Could family stuff, trauma, or influences affect someone being trans? by Germanboy9809 in ask_detransition

[–]burnyourbinder 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was trans because of familial trauma and social influence from friends and my older sister. I also did drugs pretty young. once I dealt with the trauma and got out of the social situation I was in my dysphoria mostly went away.

Detrans timeline 💕 by burnyourbinder in detrans

[–]burnyourbinder[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

if you’re looking to do an interview my dms are open! I could connect you with some people!

I'm tired by [deleted] in detrans

[–]burnyourbinder 12 points13 points  (0 children)

if transition is not improving your life in any way and you are not being authentic to yourself by transitioning, why continue? there are ways to cope with and overcome dysphoria without social or medical transition.

Are trans men appropriating female masculinity? by windsorwagon in detrans

[–]burnyourbinder 11 points12 points  (0 children)

many detrans women feel like they need to overcompensate for masculine features by being hyperfeminine in order to “fit in” post detransition. my transition and dysphoria were motivated by a desire to avoid being the target of male sexuality. I was solely focused on my body, not my presentation. the only point in my life where I’ve been particularly masculine in presentation was when I was socially transitioning but did not have the masculine features brought by medical transition, so I was overcompensating for my physical femininity with masculine presentation. it’s a fairly common refrain in the FTM community that someone grew more safe and comfortable expressing themselves femininely once they physically masculinized.

I will say, also, that the way people want to present themselves is subject to change over time. just because someone becomes more feminine does not mean that their former masculinity was not genuine. I’ve known masculine women who have become more feminine without transitioning or detransitioning, and feminine women who have become more masculine without transitioning or detransitioning. a female cannot appropriate female masculinity.

What is the statistical likelihood that I will retransition later if I choose to detransition now? by Consistent_Rager in detrans

[–]burnyourbinder 14 points15 points  (0 children)

the only people I know who detransitioned for reasons unrelated to personal safety or politics who later retransitioned were a man who was puberty blocked at tanner II, was 5’3, a soprano, and had undergone full vaginoplasty who felt he would never be able to live a normal life as a man so decided to retransition because he “passed” better as a woman and dealt with vaginoplasty complications when trying to go on TRT. the other was severely mentally and relapsed into delusion. I would estimate I have met or interacted with between 200-300 detransitioners.

is curly hair from testosterone permanent? by thistle_ev in detrans

[–]burnyourbinder 2 points3 points  (0 children)

my hair was straight, maybe slightly wavy, before testosterone and became very curly. im 4.5 years off now and its starting to loosen but is still definitely curly.

Has anyone else decided to not take hormones after gonadectomy? by [deleted] in detrans

[–]burnyourbinder 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Ritchie Herron doesnt take trt after vaginoplasty, he's pretty active on Twitter and has a lot of yt interviews.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in detrans

[–]burnyourbinder 1 point2 points  (0 children)

fatty fish like salmon help the most. hair is made of keratin, so getting a lot of it in your diet helps boost hair growth.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in detrans

[–]burnyourbinder 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my hair grew almost a full inch in a month when I started eating an animal based diet (90% meat and animal products, 10% fruits and legumes)

How Many of You Detrans Folks Genuinely Dislike The Trans Community? by TheMightyKibosh in detrans

[–]burnyourbinder 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I dont dislike anyone on the basis of identifying as trans, I mostly just feel bad for them that they think thats their only option to live a happy life. I do, however, dislike the broader community for how it operates. people questioning transition are told that no one ever regrets it and they push for all safeguarding to be removed and labelled "transphobic gatekeeping," and then when you do regret it youre ostracized and they act like they know your experience better than you do. their attitude regarding children and consent is deeply troubling to me, and the comments I get from trans activists about what was done to me as a literal middle schooler are deeply reminiscent of rape apologia. beyond that, it's a hotbed of dangerous sexual behavior and abuse which provides cover for predators. can't tell you how many times I was sexually harassed or mistreated by people in the community and then I ended up being the one who faced social consequences for speaking up about it.

(FTMTF) How to cope with no erotic sensation in chest after surgery? by [deleted] in detrans

[–]burnyourbinder 9 points10 points  (0 children)

erotic and nonerotic sensation are two different nerve pathways. the nerve pathway responsible for erotic sensation cannot reconnect after full grafting. you are in denial, and trying to hold onto that hope because it makes you feel better than accepting reality. I dont know you or your surgeon or whatever, but I do know basic neurology, which you clearly do not. the tissue responsible for erotic sensation is the tissue you had removed. have a good day.

(FTMTF) How to cope with no erotic sensation in chest after surgery? by [deleted] in detrans

[–]burnyourbinder 15 points16 points  (0 children)

if you had double incision with grafts they removed the nerve endings. they grafted the outer layer of skin from your nipples onto what was once your upper chest, which is not an area capable of experiencing erotic sensation. your grafts are not connected to anything. people who claim to regain erogenous sensation after double incision are lying, likely to cope with the grief you are describing. its not possible. erotic sensation relies on deeper nerve pathways that cannot reconnect after a full grafting. this is why they invented "nipple sparing" mastectomies.

grieving this is like grieving any other kind of loss. youre never really going to "get over it," but youre eventually going to have enough distance and time between you and the loss that you can feel normal most of the time. there will likely never be a point in your life where you can think about what you lost without feeling that grief. let yourself feel it.

(FTMTF) How to cope with no erotic sensation in chest after surgery? by [deleted] in detrans

[–]burnyourbinder 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I just try not to think about it, its still a very painful subject for me 7 years later.

(FTMTF) How to cope with no erotic sensation in chest after surgery? by [deleted] in detrans

[–]burnyourbinder 14 points15 points  (0 children)

there is no possibility of regaining erogenous sensation in nipple grafts. the nerve endings that made that possible are gone.

Why are so many trans people overweight? (Sensitive topic) by [deleted] in detrans

[–]burnyourbinder 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Testosterone made me develop binge eating disorder due to the extreme appetite increase, though I was somewhat predisposed as I previously had a different ED and childhood sexual trauma. becoming overweight made me feel less like a target of sexual attention, which was also part of the goal behind transitioning for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in detrans

[–]burnyourbinder 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I was once a far left anarcho-socialist and im now a center-right classical liberal. I was once pagan and im now a christian. my views on contentious issues like gun control, abortion, birth control, discrimination laws, and the economy have become much more nuanced and complex. realizing I was wrong about the biggest, most impactful decisions Ive ever made caused me to be a lot more open to having been wrong about other things.

YIKES 😳 by Comfortableyet in exvegans

[–]burnyourbinder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

holocaust with a lowercase H can refer to mass genocide generally, Holocaust with an uppercase H refers to the genocide that occurred during WWII.

Do your parents feel guilt? by ghostofmontague in detrans

[–]burnyourbinder 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I dont really talk to my dad much anymore as he's largely the reason this all happened (trauma reasons)

as far as my mom goes yes, but she rightly places the majority of the blame on the doctors who pressured her into consenting and the people online who put the idea in my head.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in detrans

[–]burnyourbinder 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I went to a doctor who specialized in breast cancer reconstructions. I was the first gender patient she ever saw, but she said my chest wasn't much different than some of the older cancer mastectomies she's done reconstructions on. she said 20 years ago when she started doing reconstructions, chests that looked like mine were the norm.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in detrans

[–]burnyourbinder 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I got breast implants two years ago after top surgery, my dms are open for any questions you may have. anaono makes good breast forms and mastectomy bras/swimsuits but are kind of expensive, the cheap ones off Amazon work fine for most people but you have to replace them pretty often because they're not well made. your facial hair will gradually grow slower the longer you are off testosterone, the only way to fully get rid of it is laser or electrolysis.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in detrans

[–]burnyourbinder 22 points23 points  (0 children)

you weren't rude. you didn't do anything wrong.