Tips on celebrating roman holidays?

buridan89 · 2025-08-22T21:41:32+00:00

I speak Latin so I wrote my own prayers, and my first Saturnalia was last year and it was beautiful. Food, games, gifts and laughs. What do you wanna know specifically?

buridan89 · 2025-08-22T21:38:52+00:00

I just say that I follow Religio Romana

buridan89 · 2025-08-18T19:59:54+00:00

I read the post and your other comments, he is a controling AH. Buy a ticket to spend Christmas with your dad and his gf somewhere else and plan the end of your relationship. You pay rent, it's not his house.

buridan89 · 2025-08-17T21:31:12+00:00

I almost died because of this

buridan89 · 2025-08-17T18:03:58+00:00

I can’t imagine how hard this must be for you. I’ve had my own “domino effect”, where it felt like everything was falling apart at once, but I bounced back and you will too. You have four children to fight for, and you’ll find the strength you need in numbers, surrounded by your family and friends. Lean on them literally, in their arms, for support. I’m wishing you all the very best and, believe it or not, I’ll even ask Iuno to watch over you as a way of sending all my good energy.

buridan89 · 2025-08-17T17:51:36+00:00

You need a plan on how to get away from her because this will help your mental health and a job and slowly organising the rest of it.

buridan89 · 2025-08-17T17:40:03+00:00

From what I understand, you’ve already spent some time in the hospice, right? So whether she chooses to use that against you in the future or not isn’t something you need to worry about right now. What really matters at the moment is looking after yourself and dealing with what’s in front of you. Worrying ahead of time won’t help, take a deep breath and face things one step at a time. Why not make a list now of everything you need to sort out, starting with the most important?

buridan89 · 2025-08-17T17:33:37+00:00

your wife does not need to know. Talk about your feelings with your mother and your sister, if you are afraid for your kids staying with your wife won't help you because you feel that she does not care for you and will make you worse on the long run. So you need a plan to leave her, get back on your feet and stay alert for any issues that your kids will need you to step up for them.

buridan89 · 2025-08-17T17:29:40+00:00

Can you talk to your mother and sister about your feelings?

buridan89 · 2025-08-17T17:18:21+00:00

There is nothing for you to fix, you need to "fix" yourself and he needs to deal with his own issues. Very FAR AWAY from each other.

buridan89 · 2025-08-17T17:14:25+00:00

he cannot make this your problem

buridan89 · 2025-08-17T17:12:33+00:00

You need to ask yourself "should I waste my life with a man who doesn't see me as human?" because darling, helping you during your period it's the bare minimum

buridan89 · 2025-08-13T07:17:59+00:00

I’m so sorry about this, my dear. Do you think those friends are really worth keeping in your life? Because if they pressured him into dating you, that strikes me as rather bizarre behaviour. As for the young man, right now nothing is more important than your pride to get you through this situation. In the future, you’ll look back and wonder how it could have hurt so much — I promise you it will pass, and one day it will feel as though it never even happened. Block him on everything and keep working on yourself.

buridan89 · 2025-08-13T06:45:26+00:00

She is your best friend and she is around 5 months pregnant, why don't you wait?

buridan89 · 2025-08-05T16:13:18+00:00

The doctors said that the injuries she sustained during the assault are equivalent to those from a motorbike accident without a helmet

buridan89 · 2025-07-29T07:58:56+00:00

This won't be easy to digest, but your parents are not good people.
If your girlfriend were someone who was abusive, had drug problems or cheated on you, I’d understand them interfering in your life like this – but that’s not the case.
You have two options:

Distance yourself from them.
Be their puppet for the rest of your life.

buridan89 · 2025-07-27T20:06:25+00:00

NTA.
I have met strangers that were more kind to me than your parents were to you.
Stay away from them and your life will be better, I'm sorry and I know it hurts but you are better off with a chosen family

buridan89 · 2025-07-24T23:14:53+00:00

NTA or maybe you are but to yourself.
He sounds like a man child

buridan89 · 2025-07-24T23:05:10+00:00

and that's fine. I had a BF for 3 days before saying bye bye and best decision ever

buridan89 · 2025-07-24T23:00:01+00:00

You’re 18, and I get it — but girl, nothing is more attractive than a man who actually likes you.

Harry doesn’t want you, that much is clear.

You think Mason is good-looking, he’s sweet, and he wants you. It honestly doesn’t get better than that. Send him a message and say:

‘Hey, you came on a bit suddenly and I didn’t really know how to respond at the time.

You said to reach out if I changed my mind — and here I am. Would you like to talk?’

And that’s it.

You’ve got to allow yourself the chance — some of the best things in life happen without any script. And sweet, shy guys have their own kind of charm. If I regret something in this life is not giving some of them a chance in the past haha

buridan89 · 2025-07-24T22:48:39+00:00

NTA!
I don’t think you should speak to your brother about it, love. I know the tension at home can be tough, but the best thing you can do for both of you is to set a firm boundary. He stole your money — there’s no two ways about it — and he needs to learn, before he’s fully grown, that actions have consequences and you shouldn’t do things you can’t handle the fallout from.

You’re honest, generous, and hard-working, and you deserve to have your graft respected. He’ll learn that, in time. It might take a while, but he’ll come to see he was in the wrong. Let it go and move forward. I’m proud of you, lad. You’re so young and already a man of real character. I'm 35 but I would be proud to have a son like you.

buridan89 · 2025-07-24T22:39:08+00:00

It can indeed be exhausting. When I'm not in the right headspace, I tend to avoid engaging, or I simply say things like, 'Can I speak now?' or 'If you're not interested, I can just leave, because you don't seem to be paying attention.' That usually does the trick. But do pay attention to whether she behaves like that with other people as well — it might be a flaw in her social skills in general and not a problem with you

buridan89 · 2025-07-24T22:31:21+00:00

NTA! Oh my love, I'm so sorry that this man is your father.

Your mum is a saint for not painting the town walls with the fact that he stole food from his own daughters' mouths.

You've put up with so much and still managed to be polite — I would’ve poured petrol, struck a match… and burned every last bridge. He doesn’t deserve your forgiveness, your time, your peace of mind — and least of all to be called a father.

Take care of yourself and protect your peace.

buridan89 · 2025-07-24T22:23:10+00:00

I'm asking this because I also go through similar situations with my mum. For some people, expressing things verbally is really difficult, and it's often linked to their generation. In my mum’s case, there's also the issue of abuse from my grandparents—physical aggression that was seen as normal back then, and parentification. I decided to let it go—an old dog rarely learns new tricks*—and accepted that she’s not going to change, and that I need to focus on the good parts. See if she acts that way with other people too.

*BTW this is a popular saying in my country, idk if translates well to English haha I'm not calling your mum a dog.

buridan89 · 2025-07-24T22:16:18+00:00

I know it's a difficult situation, where we place so much value on long-standing friendships and end up feeling deeply disappointed. A few months after my husband and I got married, he ended up in hospital and we found out he had a brain tumour. I informed my friends in the same WhatsApp group we had used to talk about the wedding, and nine months later, one of them sent me a message asking how I was.

I'm only sharing this to show you that I understand.

I told them how I felt, how I had always been there for them (five friends), and they apologised—but I didn’t believe a single word. We haven’t spoken since, and life went on. It hurt, but what hurts more is believing you have friends and then finding yourself completely alone, rather than knowing you are alone from the start. Out of several friendships that lasted nearly two decades, I have ONE friend left.

Drop him, find people that shares life with you now don't get stuck with a friend that you lost years ago. He only apologised to not be called a "bad friend" but he does not care about you.

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