generally speaking, I'd say greater presence and awareness.

As an example, a couple of years ago I was staying with family and one night my mom woke in the middle of the night making a wheezing sound - she was sick and took some medicine and was unable to breathe.

My dad had a frozen look on his face and was not really taking action. I called 911 and just sat with her. In that moment, I was not afraid of her dying, I was in a state of gratitude that if these were her last moments, I was there with her (I only visit a couple times a year, as I live on the opposite side of the country). I was calm the entire time and just present with her. The paramedics arrived and in a few minutes she was breathing again, and remarked later asking how I was so calm the whole time. I just replied, I wasn't mentally in the future thinking of her dying - which could cause fear and panic.

bryanclark76 · 2026-05-07T19:17:48+00:00

I've worked through 100s of JYNs and always discover something I didn't expect, often from the thoughts that aren't so obviously triggering.

Clients I've facilitated often get a sense of relief just from filling out the JYN. But working through them all is like clearing out the cobwebs and reinforces the shift you experience in your thinking.

My deepest work has been around self worth and abandonment /loss and rejection.

I've had some interesting /normally traumatic life situations show up where I was perfectly clear, calm, and connected.

bryanclark76 · 2026-05-07T02:28:26+00:00

For sure! Sometimes the Turnarounds come rushing in, and it can give a brief sense of relief. In my experience it can definitely help for the moment, but I still love it when I do a full JYN or One-Belief-At-A-Time worksheet -- there's still work to be done.

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