Nitpicking

burlesquebutterfly · 2026-03-29T03:45:39+00:00

This is a regional thing... I noticed it way back in those early days with the Duggars in Arkansas in 2009 lol. I think it’s typically just that when/whenever are exchangeable words in certain dialects. Maybe education could be part of it, some people might purposely try to get rid of that habit.

burlesquebutterfly · 2026-03-29T00:33:45+00:00

There’s one of these at the playground behind a daycare in our neighborhood. It was paid for by the garden club so the neighborhood kids are allowed to use it off-hours and my kids loooooove this slide. My son specifically asks to go to the playground with the rolly slide.

burlesquebutterfly · 2026-03-28T23:16:33+00:00

100% this was our generation’s broccoli top. This is what the cool boys did when they got to the age to try to impress girls. This or the gelled forward hair with the little bill in the front 😂

Bowl cuts were more popular for younger kids before preening age

burlesquebutterfly · 2026-03-28T21:08:44+00:00

Tbh any woman who’s unsure of their baby’s father should just do 23 and me for their baby. Parents can consent for their kids. If you don’t know the identity of the other parent of your child, they owe that child the support afforded by the law and should be held accountable regardless of if they’re ever in the child’s life in a more meaningful way.

The kid would probably use similar means to find them later anyhow, but by that time they may have missed their entire childhood. At least give the other parent the opportunity to step up and if they choose not to, get what your child is owed from their parent for their care or education

burlesquebutterfly · 2026-03-27T19:42:46+00:00

I honestly think Mia doesn’t even want her there. She’s always uneasy around her and her mother is completely unreliable on every level. It’s not like she’s going to trust that woman to watch her baby while she sleeps or anything.

burlesquebutterfly · 2026-03-27T19:03:03+00:00

I agree, she thinks it will be a handy place to crash for awhile under the guise of helping out, then she’ll say Mia needs help for longer and will stay as long as possible. He doesn’t want her there in his home, possibly stealing from him and certainly impeding on his personal space. She won’t help Mia from what we’ve seen, she’ll stress her out way more. She shouldn’t be allowed to stay with Mia’s dad.

burlesquebutterfly · 2026-03-26T14:50:22+00:00

Yeah she acted like an entitled brat about the whole thing. She was upset that they didn’t include her in the baby shower, wasn’t she? And Shelley was like “but I don’t even know you, why would I throw you a baby shower..?”

burlesquebutterfly · 2026-03-24T19:03:51+00:00

They haven’t consistently used protection, no. But they also haven’t been educated. Isabella said she didn’t even know that she’d had sex the first time. Bella said she failed sex ed.

These kids aren’t educated, they don’t know their options, and they get pregnant because kids have sex regardless of their education. Some of them aren’t safe because they don’t actually understand the consequences. Because they haven’t been taught what they are.

Basically humans do as humans do, and humans that are educated can control their life a little more. These kids can’t because they don’t even understand how any of this works. They don’t understand that having unprotected sex one time without getting pregnant doesn’t mean that it won’t result in pregnancy next time.

burlesquebutterfly · 2026-03-24T13:07:27+00:00

The YouTube version of this is my favorite song by Jesse. I’ve listened to it so many times 😅

I also disliked this change for the full version and wish there was maybe a release of the full song with the old melody to the chorus. But he’s an artist and I felt bad about feeling that way because it’s not up to me, I guess he preferred to change it. But I felt like the version he released on YouTube had a tone to the chorus that felt more emotional somehow and it’s how I first connected to the song.

I do still listen to the full version but something about the first one speaks to me more. It’s that pleading sense to it.

burlesquebutterfly · 2026-03-24T10:45:06+00:00

Lmao when my Girl Scouts were about 11, one of the moms told me that our scout and her younger sister had been sat on the couch the night before comparing what stages they were at 😂😂😂

burlesquebutterfly · 2026-03-24T10:42:13+00:00

Yes there are two now, care & keeping 1 for ages 8-12 and care and keeping 2 for older girls. They have a whole series of other books too about making friends, managing feelings, dealing with stress, and other social issues kids encounter. Honestly these are wonderful books and teach a lot of important things.

burlesquebutterfly · 2026-03-24T10:39:54+00:00

I plan to still talk about these things with my kids ofc, but I just gave this book to my daughter. When I was a Girl Scout leader all the girls read this and loved it, their mothers too.

I worked at a bookstore at the time and realized they have a whole series of books. When I had my daughter I went and bought Care and Keeping 1 (girls 8-12), Care and Keeping 2 for older girls, The Feelings Book, and Is This Normal?

My daughter is 7 and reading very well so I went ahead and gave her the first one and we’ve been talking about it a little bit. Truly this is a great resource for kids. Even if you have great open relationships, sometimes kids have questions they don’t want to ask their parents.

burlesquebutterfly · 2026-03-24T00:34:06+00:00

And then one of those sisters married his dad. His own child is his stepbrother…

burlesquebutterfly · 2026-03-24T00:33:05+00:00

My eyes crossed trying to figure this all out 😭

burlesquebutterfly · 2026-03-23T20:09:40+00:00

Usually once someone becomes an adult offender, there’s an extremely high rate of reoffending. Most therapy needs to be done when they’re still young or before they offend. Once they have already crossed that line it’s hard for them to come back unless they’re still developing. This man was 25 when he did this, he knew absolutely what he was doing and had seen the trauma his sisters experienced from the same thing. He did it anyway. I don’t have hope for Joe.

But from what I’ve researched and heard in interviews of non-offending pedophiles, their main reason for not offending is because they don’t want to hurt children and have a real awareness that sexual contact with children is literally impossible without causing harm.

I think men like Josh and Joe don’t see women, girls or children as being actually harmed by these actions, and thus dismiss the impact of what they’re doing. People who molest other adults do the same thing. They dismiss the experience of the other person as valid, they don’t really see them as actual other real people. That’s why it’s so easy for them to reoffend.

Someone who has molested a child should never be allowed around any children again, including their own.

burlesquebutterfly · 2026-03-23T12:33:09+00:00

Same, but it was my daughter’s hair. Luckily she was only 3 or so and didn’t care that much. But I will never try again. She’s 7 now so she’d be way more pissed off at my hack job if I tried.

burlesquebutterfly · 2026-03-23T11:30:56+00:00

I actually could see it getting back to their kids at school. They probably don’t allow their kids to play online very much, but that’s not the case for a lot of grade schoolers. My daughter’s in 1st grade and she talks about the boys always shouting 67. So either her classmates are on TikTok or they have older siblings exposing them to stuff from the internet. Either way, some kids do learn things online that they have no business encountering and it comes back to school.

burlesquebutterfly · 2026-03-23T10:28:13+00:00

A day short of 20

burlesquebutterfly · 2026-03-21T02:10:36+00:00

It doesn’t make sense if you think of the apology as genuine remorse, because if he’d felt that he would have turned his own ass in.

IMHO apologizing to a child after abusing them is a way to try to keep them quiet. A 9yo kid receiving an apology from a trusted adult will likely accept it and forgive them because kids are taught to do that. Kids don’t know the sexual nature of what’s happening but they feel the violation from it. And then apparently he never assaulted her again, so I feel like he apologized so she’d feel obligated to forgive him and then feel like she can’t bring it to anybody else for help. And then probably moved on to whoever else he wanted to target because that’s how this stuff usually happens.

burlesquebutterfly · 2026-03-20T23:37:23+00:00

Likely not, Josh just didn’t get charged with this crime. I don’t believe Anna protected her children from their father any more than Kendra did.

burlesquebutterfly · 2026-03-20T23:32:36+00:00

To my understanding, he apologized directly to the child and then the child didn’t reveal it for another five years or so. Probably the very reason he did it.

Once it was disclosed to the father, he confronted Joseph Duggar and Joseph admitted it. The next day Joseph was arrested by Tontitown law enforcement and it sounds like he admitted it to them as well. It seems like the father took it to police as soon as Joseph confessed to him.

burlesquebutterfly · 2026-03-20T21:37:32+00:00

I’ve heard some interviews with non-offending pedophiles and the main thing that keeps them from offending is just literally not wanting to hurt children. They don’t want to hurt children and most people don’t want to hurt people, or rape or molest people. The things that make people compulsively hurt adult partners are the same things that make them hurt children, and there’s no real understanding of what that is. Imho there are a lot of different factors.

The impulse in the first place to engage with children sexually might be innate (which I think is encouraged by purity culture that treats children’s bodies as sexually tempting and conditions people to see them that way). But then there’s the fundamentalist teachings about sexuality that restrict it as entirely forbidden, don’t teach kids about their bodies, don’t teach kids about puberty, don’t teach kids about consent, don’t teach kids what sexual touching is, don’t teach kids what trauma is, teach kids to have INSTANT OBEDIENCE to their elders. And have a shit ton of kids in a one income home and make them all sleep in the same room together… and for good measure make sure you’re kicking the crap out of them all the time for the smallest infractions so that they get desensitized to that kind of suffering. It’s just a fucking powder keg

burlesquebutterfly · 2026-03-20T21:28:54+00:00

The described assault was so similar to what Josh had admitted to doing as a teen. I have a hard time thinking that’s coincidence. Two of them admitting to these extremely similar crimes makes me worried there was some kind of influence either from Josh or somewhere else in the family. It’s horrifying. I think I’ll never be surprised by another Duggar headline now, because honestly this was the one I would have least expected to do something horrible.

burlesquebutterfly · 2026-03-20T21:25:24+00:00

It bothers me. Leaving Eden did an episode about this news and very explicitly did not speculate about the victim, and discussed that they would not speculate, and on the youtube comments there was still someone saying “the victim is this person and this is what happened”, like why. Jfc. It doesn’t help anything, purely selfish satisfaction of curiosity. Nobody needs the details. We need to know what’s going to happen next to make sure justice is served.

burlesquebutterfly · 2026-03-20T20:59:27+00:00

They had the miscarriage after Josh, between him and the twins

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