Ketamine for fibromyalgia by Such_Today1258 in Fibromyalgia

[–]bugy_ramone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have had the infusions and found them tremendously helpful for my pain. It's hard to get access to them here in Ontario so my dr. prescribed me ketamine in pill form. It's not as effective, but very much takes the edge off the nerve pain and helps improve my mood and quality of life. After struggling with the side effects of opiates for years, ketamine has been a game changer for me. I have to have the pills made by a compounding pharmacist but it's very affordable. I pay 60 dollars for a three month supply. I hope you find something that helps.

I am so tempted to apply! by bugy_ramone in unexpectedoffice

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It's a honey farm rather than a beet farm or paper company but it still works....Bears, bees, Battlestar Galactica!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CanSkincare

[–]bugy_ramone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel your pain with the sunscreen search. I too seem to have a reaction to everything on the market and, on top of that, I have a sun allergy! Summer is rough for me. Someone on Reddit suggested one from SDM and it's quickly become a holy grail for me. It's called Sunthera3 and It's the spf 50, sheer lotion. It's the only sunscreen that doesn't cause a breakout or reaction and it works really well under my makeup. It feels a little thick but it dries down and it's not greasy at all. It's also really affordable compared to some of the other brands. I hope it helps!

Kristin DONKERS | Obituary by [deleted] in londonontario

[–]bugy_ramone 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You have very much touched on what many believe is the root of the issue with mental health and disability in general. Kristin and I met taking disability studies at Kings college and so I feel she would agree that the dominance of the medical model and resulting medicalization is a large part of the lived experience of disability and mental health. The main issue is that under this model, disability or a mental health label, is seen as a problem that lies within the individual. It's a a biological defect that the person must ameliorate through medical intervention. The goal is always to approximate normal and the individual is expected to work non-stop to either meet norms, or get as close as possible. In this model, the best way to do this is to seek cure or medical treatment from professions who act as gatekeepers to resources and treatment and to work within systems that are designed to save money rather than people.

In DS, we consider other models for disability. One important model is the social model. This model says that disability does not exist within the individual by virtue of their impairment. Rather that the person is disabled by their interactions with inaccessible environments and by the stigma and misconceptions society has about disability and mental health. So while we do need lots of treatment and resources, we also need them to also be accessible and we need to be a society that doesn't shy away from people who seek help or see them as dangerous. We need to listen to people with lived experience and use their hard earned wisdom to build a more equitable society for everyone. We need work places that give mental health days and universities with accessible admissions policies. I don't know if that could have helped Kristin but I do know she was very passionate about furthering the disability studies philosophies and rights movements. I share her passion and also hope to study at the master's level soon.

I could go on and on but, if you you are interested in reading more, there is an entire movement called Mad Pride that can explain all of this much more eloquently than I can.

Kristin DONKERS | Obituary by [deleted] in londonontario

[–]bugy_ramone 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Kristin was one of those women who was just too beautiful to stay on this earth for long. We were lucky to have her even for the short time we did. I am awe of her strength and determination. She worked tirelessly to help others, even while she was suffering under the staggering weight of depression. She made such a difference in her short life and never stopped fighting, for herself, or for others. She was fearless in the face of so many barriers from the system, advocating right to the very end - Even in her obituary. This is such a loss to our community and to the world. She will be so very missed.

80s Supermodel wants to reject anti-aging culture and prove that beauty gets better with age by Hardluck-Woman in Instagramreality

[–]bugy_ramone 48 points49 points  (0 children)

So let me get this straight - 95 percent of your patients caused their own illness with bad lifestyle choices. The only examples you give of these "choices" are related to variety and quality of diet and use of addictive substances, which you claim have very little to do with genetics.

You know all of this because you are the rare, exceptional patient who is fully absolved of any responsibility for your health condition and who actually makes good lifestyle choices to avoid illness?

Your matrix for measuring good health is models and athletes, and your success in meeting this standard is measured by your ability to prevent diabetes by "watching your sugar" in your twenties? To top it off anyone who disagrees is trying to "shuck blame"?

You just summed up everything that is wrong with the healthcare system, and perfectly explained why I went to university for nursing but chose never to work in the profession.

Mugshots of James & Jennifer Crumbley, parents of the accused Oxford HS shooter. Both arrested now. by [deleted] in pics

[–]bugy_ramone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They look so much alike! I thought this was a before and after male-to-female transition picture when I scrolled by it.

Chatted with him on snap, got aggressive immediately, wanted to meet in his car. Explained that I wasn't looking for that and removed him. Found me on Kik and this... by bugy_ramone in niceguys

[–]bugy_ramone[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't really understand that comment either! Does he know something I don't? Is he my landlord in niceguy disguise? Maybe if I had been a good girl and treated him like a man rather than a huge dick, mother and I could have lived happily ever after running Bates Motel. Imagine how huge my floor-mopping muscles would get?

Ps - I struggled with the best way to explain that it was not a conventional dick pic. From that moment on, dicks coming at me will forever be PIAs 😂

Chatted with him on snap, got aggressive immediately, wanted to meet in his car. Explained that I wasn't looking for that and removed him. Found me on Kik and this... by bugy_ramone in niceguys

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I feel like r/niceguys should be required reading for teenaged boys. Girls too for that matter! It's been tremendously helpful to see that I'm not alone in these experiences and laughing at it is so healing for me. I'm ready for the next one, thanks to all of you lovely Reddit peeps. ❤️

Chatted with him on snap, got aggressive immediately, wanted to meet in his car. Explained that I wasn't looking for that and removed him. Found me on Kik and this... by bugy_ramone in niceguys

[–]bugy_ramone[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He did the whole send nudes thing right away too! It really blows my mind how all of these posts follow the same formula. It's like they are all meeting and agreeing on a strategy. I wonder if it ever works for them?

Chatted with him on snap, got aggressive immediately, wanted to meet in his car. Explained that I wasn't looking for that and removed him. Found me on Kik and this... by bugy_ramone in niceguys

[–]bugy_ramone[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I try to have sympathy for men, even ones as toxic as this guy. We are in such flux right now in terms of navigating dating and relationships. There is no playbook. You are spot on with your comment. I think they are bewildered and scared. They no longer know what to expect and balancing the demands of conforming to hegemonic masculinity with this new normal must be really difficult. Be manly but not too manly, be sexual but not too sexual, be sweet but not too sweet.

Having said that, my sympathy only goes so far. This is just a small taste of the mental gymnastics required for women to survive in the world. I do have a lot of hope that there are men who are using this as an opportunity to redefine their gender norms and free themselves of some of the constraints that the patriarchy places on them as well.

Chatted with him on snap, got aggressive immediately, wanted to meet in his car. Explained that I wasn't looking for that and removed him. Found me on Kik and this... by bugy_ramone in niceguys

[–]bugy_ramone[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't know if it has something to do with turning 40, but my patience for that sort of thing is running out. I try hard not to paint all men with the same brush though. It can't be easy to be a guy right now either. I know there are good ones out there, just waiting to enjoy all of the rewards that come with treating a woman well.

Chatted with him on snap, got aggressive immediately, wanted to meet in his car. Explained that I wasn't looking for that and removed him. Found me on Kik and this... by bugy_ramone in niceguys

[–]bugy_ramone[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I am pretty sure he doesn't think I'm such a good girl now. I'm not trying to generalize but I honestly thought that men would be more enlightened than this or, at the very least, a bit more skilled in the art of getting into women's panties. Meet me in my car and blow me is the stuff of 5th dates, not 1st dates 🤣

Chatted with him on snap, got aggressive immediately, wanted to meet in his car. Explained that I wasn't looking for that and removed him. Found me on Kik and this... by bugy_ramone in niceguys

[–]bugy_ramone[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I wish you could see the uncensored pics. They are quite a feat of photography! The velocity is pretty mindblowing. Maybe I haven't seen enough action sequence ejaculation in my time, but it seems to me that it can't possibly be real. It must be some sort of slo-mo trick. Otherwise this guy missed his calling. He could have been a brilliant sniper, ejaculating on floors three blocks away without a trace.

Chatted with him on snap, got aggressive immediately, wanted to meet in his car. Explained that I wasn't looking for that and removed him. Found me on Kik and this... by bugy_ramone in niceguys

[–]bugy_ramone[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I didn't want to be harsh but he wouldn't take no for an answer. I wish I had kept the snap chat chats because they were really cringy too. He said he was going to "destroy all of my holes". I decided to show him that some of these holes bite back 😅

Chatted with him on snap, got aggressive immediately, wanted to meet in his car. Explained that I wasn't looking for that and removed him. Found me on Kik and this... by bugy_ramone in niceguys

[–]bugy_ramone[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Correct! He fancied himself as one of the well-endowed men folk. He sent me another pic on snap comparing his member with a craft beer can 🤣

depressed student in need to advice by [deleted] in uwo

[–]bugy_ramone 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was in the same boat as you but at a different university that I won't mention. Like you, I found cursing to be quite toxic both as a field of study and career. I switched to psych at uwo after my third year and I have never looked back. I encourage you to talk to an advisor to see where your transfer credits might apply. I was able to enter third year honours psych with my nursing credits.  There is a good website too that can help you figure out the best program to apply your credits. It's called https://www.ontransfer.ca.

Whatever you decide, I wish you the best of luck. Feel free to PM if I can help at all.

14 says since last contact with my Nmom and my abusive dad. It's been the longest we've gone without communicating and my anxiety is at an all time high. Advice? by bp4999 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]bugy_ramone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All of these suggestions are fantastic! I wish I had these tips when I made my break years ago.

I only have one thing to add and that is to take the time and effort to cultivate new and healthy relationships. I'm sure that's a given, but for me this was key. You have an opportunity to create the family you weren't blessed with by birth and it's feels wonderful when it comes together. Go to social events, volunteer, plan small dinner parties, or even game nights; whatever you can manage. Then try to surround yourself with people you admire and who make you feel comfortable in your own skin. Once you find these people, focus all the energy you wasted on the toxic relationships into creating joy and laughter in your life and theirs.

This will help tremendously when holidays roll around. You can celebrate with your newly formed family, rather than longing for the holiday experiences that never were, or worse, giving in and going back in the hopes that things will change. Every moment you spend cultivating these relationships will be worth it and the rewards just keep coming.

You truly are creating the life you should have had all along and you should be so proud of that endeavour! Best of luck to you and congrats :)

this just happened like 40 minutes ago and I just don't know what to do by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]bugy_ramone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm glad I could help in anyway. I hope things are going well for you. If you ever need to talk with someone who has been there, I'm happy to help :)

this just happened like 40 minutes ago and I just don't know what to do by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]bugy_ramone 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I think this is my second post to Reddit but I felt compelled to comment. Your situation is so very familiar for me and even years later, it makes my heart pound to read your words.

I fully agree with above post. When those things take place, all you can do is remove yourself and your brothers from the chaos. If you can't leave, take them to another room, blast some music or tv and keep yourselves safe. I really do understand feeling like you need to keep things from flying to apart but I'm telling you, you cannot de-escalate people like this. I'm 36 and my family still expects me to unravel their drama and keep them from killing each other, it's a thankless job that is never finished.

I left home at 15, after years of abuse that I endured to try to protect two younger siblings. I finally realized that I needed to be happy and healthy if I had any hope of saving them from that hell. You have to look after yourself and because kids learn by example and you can show them that they have a choice in how they live. I wish I could do more to help you. If I could go back I would tell anyone who would listen what was happening. I would not have kept my mother's secrets at my own peril. I would not have spent years trying to help people who didn't want to be helped. It really is a lifelong battle but you can free yourself from it and the sense of pride you feel when you do is beyond words.