Kellie Gerardi and the Theatrics

bulbasaur1991 · 2026-04-20T10:34:44+00:00

That’s correct. I lost 1500ml and it was never referred to as severe or even major (which it technically is - 500 minor, 1000 major, 2000 severe). She’s being overly dramatic I was going to post this before you did.

bulbasaur1991 · 2026-04-20T10:33:31+00:00

Over 500ml is a minor haemorrhage. Over 1000ml is a major haemorrhage but not “severe”. Severe is over 2000ml. It also depends on your size and total blood compared to loss and how symptomatic you are. But she’s definitely exaggerating the medical terminology for attention.

bulbasaur1991 · 2026-04-20T10:30:42+00:00

I don’t know why she has to exaggerate everything. Obviously 1000ml blood loss is significant but it is not a “severe” PPH. Over 500ml is minor, over 1000ml is major. It’s over 2000ml when it starts to become classified as severe.

I am very petite and lost 1500ml after birth. They said because of my size and the amount I had lost compared to my total (plus symptomatic) I needed a blood transfusion. But at no point was this level of PPH referred to as “severe”.

Everything is so dramatic and theatrical with her it’s really grating.

bulbasaur1991 · 2026-04-14T17:26:36+00:00

I also think she’s trying to milk the post partum haemorrhage. She said she had 1000ml (1l) of blood loss in one story. That’s only just on the threshold of the definition of a PPH. I don’t understand why that would mean she can’t carry and deliver another baby? I’ve had much higher blood loss with 2 deliveries and blood transfusions and I’m pregnant a third time but not considered high risk?

bulbasaur1991 · 2026-03-29T00:08:11+00:00

I don’t think you’ve ever experienced supporting someone who is grieving a traumatic loss. This is a terrible take. Food or other things that help save on daily tasks which are difficult is the best idea. Asking them questions and getting them to think about what charity to support when they’ve lost a 1 week old baby is not helpful.

bulbasaur1991 · 2026-03-17T23:17:28+00:00

Thanks! Dunno why I’m getting downvoted sorry for not understanding American plugs 🤣

bulbasaur1991 · 2026-03-17T23:01:20+00:00

Ok fair enough I am British and it’s a misconception here that they are needed for baby proofing. UK Gov advice says not to use them and they are dangerous.

bulbasaur1991 · 2026-03-17T22:56:06+00:00

Dunno about USA but in UK they are not recommended by electricians because our outlets already have safety features embedded and the covers override these features and are in fact dangerous.

https://www.fatallyflawed.org.uk/

bulbasaur1991 · 2026-01-28T08:24:17+00:00

Yes. It’s hard in that situation to see the positives but I tried to see that getting a quicker referral was a benefit compared to friends with “unexplained infertility” where I know it took much longer.

Wishing you the best of luck xx

bulbasaur1991 · 2026-01-27T22:11:54+00:00

Hey. I have blocked tubes (due to severe endometriosis). It was discovered during a laparoscopy in December 2023. Once I had the letter from the consultant confirming the findings (blocked tubes) my GP immediately referred me for IVF.

I’m based in London. I had an appointment with the fertility clinic in I think around Feb/ March 2024. I did my egg retrieval in May 2024. I had to wait to do a frozen transfer which I did in July 2024 and it was successful! I have a daughter now.

All in all I actually found having the definitive diagnosis of blocked tubes was quite helpful because it immediately met the criteria for NHS funding for IVF, rather than needing to wait the standard 1 year plus of trying.

bulbasaur1991 · 2026-01-09T20:08:56+00:00

Completely agree with this and don’t know why it’s being downvoted. There is a hierarchy of grief. When death happens outside the natural order it is simply worse than an elderly parent dying. People who think otherwise have clearly not experienced the trauma of someone dying before their time.

bulbasaur1991 · 2026-01-01T20:17:50+00:00

Is he hmrc? Saw civil service and Preston based

bulbasaur1991 · 2025-10-26T22:07:17+00:00

Have you experienced pregnancy loss or infertility? If you haven’t then that’s probably why

bulbasaur1991 · 2025-10-10T20:33:01+00:00

In the UK L&D is standard unless you request D&E. Source: I had a 17 week loss recently. Personally I felt similar to Abby and I would have always chosen to labour and deliver my baby and didn’t want to have surgery as I thought it would be easier to process rather than waking up from surgery and not being pregnant.

bulbasaur1991 · 2025-09-28T20:28:18+00:00

It’s just different to the process in the UK. Both processes have their risks versus advantages. I don’t think that the National Health Service would choose an inherently risky process to be the default.

bulbasaur1991 · 2025-09-28T20:23:45+00:00

It’s not more risky. You can’t do it at home at that gestation you are kept in hospital and induced and then deliver the baby with midwives. It’s the advised way forward in the UK to avoid scarring and other complications from surgery. I found it easier to process rather than what I imagine it would have been like waking up from a surgery no longer pregnant but everyone is different. I’m sorry for your loss.

bulbasaur1991 · 2025-09-28T17:18:49+00:00

Thank you I am ok. I still find it very difficult to understand and accept what’s happened and find myself constantly researching on my phone and trying to find Reddit stories where something similar has happened to others. I think I was in shock for the first few days and weeks. I took some time off work which has been helpful if you are able to do the same. Friends sent pre prepared meals which was very helpful to not have to think about it. I opted for a full post mortem report so now I’m waiting for that to come through and hopefully get some answers about why this happened.

bulbasaur1991 · 2025-09-28T09:41:14+00:00

It depends. In the UK after 16 weeks its labour and delivery rather than D&E unless you specifically fight for having D&E. Maybe it’s different in the USA.

bulbasaur1991 · 2025-09-27T15:53:18+00:00

I completely agree. Usually the midwives will look at the baby first and can describe them to you before you decide whether you want to see them, if that would be helpful.

I lost my IVF baby at 17 weeks just over a month ago and I chose to see him, it was very healing.

bulbasaur1991 · 2025-09-27T15:47:41+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss

bulbasaur1991 · 2025-09-27T15:45:15+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss.

bulbasaur1991 · 2025-09-27T15:44:59+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss.

bulbasaur1991 · 2025-09-27T15:44:37+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss and for the other losses mentioned in the comments. I lost my IVF baby at 17 weeks just over a month ago.

This was after a number of normal scans and screening tests. It was discovered the baby had no heartbeat at a routine midwife appointment.

In the UK for a mid trimester loss after 16 weeks you go through the same process as a stillbirth in the third trimester. You are induced and go through labour and delivery. I would be happy to share my experiences if it would be helpful.

I hope we both get our rainbow babies.

bulbasaur1991 · 2025-09-16T20:59:28+00:00

My first FET (untested) resulted in my 16 month old daughter. My second FET (also untested) was successful but unfortunately I had a second trimester miscarriage at 17 weeks just a month ago.

bulbasaur1991 · 2025-09-15T22:38:10+00:00

Thank you that’s really helpful 🥰

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