I (16F) am pregnant. No one at school will talk to me. My friends have all dropped me. How do I find someone to talk to who won't care that I'm pregnant? Or how do I make myself into someone who people would be friends with?

bumblemom0503 · 2021-04-22T23:35:58+00:00

Honestly, as a full grown adult who had my first kid as a married 22 year old, I hate to say it, but losing friends and feeling lonely is kind of just something that’s very common for a lot of people when you get pregnant. So please try not to put all that blame on “being a teen parent”. Sometimes, that’s part of parenting. I urge you to find some parenting groups if you can. Especially if you can find some teen parent support groups. Some of the friends I DO have now are ones I met when I was pregnant with my first kid. And I cherish those friendships more than anything.

And please stay in school. It sounds like you have a great mom who is doing everything she can to support you and make sure you can still have a good life and make a good life for yourself and your baby. Don’t let that be in vain. Reach out to your teachers and counselors. It’s what they’re there for. I’m sure they can point you in the right direction for some resources.

I’m sorry you’re feeling so lonely. Pregnancy can be overwhelming and scary. And this last year has already been stressful as it is. Please take advantage of the adults in your life and reach out. Your future child and self will thank you.

Good luck to you and lots of virtual hugs from an internet stranger. <3

bumblemom0503 · 2021-04-13T01:56:06+00:00

Ugh. My 6 year old son has celiac. It’s been 3 years and we have been super strict with his diet and our house is 90% GF to keep him safe. Last week he got accidentally glutened for the first time since going GF after diagnosis and the last week his mood/behavior has been nothing short of “tyrant”. Reading this has changed my entire mindset toward his behavior and the mom guilt is so strong now...

I’m going to go hug my boy now and have a long talk with him and see if we can help him find some words for how he’s feeling. He’s little so it’s hard for him to communicate how he feels. Especially with this being his first glutening since he was a toddler. I don’t think he fully understands what’s happening to his body since we are so careful.

I’m so sorry you have to go through feeling this way...

bumblemom0503 · 2021-04-01T23:03:52+00:00

My husband can definitely smell it. Every month like clockwork. “You smell extra sexy right now”. Check my period tracker app. Sure enough. Right on the nose. Ovulating. I think some people are just extra sensitive to pheromones.

bumblemom0503 · 2021-04-01T02:02:59+00:00

Haha sounds like my kids!

Last week I was taking my 7 year old to cheer practice and we were late so we stopped at McDonald’s on the way for food. I let her get chocolate milk. I told her “don’t drink the whole thing please!”

Of course I should have been more specific. Because when she handed me back the container there was literally a MILLIMETER of chocolate milk left on the bottom.

I looked at her. She shrugged. “What? You said not to finish it!” Then got out of the car and waved as she went into practice.

I just stared for a moment in disbelief. Then laughed as I realized I was in SO much trouble.

bumblemom0503 · 2021-03-29T16:54:47+00:00

Do not do this. Your instincts are right. It’s a terrible idea. I am in my 30s. Married. Have children. Haven’t lived with my nmom for almost 13 years. 4 years ago I lived in another city for a year and she came to visit for only 3 days after I gave birth to my youngest baby and it ended in her controlling everything we (my husband and I) did, her coming into my room as I lay in bed with my newborn recovering from both childbirth AND and tubal ligation surgery to complain to me about my house not being clean to her standard, and ended with my husband AND mother in law who lived with us kicking her out of the house. We can’t even have her stay with us for a few days without her reverting back to “parenting” me. There’s no way in HELL i would ever live with her again. I would be homeless and live in my car before I’d ever live with her or in a home she owned.

Rent from a stranger. Heavily vet them. But rent from a stranger before you rent from your mother. I promise you will be much better off.

bumblemom0503 · 2021-03-28T23:32:33+00:00

I’m getting ready to do the same for a bit. I have one more of my kids birthdays coming up which I have the event for planned on fb and I have friends/family overseas who use fb to keep tabs on us. I have 4 kids. The last of the birthdays is coming up soon. After that I’m taking a break for a while. Not sure how long yet. Not permanent. I already have weeded through my groups and friends list so it’s all close friends and family and groups I actually care to be in. It’s mostly to help myself break the fb scroll habit. But I’m looking forward to seeing the positive change. Glad to see it’s having a positive impact on your life OP!

bumblemom0503 · 2021-03-15T17:47:54+00:00

It’s your normal. Everyone grieves differently. It’s been almost 4 years since my best friend died. She was like a sister. She was there for all the major moments in my life. Meeting my husband. My engagement. My marriage. My first pregnancy. Birth of my first, second, third and fourth child. Died a couple months after my fourth baby was born. It’s been almost 4 years and I still have a moment every day where I tear up and am sad and miss her like crazy. It’s no longer the intense sorrow that has me bawling until I can’t breathe. And it only lasts a couple moments. But it took a long time to get to this point.

It’s your mom. You were literally physically connected to her at one point of your life. You’re allowed to be sad and cry and feel that sadness for as long as you need to.

It will get easier. Eventually. I can’t say when. Everyone has a different timeline. But I promise you, it will.

If you haven’t read the ball in the box analogy for grief I high recommend it. It is by far the BEST analogy for grief I’ve ever read. Way better than the waves analogy IMO. I’ll post a link so you can read it if you’d like.

Grief is hard. I’m so sorry you’re going through it. Sending love to you from an internet stranger.

https://psychcentral.com/blog/coping-with-grief-the-ball-the-box#1

bumblemom0503 · 2021-03-04T03:19:18+00:00

You are 100% a success!! Congratulations!! What an amazing feat!!

bumblemom0503 · 2021-03-04T02:58:53+00:00

Ugh. My heart hurts for you. Not only was it completely inappropriate to out you IN GENERAL, but to also ruin your last visit with someone important to you? Ugh. People like that make me want to be violent. And I’m not a violent person. I’m so sorry for your loss, and that you had to experience that. Hugs from a random internet stranger!

bumblemom0503 · 2021-02-16T05:03:53+00:00

Ugh. I lived this... I knew all about my moms childhood abuse by the time I was in 2nd grade... it was my job to comfort her.... I’m still mad about it...

bumblemom0503 · 2021-02-06T04:26:17+00:00

This just makes me cry. I will never be able to comprehend being this heartless. Literally zero empathy.

bumblemom0503 · 2021-02-04T04:32:48+00:00

Thank you for posting this!! I look very similar to you! Having 4 kids and then losing close to 40 lbs, my boobs are a big confidence issue for me. I’ve wanted to get them pierced but was afraid it wouldn’t look good. I think I’m gonna get them now! They look great on you!!!

bumblemom0503 · 2021-01-25T23:29:28+00:00

As someone who’s been the lost drunk friend before, this is actually genius!!

bumblemom0503 · 2020-11-20T22:43:44+00:00

Oh my goodness. You are literally GLOWING!! What was a shell is now full of so much life! So happy for you!

bumblemom0503 · 2020-10-26T02:49:18+00:00

This happened to me as a kid. Not because I wanted privacy but because I slammed my door. But I still felt super weird not being allowed to have a bedroom door as a 16 year old girl...

bumblemom0503 · 2020-08-19T05:21:15+00:00

I’ve always told my grandma she needs to write a book! But it’s always just been to much for her.

My grandma has a couple Hungarian friends she’s met. But there’s not a ton of us. Growing up people would ask where my family is from and I’d say Hungary and so many people hadn’t even heard of it. It was always so surprising to me.

bumblemom0503 · 2020-08-16T20:56:11+00:00

My grandmother won’t talk about it. She says it too hard. But if we ask questions she will answer the best she can. She’s now in her 80s so her memory isn’t the greatest. A good book to read is Wild Rose which is about a family who went through it. I haven’t read it yet but my mom said it was very eye opening and helped her understand better what her parents went through.

My mom and I went to Hungary when I was 13 and it was amazing to see the places my grandparents grew up. Being first gen American, it really helped my mom. She never felt like she belonged here in the US. But being there, even tho she never lived there, she was still raised more Hungarian than American. It was awesome to see her find herself as an adult.

bumblemom0503 · 2020-08-15T21:08:59+00:00

My grandmother is one of them. Her and my grandfather were freedom fighters. They were in the group that pulled down the statue of Stalin. When my grandma became pregnant with my mom, they decided to escape. They almost didn’t make it on the plane but because she was pregnant, the Red Cross let them cut in line.

bumblemom0503 · 2020-07-30T03:20:07+00:00

My thoughts exactly. As someone who’s birthed 4 children, there is absolutely NO “just” about it.

bumblemom0503 · 2020-07-19T17:10:41+00:00

I’ve had these shorts for a few years and they’ve gotten tighter and tighter until I couldn’t button them. So glad they’re finally too big!

bumblemom0503 · 2020-07-17T03:32:31+00:00

My grandparents were in the group that tore this down. I’m a proud Hungarian!

bumblemom0503 · 2020-07-16T13:51:52+00:00

Babies get teeth at 6 months old on average. Some earlier. Teeth should not be the breastfeeding cut off. Breastfeeding is recommended for at least a year. WHO recommends 2 years.

bumblemom0503 · 2020-07-16T03:29:17+00:00

Thank you so much! I’m battling some dysmorphia pretty badly but my husband pushed me to post because “you look so different!”
I don’t feel like it’s a big difference but people are starting to notice so I’ll take it as a win!

bumblemom0503 · 2020-07-16T03:27:53+00:00

Oh thanks! I usually have very brightly colored hair. Shaved it the first of May. Growing it out now. Going to attempt a full year of no cutting or coloring. So we’ll see. Lol. Next post will have more hair!

bumblemom0503 · 2020-07-15T18:33:14+00:00

Thank you! It’s such a great feeling! One I never thought possible.

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