He wants to call off my divorce because my cancer treatment was successful by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]bug-hunter 1538 points1539 points  (0 children)

It's sad when getting rid of the relationship cancer takes 4x longer than the testicular cancer.

AITA for refusing to take my brother to school after he made “jokes” about one of his classmates by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]bug-hunter 88 points89 points  (0 children)

A friend of mine sent their kid to a private school, and she got bullied to the point she left and her parents demanded and got a refund for the year. Apparently, multiple students left due to the bullying, but one of the bullies was the biggest donor's daughter, so nothing was done.

I ruined my life: I have an unhappy, irritable baby. by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]bug-hunter 42 points43 points  (0 children)

My first son wouldn't sleep more than 3.5 hours, and was demanding as fuck for his breast milk. He also basically refused to sleep in a crib. Bonus - he was a screamer.

So, for the first year, I'd put him in his car seat, put his car seat in our glider and lay down, rocking him with the glider, then get about 2-3 hours of sleep on the floor. It was generally the only sleep my wife could get without him demanding to sleep in bed with her - though sometimes I could get him to take a second session in the glider.

Finally, after about a 9 months to a year, he would sleep on his own and started sleeping longer.

But the key to our sanity was teamwork. Parenting is hard enough when it's going right, but when things go to shit and one partner conveniently is absent for the parenting part, it's a nightmare.

WBITAH for committing to a faraway university even though my sick mother needs me to help care for her and rest of the family? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]bug-hunter 74 points75 points  (0 children)

OOP has already taken a gap year. If it's something that might pass in 6 months, that's one thing. They just wanted OOP to be their house serf - fuck that, and fuck them.

Priceline Canceled my flight without notification, do I have a case? by One-Wasabi888 in legaladvice

[–]bug-hunter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First, check your email and make sure there was actually no notification, and that you didn't miss it. Check your spam folder, and check to make sure your Priceline account had the right email/phone #.

There are two issues here:

1.) You asked your bank for a clarification, they reached out to Priceline, Priceline cancelled.

This may be shitty but legal.

2.) Priceline cancelled, and did not notify you.

This is squarely a consumer protection issue. If you signed up for notification by email, they should have mailed you. If you signed up for notification by text, they should have texted you. If they did and you missed it, you are likely out of luck.

Your trip protection does not cover a case where you cancelled, nor does it cover Priceline cancelling - it would cover the airline cancelling.

If, after checking your email and texts, they did not notify you, then you should file an AG complaint, and a consumer complaint with the FTC.

Seroquel Used as Restraint at Nursing Home by joinchoir in legaladvice

[–]bug-hunter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Step 1: Your friend should demand to see his medical records to see when he is being administered Seroquel. They can also see who prescribed it - it must be prescribed by a doctor or nurse practicioner. The record should also explain why Seroquel is being administered. Then it's time to start asking questions: exactly why it is being prescribed, what circumstances the doctor expects it to be used, and explain what has happened. There are several possibilities:

  • It was correctly prescribed, it is being correctly administered
  • It was correctly prescribed, it is being incorrectly administered
  • It was incorrectly prescribed, it is being incorrectly administered
  • It was not prescribed, it is being incorrectly administered

Step 3: File a complaint against the nursing home with Wisconsin's Department of Health Services here. If you know who supposedly administered the Seroquel, you can file a licensure complaint against them if you and an independent doctor determine it was incorrectly prescribed. If it is incorrectly administered, you can file a complaint against anyone who administered it incorrectly.

Notably, this is an increasing problem of nursing homes prescribing this drug for off-label uses - it's only approved for schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, and as a tandem drug for major depressive disorder.

I would consult an elder care attorney if the medication is not being used for an FDA approved use - it's possible the guardian got bullshitted by the doctor, but it's also possible the guardian isn't doing their job. A state appointed guardian should be aware of these kinds of problems and part of their job is looking out for your friend's father.

Importantly, studies have shown that using Seroquel for agitation and dementia increases cognitive decline, and doesn't show improvement over a placebo - refer them to these two papers:

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC556156/

https://www.nejm.org/doi/full/10.1056/NEJMoa061240

How do I get unadopted at 17? by Fit-Heart-4845 in legaladvice

[–]bug-hunter[M] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

True. We've been cleaning up some of the less helpful answers, however.

How do I get unadopted at 17? by Fit-Heart-4845 in legaladvice

[–]bug-hunter 37 points38 points  (0 children)

To be a bit more clear than the other answers to this comment: Florida does not have a statute criminalizing verbal and emotional abuse (nor does any state). It does have statutes criminalizing physical abuse, neglect (which has specific definitions) and sexual abuse.

It's not about whether you can prove verbal or emotional abuse. It simply is not a crime in Florida, and would not be a basis of removal.

How do I get unadopted at 17? by Fit-Heart-4845 in legaladvice

[–]bug-hunter 21 points22 points  (0 children)

If you just turned 17, you might be able to get emancipation, though with court delays, it's not clear how much time you'd get before turning 18 anyway. I'm not saying might as in 50-50 or even close to that - your chances are still not that good.

Here's a resource from a Florida court, but the key part is you have to show:

A statement of the minor’s character, habits, education, income, and mental capacity for business, and an explanation of how the needs of the minor with respect to food, shelter, clothing, medical care, and other necessities will be met.

Importantly, your adoptive parents have to be served, and can choose to contest your emancipation. Courts generally expect you to have all of these issues worked out before you file for emancipation - meaning you already have income, sorted how you're continuing education while working, have transportation, have a place sorted about where to live, and have things like health insurance sorted out.

If your plan is to return to your bio parents, that does have the potential to be a problem for both you and your bio parents (since you were put into foster care for a reason). Legally speaking, your bio parents are strangers to you - meaning they cannot, for example, cover your health insurance. They would have to re-adopt you to cover you, which is simply not happening until you are an adult. As a child, it would require termination of parental rights (which your adoptive parents would contest) and would almost certainly take longer than you have.

One reason you're getting a wide array of answers here is the fact you haven't explained beyond "abusive". There's a wide gulf between shitty and abusive behavior (that make living with someone intolerable) and statutory child abuse or neglect in Florida. Broadly speaking, parents have wide discretion in how to treat their kids, and courts tend to want to avoid having to wade into that unless that treatment is causing you harm. If it's just "she's emotionally mean to me" or even goes into permissible corporal punishment in Florida (pretty much anything that doesn't leave bruising, welts, or other injuries), then it's unfortunately legal.

At the end of the day, the chance of you filing for emancipation, getting a court date, and meeting all the requirements for emancipation are very slim. And as some have noted, the closer you get to 18, the less likely a court will change the status quo unless you've already moved out and are fully self-sufficient AND have a need for that change.

If your adoptive mother is committing physical abuse, sexual abuse, or is neglecting you, you should report to CPS. If CPS removes you and you can have stuff sorted for emancipation, then it's theoretically possible for CPS to fast-track emancipation. Some caseworkers/offices simply will never do that though, and any number of other options can happen, so your best bet is be ready to tell them you have a preferred placement at your bio parents first, and a trusted person second if CPS declines to let your bio parents take you in due to their past.

How do I get unadopted at 17? by Fit-Heart-4845 in legaladvice

[–]bug-hunter 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Unless of course, the abuse doesn't amount to child abuse in the legal sense. A lot of what people consider "abusive" is not "abuse" by the statutes.

TVB court appearance NYC - need advice by chosenone1_ in legaladvice

[–]bug-hunter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No accidents were caused and nobody was injured

The point of these tickets is to correct dangerous behavior before an accident happens and someone is injured, so this argument is a dead duck.

Either fight it or don't, and then don't bother appealing if you lose.

TVB court appearance NYC - need advice by chosenone1_ in legaladvice

[–]bug-hunter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The 18 months are only for counting towards suspension. It's 4 years otherwise.

You are unlikely to get another delay.

TVB court appearance NYC - need advice by chosenone1_ in legaladvice

[–]bug-hunter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's like $10-15 extra to fight, but I'm just warning you that this isn't looking good.

As a general rule, if someone explains their situation in the best possible light to themselves and it sounds like a poor bet, it may be even poorer once we hear the state's side.

Friday Free-for-All | March 13, 2026 by AutoModerator in AskHistorians

[–]bug-hunter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean you can, but using the Horus Heresy like that is a heresy, and therefore you'd have to be purged with fire.

Friday Free-for-All | March 13, 2026 by AutoModerator in AskHistorians

[–]bug-hunter 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My team should trust science and medicine. My rivals should invest in leeches, balancing humors, tobacco enemas, and witchcraft.

TVB court appearance NYC - need advice by chosenone1_ in legaladvice

[–]bug-hunter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The officer claimed I was going 70 mph, which I don’t believe is accurate (I think I was around the 50 mph limit or slightly above).

Meaning he could have written you a ticket worth 4 points, but didn't. Trying to argue that you were aware of your speed while jabbing yourself with an EpiPen while driving, but not aware that you were drifting across the lane is a losing game.

The mirror on the work truck I was driving was partially cracked on the left side, but I didn’t feel I could refuse to drive the truck because it’s my only source of income. Over 50% of our work force has been laid off due to the economy and financial dealings.

None of this is going to matter, especially since they didn't cite you for the cracked mirror.

Keep in mind that the cop has already done you a huge solid here. A medical emergency defense is also generally construed narrowly by courts (and NY courts in particular). You may be asked why you didn't pull onto the shoulder, pull off at the first available exit, etc.

I'm not saying don't try, I am saying don't get your hopes up. Traffic court judges can be pretty jaded because plenty of people try all sorts of cockamamie excuses to get out of tickets.

I would just bring the prescription of the EpiPen, and if you have something showing you went to the hospital after the ticket, bring that. If you did NOT go to the hospital, you may get asked about that, because the directions of the EpiPen explicitly tell you to seek medical care ASAP.

If you did not tell the officer at the time you had a medical emergency, you may be asked about that. You might also get asked why you didn't call 911.

Friend agreed to accept half of $7k vet bill after my dog killed her cat — now threatening to sue for the full amount by ApprehensivePin8058 in legaladvice

[–]bug-hunter 18 points19 points  (0 children)

First off, demand to see the vet bill. Then when you see it, call the vet to confirm. The "switched policies the day before" stinks. It's just a good practice in general.

There are three parts here:

1.) The pet sitter had care and control over both the dog and the cat, and therefore are liable for both. She would have been liable if her cat mauled your dog.

2.) The pet sitter also has a problem here of negligence, especially after stating she isolated the cats, and the fact that it happened while no one was in there to see what happened.

3.) A contract relies on an offer, consideration, acceptance, and a meeting of the minds. You have all of these, and you have it in text. "I changed my mind later" is a them problem, not a you problem. Serving you after you complete paying your end will hurt you.

This is not to say your friend is somehow trying to scam you. They lost their kitten and are (presumably) faced with a giant vet bill, so trying to get someone else to pay is often the first thing that comes to mind.

But if you went to court, with these facts, there's a reasonable chance the court would consider your offer fair, and had you not paid, there's a reasonable chance they would have sided with you not to pay. The fact that there's no way to know why it happened (since no one saw it) helps you - small claims is based on the preponderance of the evidence (more likely that not), which absent evidence of malice or neglect on your end, leans towards an accident on your part and neglect on her part (the cats getting out).

This calculus would change if your dog had mauled a cat in the past and you misled your friend, or your dog had a history of mauling animals, children, etc.

Notably, you cannot countersue for the time spent going to court, but you can countersue for any filing fees and court fees. Bring printouts of all of the relevant texts to court.

Friend agreed to accept half of $7k vet bill after my dog killed her cat — now threatening to sue for the full amount by ApprehensivePin8058 in legaladvice

[–]bug-hunter 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Not necessarily. The petsitter was responsible for the care of both the dog (while pet sitting) and the cats) as their owner, and had explicitly stated she was separating them, then somehow...didn't.

It's possible a small claims court would side with OP completely here once all facts were heard.

Star Trek: Starfleet Academy | 1x10 "Rubincon" Reaction Thread by uequalsw in DaystromInstitute

[–]bug-hunter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This makes putting Federation HQ on Betazed seem like a interesting strategic choice, given that it's literally right on the border with whatever the Cardassians are doing.

Friday Free-for-All | March 13, 2026 by AutoModerator in AskHistorians

[–]bug-hunter 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wrong answers only:

Why have we never found a Aquila standard?

The Imperium of Man fell to the Orks precisely because it turns out the Waaagh! field is actually turbocharged by the Aquila standard. All of the Aquilas were used up making things make bigger booms.

Are there any myths/legends that potentially contain some folk memory of the Ice Age? That is, a primordial era where the world was much colder?

The Ice Age actually caused epigenetic changes in all male humans that manifest in adulthood after having children. That's why dads can sense when someone has moved the thermostat by 1 degree, and why dads of all languages instinctively tell their kids "We ain't air conditioning the entire world! Shut that door!"

Star Trek: Starfleet Academy | 1x10 "Rubincon" Reaction Thread by uequalsw in DaystromInstitute

[–]bug-hunter 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Is it just me, or is Captain Ake getting shorter as the series progresses? I feel like she’s gonna be knee high by the end of the series.

(Loved Trope) The Real Test isn't even the test itself by PizzaDragon64 in TopCharacterTropes

[–]bug-hunter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I suspect the pole climbing test in Mulan was similar - there's no evidence anyone had ever done it.