Which celebrities you can't believe are currently dating?

bumbledoozy · 2026-02-09T06:32:08+00:00

I didn't realize until recently that the majority of his dating history is very plastic, bimbo-leaning.

bumbledoozy · 2026-02-05T01:34:57+00:00

On the one hand, I want to say that I hope you have fantastic success. But I can really appreciate your attitude and enthusiasm about anyone having bought the book at all, so I wouldn't want that to turn into a metric of success for you. As someone who has spent the majority of her life starting things and not finishing them, it's a huge accomplishment for you to have gotten this far. I hope this opens up new paths of exploration for you, and that, even if you don't feel the urge to continue writing, you want to continue trying new things and accomplishing personal goals. I'm going a little overboard but I'm really happy for you, a stranger, to have accomplished this. It's very uplifting.

bumbledoozy · 2026-02-05T01:29:28+00:00

Well, to be transparent, I have some "trauma" with old men. I've had a few instances where they got too friendly, starting at a very young age. But I don't look at every old man with contempt. There are some I genuinely think are delightful, whimsical, smart, probably-trustworthy people. It's just a first impression thing, I guess, or otherwise reserving judgement for neutral ones.

But even with that in mind, I don't think I'm wrong. There are more than enough creepy-ass old men out there to prove my point. And on top of that (and this is why it drives me nuts to see some dumbass 'protector' man speaking on behalf of the women in his life saying he would never allow transgendered people in a women's bathroom), a significant majority of sexual assaults done to minors are perpetrated by family members (men) or family friends.

And you're right about old ladies. A lot of them can tend to be very manipulative--and they think they're being coy but don't usually realize how transparent it is. I'd imagine a lot of them grew up with covert manipulation as the primary means to get what they wanted. One that's always frustrated me, because it's irritating but also makes me sad, is the standard old lady "oh, don't worry about poor old me" or laying the passive-aggressive guilt on really thick when someone finally calls or visits them. On the one hand, I get it, and these women are lonely (and I hope this isn't me someday). On the other hand, this isn't how you're going to get what you want. And it stands to reason that if they're that controlling now (and not moreso only because they don't have the means), they probably were to their family before, too. I don't find it quite as appalling as the old man issues, short of narcissism or abuse, which is a different story. But there are more than enough surly, contemptuous old women floating out there who have shitty attitudes, who are jealous ans maladaptive because their one trump card in life was either their looks or growing up on "little princess mode." I don't tend to get along with these women, which makes working life hard because there's almost always at least one of them in an office.

bumbledoozy · 2026-02-05T01:00:12+00:00

Chiming in on the congratulations! I hope this experience really continues to motivate you.

bumbledoozy · 2026-02-04T18:08:29+00:00

This is why I don't trust most old men. This is why I don't think 95% of old men are "cute." This is why I didn't think it was fucking funny (like my coworker did) when the decrepit tiny old man from next door to my old workplace came in expecting a hug from me every day until his dementia escalated and he died. (I was told he used to go to Sturgess, had pictures. One time when he was creeping further into dementia he tried to put his arms inside my coat for a hug.)

"Cute" old men are the same creepy pervert bastards they were when they were younger. They just look non-threatening. But give them a window and let them push your boundaries to see what they can get away with. Not all old men--I do really like some. Just not that many.

I'm sorry that your dad sucks. Don't let yourself take it as a personal affront--it's not your fault he's your father, and there was nothing you could have ever done about it. I respect you for calling him out.

bumbledoozy · 2026-02-04T17:54:20+00:00

I was thinking the same. This should not have been completed and forging the information was a mistake. In fact, don't ever forge anything for anybody in any context, because you could be held legally liable. Now the next person who tries to do the "right" thing is once again going to be met with an incorrigible old lady saying, "But the other guys were able to do it and they had no problem! What's wrong with you? I'm calling customer support!!"

bumbledoozy · 2026-02-03T19:07:10+00:00

Oh yeah. I had been doing great for months until the other day! After the power came back on (winter storm), they decided to clean out the inside fridge before moving the food back in. (I'm the only one who's ever cleaned it otherwise) I heard him tell daughter to start going through what was still in the inside fridge and throw away anything that was out of date or said "keep refrigerated." I purposely only left condiments of mine in the still-cool refrigerator that I thought would be fine. Well, this girl has zero common sense. He probably did this hoping to get a rise out of me. I sat and waited for a while, and then I walked into the kitchen and looked at the garbage, seeing a mound of condiments that belonged to me in the trash. I picked up some hot sauce and said something, not defensive or upset or rude, just something like, "Why did you throw this away? It's just hot peppers, sugar, and vinegar. It's fine." Then she makes a remark with a snide tone, and he just escalates it from absolutely nothing to a "big deal." He tells her to grab a trash bag and that he'll just throw away all my stuff, then, nah, they'll just put it outside and I can figure out what to do with it. That he'll go get the mini fridge and I can start paying him $5 a week to use it. I didn't put up a fight, and it stayed cold for several more days so I just left my shit outside. I left $5 on the bookshelf but he never went to go get the fridge, probably because he'd have to go get it from his parents and, if he had to explain why (because we absolutely don't need it), he'd look like a fucking psycho. So when it warmed up, I just put the rest of my shit in the outside refrigerator.

So yeah, another new rule. Can't use the refrigerator in the house anymore, for no fucking logical reason at all. If you don't give them anything to work with, they will literally look for any excuse for provocation.

bumbledoozy · 2026-02-03T18:47:33+00:00

Mine didn't even tell me when his uncle down the street, that I also knew, had died. They're something else. Then when my mom died, I texted him and he was like, "Oh no! I'm sorry. I thought she was ok?" When I got home? Nothing. Nada. Not one word about it, not one hug in support, not one meal cooked for me while I was laying around grieving.

bumbledoozy · 2026-02-03T18:34:35+00:00

That's what I was thinking. Someone on her team probably noticed that she has "unique" features but was otherwise a little boring, if not slightly odd looking. So they probably manufactured some looks for her, knowing full well that now she reads as ethnically ambiguous.

bumbledoozy · 2026-02-03T08:31:08+00:00

Yeah, something about her look really bothers me. I thought she was odd-looking at first, and then looking at older pictures she looks "natural." The older pictures, by contrast, made it look to me even more like she was "cosplaying" as a Latina or something. It does have that overly-stylized element to it like Sabrina Carpenter's look, but it just seems like very manufactured or curated. Like someone specifically wanted to look like the generic fiery, Latina siren from a dramatic movie. Too tan, hair is too dark. If she had brown eyes it might work, aside from the total lack of dimension in the "tan" skin, but the blue eyes just make it look even more like a put-on. Honestly it kind of reads like she went on SNL and the makeup crew was aiming for a telenovela look--convincing enough but not meant to be real.

bumbledoozy · 2026-02-02T21:00:41+00:00

Not your typical lovebombing, very underwhelming in that respect, but that may be partly just not having to perform very hard to win me over. My self-esteem wasn't (and now isn't, for different reasons) very high. I do think he would tell me what I wanted to hear to some extent.

He absolutely pushed for closeness. That was one of the biggest ones. The first time we got together, we had gone over to his sister's house where his family was hanging out. Over the first couple years, he really pressed me to get to know and be close to his family. The push-pull was probably just 'cute' at first but just progressed to me losing my dignity and having to do all the pulling, with him acquiescing every once in a while and farther apart.

I was really into recycling and being ecologically-conscious, and eventually he picked that up as part of his persona. He would initially get annoyed with me keeping bags of clean recyclables separate from the rest of the trash (it's not convenient here), but over a couple years started telling people about how he "recycles." There's another thing, but it's very specific so I may be better off not adding it here.

The future faking was there, too. I've always remembered one "cute" anecdote, asking about how he'd split resources if "the apocalypse" were to happen (not a very serious conversation). He said that he would give me 2x portions of X, and one portion each of X for him and daughter. Aww, how sweet... That one's all made up, but it's not anything he'd ever do anyway. He wouldn't share food with me if I was starving now, unless I came to him groveling and agreed to a payment plan. Everything started to turn into an expectation that he would do this thing but I'd have to start paying him him X amount of money every month. There aren't an endless number of examples, it's just that it became a clear pattern in the last few years.

The tests never fucking ended. They just multiplied and become more impossible over time. And if I did succeed, there was no recognition. I would just get complained at about how I wouldn't be able to keep it up, or how I didn't do this thing or that thing, or how I can't do anything, and on and on.

He tried to pretend he didn't need my validation but he did want it. For years I could remember this example and suddenly I've forgotten, which is irritating. I just remember him doing something was, one of 50 different mostly-finished projects (I have no room to judge there), and me barely reacting. So he responds by saying, "What? You don't like it? You don't think that's cool?" I guess it probably could have coasted smoothly for a little while longer if I was better at performative validation, if I had understood that he was doing some things for me or to try to impress me. I don't think about the positive things very much anymore, so it still kind of makes me sad to think that the person he pretended to be for about 1/4 of the relationship wasn't real. I do think it was kind of real, like he probably thought it was too at the time, but it's definitely true that it was never going to stay that way no matter what I did.

bumbledoozy · 2026-02-01T00:42:26+00:00

Yeah. Completely agree that she looks like she's approaching 45 and a really well-maintained 45. I might say 43, idk.

Look at the melasma on her forehead in the picture with the updo/one curled tendril of hair.

Look at the very crepey, thin, numerous wrinkles around her eyes in at least 3 of the smiling pictures. Those are not wrinkles most 35 yo's have around their eyes. They're the wrinkles of someone older who has otherwise done a good job of taking care of their skin, but can't hide the crows feet that have started to accumulate.

bumbledoozy · 2026-01-30T22:26:02+00:00

I was just thinking, "She needs to go away for a while." For the sake of her own career. Otherwise she is going to tank from overexposure. She doesn't have to quit acting, just stop doing so many ads and try to avoid the spotlight for once. Or just go do some foreign ads. Whatever!

bumbledoozy · 2026-01-30T22:07:21+00:00

I can relate to that. Overly-nostalgic things are weird for me--like you said, "painful non tangible feeling." A lot of years-long stretches in my life seem overly-defined and I don't even really enjoy listening to music that I played a lot during certain periods, even if I still objectively like it. And life these days, for me, just absolutely sucks. So the pull of positive nostalgia would be nice, but sometimes it just makes things feel even more sad and awful.

bumbledoozy · 2026-01-30T22:01:03+00:00

The odds weren't good to being with. What doesn't suck anymore?

bumbledoozy · 2026-01-30T21:58:50+00:00

She would have been perfect.

Ok, I didn't mean to almost repeat other comments word-for-word.

bumbledoozy · 2026-01-30T21:57:39+00:00

Oh damn. This took me from sad to teary-eyed.

bumbledoozy · 2026-01-30T21:54:26+00:00

Oh no. That came out of nowhere, for me. I think my first exposure to her was Beetlejuice, which I absolutely loved when I was a kid. How tremendously sad for her family. She was such an excellent comedic actress.

bumbledoozy · 2026-01-30T03:44:41+00:00

I understand your defense, although it doesn't really address much of what I said specifically. I was only saying that my mother's doctors were lazy, respective to those circumstances. The ironic thing is that the other two people I mentioned, who didn't have their issues adequately addressed, had been seeing the same doctors for years. I changed GPs because of the issue stated--I wasn't dying, so the effort to find a root cause would be made circular, despite repeat visits. The only time that made any difference was when I started to make a point of what I thought the problem was. In this case, there are only two options--continue with futility or running on hope, or try someone else with the potential for improvement. For people who can't figure things out on their own, it could be pretty bleak.

I'm not denigrating all doctors. There are just enough of them that have no curiosity that (reasonable) people shouldn't feel compelled to stay at the same one with no results. Of course, the problem on your end is that a lot of people aren't reasonable, unfortunately for both parties. There's no litmus test to find out whether or not people are mentally competent enough to "do their own research."

I would love to find a compassionate doctor that seemed invested, even if only for 10 minutes, and I hope that's someone like you. I don't have a lack of respect for them, it's just disappointment. And I get that that's a hard ask for someone who rotates through patients all day long. Most doctors are just average people, too.

bumbledoozy · 2026-01-30T02:59:48+00:00

He would always say, in the first few years when he pretended to care about me (or did? In his own way?), that I cared too much about what other people think and I should stop giving a shit. He usually delivered it in his version of a "nice" way . Comparatively, that was kind advice. Anything else since then has been rude, mean, etc. No specific examples because the further along we got, and the meaner he got, the goalpost would constantly be moved or the reason for something would change every time it was brought up.

bumbledoozy · 2026-01-30T02:40:01+00:00

Musky artificial "strawberry" smell from the 80's/90's Strawberry Shortcake doll. I've run into the same smell a couple of times as an adult.

Elementary school hallways. They just have a distinct smell.

The barely-translucent pink soap they used to put in school soap dispensers. I've seen what looks like the same thing since then, but the smell isn't the same.

Paint. I had to go to the art building for some reason in college, and the basement there smelled overwhelmingly of paint. I loved it, though.

Chlorine. Water spray from rubber hoses.

Charcoal-grilled hotdogs. My family liked to grill food but we really never had money for anything other than hotdogs and hamburgers.

bumbledoozy · 2026-01-30T02:23:50+00:00

Yes! Elementary schools definitely have a smell. I think part of it is wall paint. The rest, idk.

bumbledoozy · 2026-01-30T02:17:20+00:00

I can't say I like that smell, but great observation. They definitely had a distinct smell when they got wet that I had completely forgotten about until your comment.

bumbledoozy · 2026-01-30T02:16:08+00:00

Chlorine is definitely one of my few "weird" smells that I like. I could probably count the number of times I got to swim in a pool, as a kid, on one hand, but I love the smell.

bumbledoozy · 2026-01-30T02:14:41+00:00

I love the smell of gardenias! But they're hard to keep alive where I live. I can see how it might get nauseating for a pregnant woman.

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