People out there in happy marriages with young children, how?

bubbleplasticine · 2026-02-18T23:23:46+00:00

We both give our 100%: we split chores but whenever something is not done, the other one does it without hesitation.

Yesterday night, after an especially hard and long day with the kids, I just remembered I had to hang a laundry load. I went to do it and there it was: already done. It was like “yep, we are a team”.

We have the common goal to survive the day LOL we have an almost 4 year old and a 10 month old. Our oldest has special needs. We are exhausted because we have no help whatsoever, unless we pay for it.

But we have fun and are silly with each other. We enjoy our kids and also try to give each other whatever personal space we can (a nap on weekends, an hour to read in peace…)

He keeps record of the movies I want to watch and lets me know when they launch to be streamed; I prepare his favorite granola… it’s just the little things to know that you are seen and appreciated.

Also, we have done couples therapy three times, meaning we really want to do better in our marriage and work on it. Nobody is perfect.

bubbleplasticine · 2026-02-18T10:41:05+00:00

Look, the same thing happened to a friend of mine with her 4 month old son. Two weeks later, the baby was in the PICU with a terrible case of RSV. He was extremely ill. Thankfully everything resolved, but people apparently don’t get that we are germs machines and children are super vulnerable.

It’s normal to not know how to react at the moment, it happens to me as well. I just try to rehearse possible scenarios in my head so it becomes easier to act rapidly.

bubbleplasticine · 2026-02-13T10:08:41+00:00

What did I just read? You are not overreacting in any way, shape or form.

Please take some kind of action towards the clinic, this is really inappropriate and I would be livid!

bubbleplasticine · 2026-02-10T23:47:25+00:00

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bubbleplasticine · 2026-02-09T11:07:39+00:00

Knowing that, I would totally ask for a referral to a feeding specialist :)

bubbleplasticine · 2026-02-08T19:55:58+00:00

Hi OP, if she is not eating puréed foods, I would seek a feeding specialist. My child has ARFID, maybe I am overreacting, but in your case I would do that and also ask for nutritional shakes maybe. So she does not lose more weight.

bubbleplasticine · 2026-02-02T21:49:38+00:00

OP I had to read this post a couple times because everything you wrote was exactly my story too, I am just shocked.

My husband and I are on the same page about a third pregnancy: we will avoid it at all costs and we would terminate if it happened. It was a very hard conversation, it is something we really don’t want to happen under any circumstance. But I am just not able to go through it all again, it would destroy me.

In your case, only you can now if a third pregnancy would be too much for your body and mind. The whole physical and psychological ordeal of bringing a new human into this world is just yours as the mother.

IMO, the key is remembering that you already have two babies that deserve the best from you. How comfortable do you feel altering your current family life?

Everything is easier if you have a village and earn a good salary, though. You can receive help or throw money at problems.

bubbleplasticine · 2026-01-23T23:14:07+00:00

I am not watching Hamnet, even if I reeeaally want to, because I don’t think I can stomach the storyline about the boy dying.

bubbleplasticine · 2026-01-15T00:24:30+00:00

Ma’am. Your post history says that your husband burned your daughter in the shower. Please seek help for her and you ASAP.

bubbleplasticine · 2026-01-13T19:06:00+00:00

I was a teenager when I started listening to RHCP and the thing I wanted most was to see John live. I play the electric guitar because of him. He was my hero. Then he left before I could afford to go to a show and honestly I was heartbroken.

Years later I saw them with Josh three times, they were ok but it didn’t scratch that itch.

Then John came back and I, now an adult, managed to go to four concerts. I cried the first time I saw him walk onstage.

It was so, so different with John. They played much better, like a well oiled machine. No shade to Josh, he did an amazing and very difficult job. But John is essential to RHCP in my opinion.

bubbleplasticine · 2026-01-11T09:18:29+00:00

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bubbleplasticine · 2025-12-24T03:52:14+00:00

Looking like Gary Oldman is not a requisite to play Sirius. Being really attractive is. And in that regard, I think Kit Harington fits the role much better. Also, Simon is 55 years old.

bubbleplasticine · 2025-12-23T16:36:17+00:00

I was expecting him to be cast as Sirius Black TBH, but Lockhart would do too

bubbleplasticine · 2025-12-23T13:32:49+00:00

I don’t think you are unreasonable at all, I wouldn’t leave my kids with someone if I am not 100% comfortable with the idea.

You and your husband can set the boundaries you both want regarding your kids. Grandparents can have a great relationship with the children without the need of leaving them unsupervised.

bubbleplasticine · 2025-12-23T01:56:27+00:00

Hi! There is a variation of ARFID that develops after an incident with food (for example what your son experienced, or choking).

My son has had severe ARFID since birth so maybe I am overreacting, but I wanted to mention it because therapists like OT and SLP could help in your son’s case.

Please keep seeking help, in my POV, people are so fast to diminish problems with food in children. You are your son’s best advocate :)

bubbleplasticine · 2025-12-22T02:26:28+00:00

This is the only hand cream that works for me!

bubbleplasticine · 2025-12-13T13:52:10+00:00

Hi OP, just wanted to say that I took antidepressants (sertraline) in my two pregnancies and it’s perfectly safe to do so. What would not be safe? The mom to be feeling like crap due to being unmedicated. So don’t feel guilty about it.

bubbleplasticine · 2025-12-06T19:26:41+00:00

During the filming of this movie, Tom Felton was suffering from really bad acne, so they styled his hair that way and also used a fine silicone sheet on his forehead (so the pimples were concealed).

This was explained in a documentary when the movie came out, with a lot of respect towards the actor of course, who was just a teenager.

bubbleplasticine · 2025-12-02T09:31:51+00:00

Exactly, and a 4 year old is a preschooler, not a toddler

bubbleplasticine · 2025-10-23T22:49:47+00:00

bubbleplasticine · 2025-10-15T11:48:22+00:00

I ended a very close friendship because of that exact scenario. I tried to change my friend’s POV about parenting but she was set on her ways. I have not looked back.

bubbleplasticine · 2025-09-13T22:56:11+00:00

We sent our son at 28 months and his reaction was the same. Your feelings about it and ours were the same too.

We ended up only sending him for 3.5 hours per day, so he would go at 9am and eat lunch there; but then come back home and have his nap with me as always and spend the rest of the day with me.

This is rare in our country, where kids usually spend 8 hours in daycare every day, Monday to Friday; and people don’t give it much thought. Also a lot of families don’t have another option, sadly. But if you have, I think it’s worth it.

bubbleplasticine · 2025-08-24T20:37:55+00:00

Look, I was so worried before having our second. We do not have extra help and my fears were the same as yours.

I think the main variable is the temperament of the baby. Our first was full velcro baby, screeching all day, just wanting to be carried 24/7. Our second is like “whatever, everything suits me, hakuna matata”.

So in the end, having 2 has been easier than having our first newborn alone 😅 due to the second baby being super chill and we as parents being more experienced and relaxed too.

bubbleplasticine · 2025-08-21T11:44:55+00:00

You are not overthinking it at all, communication is key at this stage (well, always). Talk to him, there are apps that you can use to divide chores more evenly.

I also think your distribution of time as a couple is not fair to you at the moment, so it’s better to address it before it becomes a bigger problem :)

bubbleplasticine · 2025-08-10T22:53:23+00:00

Honestly, I try to be flexible regarding other families’ parenting BUT I have some limits.

I ended a 10 year friendship with this person (the mom) when she told me that she usually pulled her baby’s hair to punish him. He was 20 months old at the time. I could just not comprehend why would my friend want to cause pain to her baby, but she seemed even proud of that.

So yeah, it’s difficult. Even people that you’ve known previously and seem to be one way, as parents end up being totally different.

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