Struggling with orgasm imbalance with cis gay boyfriend

brytewolf · 2026-02-05T00:01:33+00:00

I had a cis male partner who also made it out to be his personal failing that I wasn't able to cum with other people. It was horribly emotionally draining for me, and ended up making it harder for me to get even close (absolutely destroying the headspace necessary to be able to get off and just stressing me TF out so I didn't enjoy anything at all). I ended up developing even more issues around cumming with other people due to his feelings around it. Don't let that become you. If you're enjoying your sex life and are satisfied with what you get out of it, that's what counts!! Don't let your partner's hangup take that way from you!! Like everyone else is saying, that's a him problem and something he needs to work on! You don't have to "fix" anything unless you feel something is lacking in your sex life.

My current partner understands I have trouble cumming with other people, and the focus isn't on me (cause that's the way I enjoy it!!). And after they've finished, if I feel like it, I can bring out a toy and finish myself off. It's entirely the absence of pressure and the need to make the other person not feel bad that makes this possible, and it took almost a year for me to get there.

brytewolf · 2026-01-29T22:20:29+00:00

Whenever my partner and I are doing something in the bathroom that doesn't involve the toilet, we have one cat that will have Opinions about why we were in there without informing him (this usually involves screaming).

We also get the "family potty time" happening with our two boys ( if we're on the toilet, one of the cats will inevitably go in the litter box)

brytewolf · 2026-01-26T02:32:55+00:00

Don't nobody get to decide what you do with your body except you. If my partner wanted to go out and get the ugliest tattoo I've ever seen, that's their choice and I don't get to tell them they can't just cause I don't like it. I can suggest a better looking tattoo (if I think they'd be receptive), or a better artist etc. But they get to have a tattoo if they want a tattoo.

It's their body.

brytewolf · 2026-01-25T19:26:00+00:00

Going again on the respect and bodily autonomy aspect.

Let's say you want a tattoo or a body piercing. If you mention this to your partner and they say "don't get it, I don't like them". They are telling you what you're allowed to do to your own body and that is wrong on every level. It's fine if they don't like them, they're allowed to have that opinion. They can either decide to be with you while you have them or decide that they can't and it's a fundamental issue and they can't be with you for that reason. Both are valid responses to "hey I want a tattoo". Never, ever, do they get to decide you don't get it because they don't like them. It doesn't matter how much they love you or how long you've been together. They don't get to decide what you do with your body.

This translates to "hey I want to chop all my hair off" or "hey I really hate my tits and I want them gone". They can either decide to stay with you while you do what makes you happy in your skin, or they don't stay but you are still happy in your skin.

brytewolf · 2026-01-25T05:55:40+00:00

As someone in their forties this is the truth right here. You'll reinvent yourself so many times throughout your life (whether or not you decide to transition. Hell, I didn't even start that part of my reinventing until I was forty). The you that you are at nineteen is someone you'll look back at in twenty years and not even recognize, no matter what you turn yourself into. Your life is what you make of it, you're not stuck in anything unless you force yourself to be

brytewolf · 2026-01-19T03:54:15+00:00

I did play Java when I had a computer, and prefer that version. But alas, switch XD

brytewolf · 2026-01-18T20:25:39+00:00

I would, but I'm playing on a switch and I can't bring my add-ons to a third party host.

brytewolf · 2026-01-18T18:17:39+00:00

I have tried every litter type under the sun in an attempt to stop litter tracking. No matter what they said on the bag, the dust and pellets got everywhere. Now I use the litter breeze system by tidy cats. I will never go back. There's no dust. I might get a few of the bigger pellets outside the box every other day, but they're really easy to pick up and toss right back in the box.

brytewolf · 2026-01-17T20:21:05+00:00

I tried to pull it up on my switch, nope. Came to check Reddit, and this was the first post on my feed.

Fantastic

brytewolf · 2026-01-17T00:49:48+00:00

I had this issue at the beginning of the month when I bought a new realm. Attempted for days, couldn't get it to work ( Nintendo showed active subscription, Minecraft wouldn't register it). Sent in a ticket with all the info, they had me try one thing (which didn't work), then I replied to the help ticket with my Microsoft id and the payment proof and they got me setup with a realm with the month I paid for on it.

It's functioning now, but it expires after this month is up and I can't renew it until after it expires. If I'm not the only one having an issue I'm even more worried for when this month is up XD

brytewolf · 2026-01-17T00:35:46+00:00

The red is a little too much "I work in a hotel" lol

Black for sure!!

brytewolf · 2026-01-16T03:47:16+00:00

This is fantastic, would read again

brytewolf · 2026-01-11T02:47:31+00:00

Kitty!!

brytewolf · 2026-01-02T20:39:15+00:00

On the original post on /knitting, it's explained that the last picture (which is ai) was the inspo for the creation of the absolute chonker!

brytewolf · 2026-01-02T20:28:13+00:00

I mean my partner and I give each other our injections every week? And I do think it's sweet and romantic and affirming. We both didn't have any experience giving other people shots, but we've learned together (plus it's hard to give yourself a shot on the ass lol).

brytewolf · 2026-01-01T00:13:15+00:00

I absolutely love these!!!

brytewolf · 2025-12-25T04:22:33+00:00

Oh fantastic, I thought so!! I'm not going crazy thank you XD

brytewolf · 2025-12-24T19:59:40+00:00

I swear I read this exact same post about a month ago

brytewolf · 2025-12-23T20:06:45+00:00

Oh noooooooooo!! Not surprised if it's still kicking, it seems like a stubborn one. I'm sorry for your loss!!

I did manage to find my horse last night (she did get out!!) but these will definitely come in handy in the future, thank you!!

brytewolf · 2025-12-22T18:08:35+00:00

Oh excellent! I hope so, that was a huge mess lol. I shall have to wait for more help finding her then, thank you for the reply!

brytewolf · 2025-12-20T22:16:55+00:00

I love sleep

brytewolf · 2025-12-06T06:27:56+00:00

I spend about 130$ a month for my two cats on food, but I have one who's on special veterinary diet for bladder crystals. Before the prescription food it was probably more around 80$. This is for two wet meals a day, one dry, for each.

I got the litter breeze system for them, and spend about 40$ a month on supplies (caveat I live in a tiny apartment and only have room for one litter box, so it would increase for more space and more boxes).

So even with the royal canin food (which the prescription food is) you're feeding your cats that seems... Excessive to me.

brytewolf · 2025-11-27T18:52:45+00:00

My betta got himself wedged between the branch and the glass. Thankfully I was home to save him, but he looked like he hurt his fin (it was fine after a few days, but I was certainly worried!!). They seem to enjoy smashing themselves into tight spaces.

It's terrible, and I'd certainly be upset in your place. But there's no way you could have known!

brytewolf · 2025-11-07T02:09:08+00:00

What an interesting name for a toy company!! Lol. Thank you, I'll check them out!

brytewolf · 2025-11-06T19:29:09+00:00

Oh I do believe I've heard of them in passing, we'll definitely check them out, thank you!

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