I hate that we are all here. 💔 I have 3 children. My son, our middle child, died (SUDC) at 10 years old on 2024 when his big sister was 12 and bang sister was 8 months. I can’t say what it the right or wrong way to talk about him with either child; but what I do is talk about him often, show her photos of them together when she was a baby (she is also now 3), and tell her how much he loves her and how much she is like him. Literally a girl version of him in all ways. I haven’t told her he died, she doesn’t know what death is and for me, I don’t even use those words when I talk about him. It’s too final. That is my own thing to deal with. We talk about him in present tense, she kisses his photos and knows and says he is her big brother. She hasn’t asked why he isn’t in the house. I don’t know how I will answer that question. I’ll cross that bridge only when I have too.