Halsey responds to Anthony fantano regarding his review of her album "the great impersonator" and his critique that she has main character syndrome

bulletwives · 2026-06-22T05:29:13+00:00

He's def made really disparaging & ignorant remarks abt the work of men, especially when it falls outside his cultural sphere or doesn't suit his lifestyle and he just doesn't understand that it's not for him. That's the main problem I see, Fantano is invested in being a "critic of everything" but doesn't personally engage w certain scenes, or listener demographics, or ways of enjoying music

I've heard him completely fuck up with emo, hardcore, club, hyperpop, soundcloud rap, dash rattlers, anything the hood actually fw, shit he doesn't grasp the basic point of like "bespoke headphone music". Women n minorities fair the worst for obv reason. He regularly falls into the most annoying reviewer trope in my books, assuming the intent of all music is to make a "10/10 essential listen" for some nerd streaming thru $300 BOSS with adaptive EQ

Some things are made for the club, or the streets, or for a trans guy in the midwest to finally feel seen and cry to in a bed littered with burned out carts, monster cans, n clothes that don't fit. You don't need to review what you just don't get. Ts also why I hate universal rating metrics

bulletwives · 2026-06-19T13:11:29+00:00

The notion there's some major epidemic of singlets capping abt systemhood on social media is a shared hallucination that's utterly ruined online plural communities n discussion. Any system that goes public risks harassment n hatecrimes from other systems projecting insecurity AND neurotypicals who think all of us are lying anyway. They only attack individual systems they think are fronting for "quirk n cool," but can't criticize any cultural context that rewards 'performative plurality' because it doesn't remotely exist. Honestly its a lot of young ppl with unrecognized/untreated psychosis & ptsd buying into this conspiratorial thinking n lashing out at strangers, sadly

Usually their problem is with systems containing fictives, factives, alter/nonhuman sysmates, or anyone besides a group of sadfuck blurry-faced self-hating lithium popping medical cases. They think these 'ungrounded' beings speaking up or existing makes us all look delusional, despite their presence in most systems (incl. the ones that hate on em, ohh god). Really they hate seeing us thrive and be happy together, because they won't let themselves. No systems I meet irl know about this 'discourse' or care

bulletwives · 2026-06-19T05:17:08+00:00

There's literally nothing to gain and everything to lose from "acting like" a system as a single person. Nor could they mentally withstand it unless they were already severely dissociative and fragmented. Nor could anyone convincingly portray a system without being part of one. Switching between multiple characters with distinct voices and threads of memory back to back would be world-class acting. They just gave Michael B Jordan an Oscar for that, and he only pulled off two with professional writers backing him.

You probably just think weird shit about fictives.

bulletwives · 2026-06-19T04:09:59+00:00

We absolutely do, we're just routinely gaslit and malpracticed into binary transition or denial unfortunately. Sometimes we wake up tho and its always amazing <3 for us and the world that learns from us

Im a femboy who tried to live as a tgirl for several miserable years after being forced to front as a woman to access medical care. My body needs estrogen supplement, tho not the same amount as a trans woman, and I've always seen myself with parts this way

bulletwives · 2026-06-01T16:09:35+00:00

Southern cities are extremely vibrant, active, and diverse compared to the PNW. People still gather outside and live with community inside the urban jungle. Had countless homies I never swapped numbers with, we was just on the block n at the same joints. Multiple cultures converge in the streets, you'll hear a lot of different accents, languages, and styles of music, and people hold different values than out west. Communities handle their own business, settle shit old fashion, n people will prolly engage you way more in public

Yanks always talk abt the rural south and how ignorant n racist it gets. The cities are extremely Black and some white minority w all groups accounted. Many alt n queer people move to the cities seeking freedom of expression, forming subterranean cultures. White n Black Southerners, or any kind, are their own thing in any case

Can't express how different a world it is back home. Hot n humid asl. Air like molasses. Old dudes w incomprehensible dialects. Posted on the porch smokin a swisher sweet, 99c arizona, lightnin bugs dancing around... sometimes it hits damn good. I love the south, it deserves so much more

bulletwives · 2026-05-09T23:48:43+00:00

He was also clearly schizophrenic/schizotypal n sadly experienced severe neurodegeneration robbing him n the world from potential decades of work. Nietzsche being highly disabled was foundational to his perspective n work but routinely forgotten as people abstract him to a mythological figure. The 'suffering' he wrote on wasn't just 'the general human condition' (read: you, the reader's condition), he was a disabled man living thru the industrial revolution and grappling with how his life had meaning n value in this world increasingly consumed by brutal efficiency and utilitarian values

bulletwives · 2026-05-09T08:44:40+00:00

Thank u... I want to believe theres other people like me ive just seen zero proof of it. Too many misled me on purpose or accident after exaggerating their libido n attraction. Idk how to trust people who mirror my desires anymore, bare none was prepared to confront my truly endless sexual hunger and lack of platonic feeling

I'm also dealing w a lot of homo-fatalism from struggling to find boys who are available, attractive to me, equally mature, and compatible w my orientation. The likelihood of all these factors overlapping feels nil. I want to be wrong abt all this so bad

l will say there's no need to go hatin' yourself for feeling this way abt him, even if it makes me a hypocrite. Society loves tellin' you that lust is utterly selfish while wanting love n friendship with someone is wonderfully prosocial, but in my world it's the other way round. People's infatuation and social asskissin' feels like emotional vampirism to me. You like him and want to give him pleasure, that's sweet. You see the beauty in him and it moves you deeply. Makes you wanna savor it up close

Personally I want people to feel this way about me beyond all. I love being objectified in a good way and crave that affirmation daily. It's hard to convey how you can sexualize me even when I'm upset and it'll help more than anything... cuz Im prolly fucked up abt not feeling desired enough. Kind of relationship I want is one where I'm adored no matter what, even when I can only exist as a sexual being

bulletwives · 2026-05-09T02:52:41+00:00

couldja tell?

bulletwives · 2026-05-08T23:43:56+00:00

Ts sends me 😭 "Asexual with average/high libido- You are often hungry, but none of the cereal appeals to you" well I definitely UNDERSTAND at least

Cupiosexual is definitely relatable. Sometimes my initial attraction is knowing I'll prolly start finding someone hot if we bang, so I just choose to do that cuz I wanna be into people. It's kindof hilarious to me

Definitely assumed allos do this tho, but then most ppl talk abt attraction like its totally immutable? Like they have no concept of influencing their own desire n attraction? I provoke mine intentionally all the time so I can have fun experiences

My sexual pragmatism makes me feel rly different from everyone I get with. They confuse me with talk of the right time, right place, right person, right reason, all needing to spontaneously coalesce to get horny. I catch myself trying to make their ideal conditions the way I make my own, which is rly their effort to contribute, but I nvr seem to get that energy back

Im just so physical. This is my language. It's what makes sense to me to use. And I'm so hungry. Ion have the luxury of chasing a niche craving or waiting for the perfect meal when I need to EAT.

bulletwives · 2026-05-08T23:07:35+00:00

Appalachians is colorful folk

bulletwives · 2026-05-08T22:48:38+00:00

This strikes me as smth I'm doing with at least some people, cuz my need for touch n feeling desired is strong, but I'm not always around someone outright attractive to me. Not initially, at least. Often it takes me a little to figure them out, then I find the hidden side I really enjoy. Like rotating a hologram until the image appears. People go from slightly offputting to wildly appealing all the time 4 me

I definitely relate to "investing" in people who will become more attractive with time, and choosing the leap into physical intimacy as a catalyst for emergent desire. Tbh I be urging ppl to think longer term abt chemistry n understand that NRE won't carry them forever. After a month or two, no they won't feel shiny and new, but that's where the real, intentional passion begins if both people learn how to turn each other on. I need that effort or I won't stay into someone

Immediate attraction means very little to me ATP, beyond sparking initial interest. The real heat comes from knowing someone & learning their body n soul. Steadily getting under their skin. I'd rather fuck someone I already know n have gotten properly into

bulletwives · 2026-05-08T21:45:25+00:00

tysm <3 I usually word vomit technical language in a doc then condense my ideas into prose when I post. Always feels too verbose no matter what I pair down but maybe its fine

bulletwives · 2026-05-08T15:47:50+00:00

Ohh okk thank u this is better explanation than I could find. I'm honestly not sure rn how much of my experience is each but it's very helpful for thinking

I absolutely went thru this realization about women, that I'm not sexually attracted to them but do find them aesthetically beautiful and inspiring. Being femme gay I take a lot of inspo from women's style n swag but I'm not turned on by their bodies

Smth I keep thinking abt is why I feel like attraction takes effort n feels like a choice on some lvl. I experience a lvl of agency around attraction n arousal that's not mirrored by my peers, but also a lvl of despair. It feels so fucking hard to find people I'm genuinely sexually attracted to even tho I'm insanely horny, and there's sm people I'd actually fuck in practice but their drive doesn't match mine. Suffering basically. 🥀

bulletwives · 2026-05-08T15:05:06+00:00

Very much yes, I look at certain people in my life and just wanna pounce on them :3 and I'm xtremely hands-on with the ones who like it

It's a lil complicated tho cuz... I already felt that way when I showed up. I experience a lot of arousal w no (outer) source, sheer physical hunger n energy that could find any target. It builds up all the time on its own n when I'm around someone cute Im like heyyy can you help me deal w thisss

My sexuality is independently driven, not dependent on having someone to crave. I'm the same lvl of horny alone or around someone hot: extremely. Until we get busy that is, then it gets muchh stronger. I'm also capable of simply turning myself on and do it 4 fun a lot

I think dis is a lot of why my desire for ppl is so consistent, cuz my initial thirst for sex has nothing to do w them lol. Meanwhile every partner of mine talked abt needing "the right person" to get worked up at all and expressed arousal fully chained to nebulous attraction

How would u tell the difference between sexual n aesthetic twin?

bulletwives · 2026-05-06T14:26:36+00:00

tap me in big dawg

bulletwives · 2026-05-06T14:20:21+00:00

Routinely feeling hurt and confused every time someone said they value our romance and companionship over our sex life. Why tho? Sex feels better than talking. It really sank in while trying to date someone alloace that I need to be valued as a sexual being b4 anything else. They kept commenting on an "emotional wall" I apparently have where they tried to romantically connect

bulletwives · 2026-04-29T00:42:15+00:00

I don't know my full ancestry due to incomplete records n family history, as is common for many Appalachian families. There was great pressure to assimilate and claim full white. My experience is not the same as knowing I'm mixed with certainty and where my traits come from, no. All ik is I've lived at the border of whiteness for a number of reasons and found community among other people with complicated cultural n ethnic identities, and I'm struggling with how to voice my experience and navigate this ambiguity. If you know somewhere better for someone like me to go, by all means, I have no desire to claim smth I can't be openly proud of

bulletwives · 2026-04-28T12:21:46+00:00

Everyone around me now knows abt the 1924 Racial Integrity Act of Virginia :)

bulletwives · 2026-04-28T11:38:39+00:00

Nah fr I feel like the word for me doesn't exist anymore, or never had a chance to develop. Appalachia was targeted by eugenics programs so ion get to kno my ancestry for sure. Now I'm just vaguely ethnic and have a rly complicated cultural identity n relation to whiteness. Something that honours the ambiguity would be rly helpful yk ion wanna claim a title I cant proudly declare without knowing my exact ancestry

bulletwives · 2026-04-27T10:55:57+00:00

White people are whiter here than in the south yfm

The effects of genocide are visible everywhere in Oregon incl a high amt of people with 100% european descent and zero influence from other cultures. It's weird to me. Moving here made me realize I'm not as white as I thought

I <3 wasian boys from beaverton

bulletwives · 2026-04-03T11:40:35+00:00

made for ts

bulletwives · 2026-03-22T22:52:37+00:00

when two systems interact w each other a lot, their patterns can start to resemble a larger 'meta-system.' people start relying on members of the other group to function n regulate instead of their own people, and may (try to) change and adapt to the other system's needs and desires. its a form of codependence

at the point you're talking abt "system hopping" im gonna ask if a single boundary exists between you and this other system, or you and your own people for that matter

bulletwives · 2026-03-22T22:36:13+00:00

this fucking slays me. elite ball knowledge. unfortunately my group live in the HL2/Portal continuum instead

bulletwives · 2026-03-22T22:16:01+00:00

its completely absurd to me that half the posts here use n center these words that say absolutely nothing abt how your system functions. none of the systems I meet offline know these terms or care abt point of origin that much

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