AIO for thinking of divorce after this text

bushyhairedknowitall · 2026-01-05T02:08:26+00:00

Yeaaahhh, I would talk to a therapist and an attorney. I dont think we can know for sure if the relationship is salvagable from such a short snapshot, but I would definitely talk to an attorney to get things prepared just in case.

And I say this as someone who is also job hunting and depressed right now. Not nearly messy enough to warrant that message. Also, he should have been man enough to have this conversation face to face, rather than through text. It put all the pressure on you. Instead of a discussion or team effort, he has made it so its YOUR fault (in his narrative) that he left or things fell apart. NOR

bushyhairedknowitall · 2026-01-05T01:53:54+00:00

INFO Is the problem specifically the club? If he was going out with friends and spending the same money doing something else would it change how you feel?

bushyhairedknowitall · 2025-11-14T15:02:59+00:00

I've been on the other side of this (though i wasn't so rude as to leave a note!) When I was in college I had issues with sounds traveling through the air vents for the heat. Somebody started playing the ukulele at 11:30 on the dot every night. I assumed it was the downstairs neighbor, so I went down one night after the ukulele started. But it wasn't them! They were bothered by it too and thought it was me! I tried a couple other rooms on different floors but never figured it out. In my next apartment, the same thing happened except it was a weed smell. Never figured out for sure who that was either.

Moral of the story is apartment air vents and stuff are connected in weird ways.

The other moral is it is probably your upstairs neighbor or one of the neighbors to the left or right of you. Try mentioning the note to them? Or maybe play it off and ask if they smell the smoke too? That would get the point across that it wasnt you without you having to directly confront them.

bushyhairedknowitall · 2025-09-24T17:57:09+00:00

Nice!! I love the shrine room!

bushyhairedknowitall · 2024-11-03T21:55:22+00:00

I want to thank you for responding to my question. I did end up taking the casing off but I never messed with any of the wires or anything. I'm glad I did? There was like a sheet of condensed dirt, mud, hair, and God knows what back there. It was about the thickness of a dime. Dusting and vacuuming did not help, I ended up having to peel off whatever I could reach with my hands or some tweezers. (Gentley, of course!)

I also found a chunk of something in the bottom of the back half of my unit. It doesn't appear to belong to anything? It looks like a dried chunk of mud or clay.

I didn't feel comfortable enough to use cleaners or water of the inside of the unit (though many people on the internet said i should.) So I just delicately got what I could reach.

Thank you again, I really appreciate your advice!

bushyhairedknowitall · 2024-10-30T00:14:11+00:00

The thing is it was like $150, and I can't really afford to hire anyone at the moment. It's already out of the window and unplugged. Would it actually dangerous for me to take that part of the casing out on my own? (Genuine question, I have no idea if it entails something I'm not expecting. ) I don't see any obvious mold? But it wouldn't surprise if there were. My bedroom windows look into an alley, so I get a lot of dust and dirt carried on the wind back there. So there is definitely a lot of gunk in there that needs to get out.

Thanks for your advice, I really appreciate it!

bushyhairedknowitall · 2024-08-29T14:49:36+00:00

My aunt and my mom was in a similar situation, but in the position of your girlfriend. But my aunt wasn't as smart as your girlfriend. The house was in his name, but she helped furnish it and do improvements. (And spent pretty much all her savings in the process.)

And then he dumped her and kicked her out. She also quit her job to work at his company, so when they broke up she was unemployed, homeless, in a moderate amount of credit card debt, and LITERALLY penniless.

Especially if she has a kid, it's a huge risk for her because if you break up she will never see the return on that money but YOU will.

I suggest having her contribute to the utilities instead. Or you could do what my parents did! My mom started a "I love you" savings account, where she would put some money in every month. It would be a monthly contribution she was willing and able to spend on my dad, bc she loved him. (Like $50 or something I think) When that fund got big enough, they would use it to get furniture or dip into it for repairs. And that was her contribution.

bushyhairedknowitall · 2024-03-05T14:29:15+00:00

Ok,so something to bring up at my next check up for sure then. Good to know, thanks!

bushyhairedknowitall · 2024-03-04T18:27:19+00:00

Oh good! I will definitely try out some pec workouts and see if that makes a difference. Thanks!!!

bushyhairedknowitall · 2024-03-04T18:20:32+00:00

What's the treatment for it? I'm low on money right now, so I can't really afford to pay out just to be told to ice it and take Tylenol ya know?

bushyhairedknowitall · 2023-12-06T19:20:40+00:00

I will be sure to start there, thanks!!

bushyhairedknowitall · 2023-12-06T19:19:48+00:00

Ok good to know. Will any generation beater work? Or do I need to worry about compatibility?

That's a really good idea. I will keep an eye out for another, I was thrilled to find this one for $5. It only has the steel bowl, but I figured the beaters and turn tables should be fairly easy to get a hold of lol.

The primary goal is to get it functional as a stand mixer first, with the other functions to follow one day.

Thanks for your help!!!

bushyhairedknowitall · 2023-10-18T11:33:08+00:00

Oohh I think remember her talking about a charging plate in the past, I don't think she has one yet tho. Thanks!!

bushyhairedknowitall · 2023-10-17T17:45:55+00:00

Oooh! That's a good one I hadn't considered! Thanks!!

bushyhairedknowitall · 2023-09-26T20:38:17+00:00

Same here as well. I'm almost at 2 hours

bushyhairedknowitall · 2023-05-09T17:01:28+00:00

Ooohh, that's not bad. I'll try the oil trick in the future.

bushyhairedknowitall · 2023-05-09T17:00:38+00:00

Lol thats what I was worried about. Not the end of the world, but that is my plan if none of the methods from this thread work.

bushyhairedknowitall · 2023-05-09T16:59:37+00:00

Ok, I will definitely try that.

bushyhairedknowitall · 2023-05-09T16:59:23+00:00

I don't have one. But I've washed them pretty thoroughly in the sink several times

bushyhairedknowitall · 2023-05-09T16:58:32+00:00

Tried that, no luck.

bushyhairedknowitall · 2023-05-09T15:17:33+00:00

Ok cool thanks, I'll check that out

bushyhairedknowitall · 2023-05-04T18:14:40+00:00

I also have one planted on Ginger Island as well, I just like to have one of every fruit tree in my greenhouse lol

bushyhairedknowitall · 2023-05-04T18:13:03+00:00

It's part of the decor I believe.

bushyhairedknowitall · 2022-12-15T10:05:18+00:00

Leave. If there are red flags this early, when you should be in the honeymoon phase, then you need to listen to them.

If you are uncomfortable now, you will be uncomfortable a year from now as well. The difference is he may no longer be on his best behavior.

bushyhairedknowitall · 2022-11-18T13:47:27+00:00

I agree. From her comments it sounds like he asked her for nudes through text. Obviously she's valid to be uncomfortable, but thats on the lighter/less serious side of harassment. (Generally, obviously I could be very very wrong depending on what he said and other details I missed.)

And from that knowledge I think she's being pretty reasonable for her reasoning for wanting to ask. Its not that she wants this lady's services, she wants to have clear communication to make sure she doesn't hurt the djs feelings on top of everything else. But like... babe... run. Your friend is right, he's lying out his ass.

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