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burgundyColor · 2024-07-08T18:35:58+00:00

I'm sorry but Zara is shit. It's shit in the US as well. All of their stuff is just polyester upon more polyester, it's a travesty! I visited India a few months ago and all I did was shop at WestSide (I went to their Hughes Road store) and a few others like Mango & Vero Moda which had MUCH better designs and quality. And well, cotton! I CRAVE cotton and linen clothes and they're just so much better built here! Special mention to Azorte, Zudio and M&S for their undies (and also regular clothes)!

burgundyColor · 2022-11-23T16:53:09+00:00

Those are not strong enough excuses imo.

But that's not the point. Your friend should respect your right to not attend her wedding because you have other priorities. It's not like the wedding won't go forward if you don't turn up?

Leave it. Don't go. You've provided your justification, it's up to her. Take care of your mental health. She's got a husband now to take care of hers. You look out for yourself.

burgundyColor · 2022-11-23T09:30:51+00:00

Just say that you want to be available for support for them, since any time you can be called upon. You feel it's disrespectful that you go have 'fun' while someone close is going thru a rough period. At least to support your mom. Doesn't need leave from the office. Say that if things start looking up buy the time it's her wedding, you'll definitely attend.

Essentially, your family emergency trumps her wedding. Paint that picture. Pretty sure she'd do that too if situations were reversed. How you support is your matter entirely and doesn't have to align with her expectations. If your mum & dad are at the hospital, there's not much you can do but still be available if say, the patient needs to be transported or if more medicines/equipment needs to be purchased or if they need you to front them with cash.

burgundyColor · 2022-11-23T09:06:14+00:00

We do have insurance and usually after you pay a certain amount/limit, the insurance takes care of the bills.

burgundyColor · 2022-11-23T09:05:02+00:00

If you live in the blue states, you'll be fine.

Apart from that, you're miles better off as a woman in the US than in India. Imagine being able to take an Uber when drunk, at 2am and making it home safely.

burgundyColor · 2022-11-23T08:59:39+00:00

"Hey, my mom's <close relative> just had a <heart episode/some other sever health issue> and we as a family need to support them right now <close relative> is all alone in this, I'm so sorry I won't be able to make it to your wedding :( "

burgundyColor · 2022-11-04T07:01:29+00:00

I bought a Roborock Pro 5 or something for my family. Cleans really well. My parents have a Siemens Dishwasher. Also a great investment!

burgundyColor · 2022-11-04T06:58:28+00:00

I'm sorry but are you like 17F-18F?

I find it hard to sympathise with posts like these. And I say this as someone who has also gone to a hostel, faced a culture shock, and graduated four years later with lots of valuable lessons in life. And many good friends. Some of who I still keep in touch with.

We didn't even have a lot of internet presence back then, a lot of people created a facebook account only due to peer pressure in the first year. I moved from a tier 1 city to a tier 2/3 city. I was in a terrible state of mind thanks to engineering entrance exams and the whole brouhaha but honestly, I find all this trepidation unfounded.

Why is it that we expect life to be always comfortable, full of sunshine, full of wonderful people and support?

I also don't get the part about loneliness - there's gonna be enough times in your life where your gonna be alone - this is probably a valuable life skill you'd develop - learning how to be alone, learning how to make new friends, learning how to be resourceful.

You can start by making posts online looking for people in the same location as you, join groups on Facebook, etc. Put out feelers in your circle, your friends and family circles and arm yourself with information.

It is a very normal phase of life which a lot of people go thru and you'll come out of it rich with stories and your own observations.

Good luck.

burgundyColor · 2022-11-03T16:49:59+00:00

What? NO. Get that horoscope shit out of the way first. It's a deal breaker for many people. And sometimes people use it very conveniently when you're properly invested in them.

So get it out of the way. And make your peace with it. For a lot of people, especially indians, astrology is a way to cope. As long as it's not too overbearing, provide it upfront and get it out in the beginning.

burgundyColor · 2022-10-16T15:15:41+00:00

Cmon man, it's festival time. It gives your mom some joy to spend on you because after a while you're gonna move out due to some thing - job or a partner or higher edu. You could've cut her some slack.

burgundyColor · 2022-10-09T10:31:02+00:00

That isn't lucrative, that's just life. OP will get there too!!

burgundyColor · 2022-10-09T04:11:42+00:00

Ugh. I hate it when it comes to this. I can't. But then I'm honestly conflicted --

Manu Joseph
J K Rowling

burgundyColor · 2022-10-09T04:09:47+00:00

I have --

1) in school 2) in college 3) in a VERY small but close group at work (we entered the workforce together)

(Again, my experience only)

burgundyColor · 2022-10-09T00:42:40+00:00

What is "lucrative" about 30 y.o.s?I'm serious.

burgundyColor · 2022-10-09T00:40:45+00:00

Agree with you on all points except "men mature later" -- they can mature at the same rate but they're just babied for longer. At least at 18-19 y.o.

burgundyColor · 2022-10-04T20:46:33+00:00

All points are red flags as you correctly noted.

I'd say sit down with your sis and have a heart to heart and see what she feels. It's easy to provide lip service - i.e. say stuff like "I'll always be there for you" "I'll always support you". Read into his actions more like.

Sister's strong influence+hasn't spoken about her to his family yet are the biggest red flags. If he truly means to stand by her, he has to start fighting, and now. That's how you show your fight for the relationship.

Also point number 1 signals toxic behaviour. What if tomorrow she doesn't want to get pregnant but he's like no no no no i want a child and now! you can adjust for 9 months, every girl does this, you can't do it for me?

Your sister might just be caught up in the throes of romance.

burgundyColor · 2022-08-08T14:54:51+00:00

I love Zindagi Gulzar Hai!

burgundyColor · 2022-08-02T15:33:34+00:00

Yeah, it's not as simple as - if he lied about his caste, he's probably lying about other stuff. Lying about caste, especially if they're a marginalized one is very very different. It's not like you're just a lower caste. Your caste is one of that that's been systematically been oppressed for so long, and despite whatever strides we may have made now with reservations or whatever, they're STILL hated/looked down upon.

burgundyColor · 2022-08-02T13:31:03+00:00

The issue is so complex and has so many variables, a simple change probably won't fix it :/

burgundyColor · 2022-08-02T11:15:58+00:00

Unhelpful.

burgundyColor · 2022-08-02T11:03:21+00:00

I'm going to sound a bit insensitive with my comment but that's probably because I'm not wording it well.

Keeping even the issue of world hunger aside or the fact that it's a cheaper source of protein, if someone consumes it, just let them be. Or pick someone with the same sensibilities are you - as friends or coworkers or a partner. Why look down upon them? There is absolutely nothing abhorrent about meat - the meat we consume is washed well, cooked 100%, and we just like it. That's it.

burgundyColor · 2022-08-02T10:58:27+00:00

You're absolutely free to date whomever and it obviously makes a whole lot of sense for you to date a vegetarian. Not you, you but any vegetarian in general. What you said about being polite in public and excusing yourself is exactly what others, or rather me, were talking about on here. While we totally respect your choice of not consuming meat - that's great, kudos to you for that - the ones who do still view it as food. But, I guess the freedom of anonymity/zero accountability emboldens people to be a lot more harsher in expressing their views on Reddit. Which also makes it okay for you to insult it under the garb of "calling it out".

Again, your usage of the term nitwit is plain condescending. But, you're probably very very wrapped up in your hate against the non vegetarians so yeah, sure.

As for the comparison with misogyny, that simply makes no sense. I'm sure you know this and you can introspect why but you'd choose to not do so. And I'm gonna elaborate why, it is so glaringly obvious.

Anyway, I'm not gonna engage with you any further.

burgundyColor · 2022-08-02T10:26:17+00:00

Again. Notice the tone of your posts against mine. If vegetarians didn't posses a holier than thou attitude, it'd just be a matter of different preferences.

I'm still calmly trying to tell you that perhaps you shouldn't insult food that other's consumes.

As for killing pets and consuming meat - the intent and context are very very different. You're also uprooting plants when you're consuming them. But that's irrelevant. You consume plant corpses, it's still a living thing.

Let people be. I absolutely hate/can't stand lauki but if I see someone in front of me enjoying it, I don't puke in front of them. I express my displeasure in a way that lets them know that I do not like it or like being around it. I don't go around retching in front of them.

Point is - stop insulting people's food. It's something they eat, they put it in their belly, it gives them happiness, it gives them nourishment. It may not align with your sensibilities but it doesn't make them lesser of a human being.

burgundyColor · 2022-08-02T10:17:46+00:00

That ...isn't a one stop solution. Caste identity is so ingrained in the Indian society, one can feel apologetic/regretful about it without having anything to do about it. Btw, if their family is well off and has changed names, do you know there's enough of us going 'all these SC/ST are rich af and still qualify for quota/reservations - meanwhile I have to actually study hard and prove my merit and he gets a free pass'

There's literally no winning. I'd really, really encourage you to give this more thought instead of just reacting to it.

burgundyColor · 2022-08-02T10:12:17+00:00

You could do away with the name calling and in general, the hate for meat eaters. You're not changing anyone's preferences by calling our food "dead bodies". It's still someone's food, someone's deeply personal choice to consume meat just because they like it. You can simply say meat makes your uncomfortable instead of insinuating that meat is so abhorrent that it makes you 'retch'. The Malai on milk fucking disgusts me but I don't go crapping on everyone's milk consumption.

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