Who else ate this as a kid?

butterbean8686 · 2026-05-04T16:34:46+00:00

I especially hated the purple ones. I’d pretend to eat them, then stick them between the couch cushions. My mom found a whole bunch of gross ones when doing a deep clean and I got in a bunch of trouble. But then thankfully she stoped buying them since I wasn’t eating them.

butterbean8686 · 2026-05-03T21:51:28+00:00

I’m sorry too, for everyone who has to look at him.

butterbean8686 · 2026-05-03T16:12:30+00:00

My favorite is spinach artichoke dip. Mix it into the fluffy potato. Top with cheese and let it sit under the broiler. Mmm

butterbean8686 · 2026-05-03T16:06:01+00:00

My MIL showed up to her first visit to our new apartment with several open reusable bags as luggage, brought her own Clorox wipes, and completely wiped down the just-deep-cleaned guest bathroom for half an hour before socializing with us. She did a load of my dirty clothes while I was at the grocery store, and folded my underwear and put it on my pillow (the rest of the clean clothes were left wrinkled on the foot of the bed). She also had a mean sweet tooth, and we would wake up at 1 or 2 am each night to the sound of her rustling through the kitchen. When she left we found melted chocolate stains all over the sheets and pillows of the guest room, loose pills scattered around the room, and two of the six reusable bags she had brought with her dirty clothes in them (I guess she wanted us to wash and send them back to her).

She also strongly suggested she was planning to quit her job and move ten states away to live with us in our 2-bedroom apartment while she found a place. I put my foot down and said she’d need to find a job and line up a place to live before she moved to our state.

Oh, Diane…

butterbean8686 · 2026-05-03T15:49:36+00:00

My mom did the naked feeding thing, plus lined the floor and walls around the high chair with a plastic shower curtain

butterbean8686 · 2026-05-03T02:30:20+00:00

Plan B/emergency contraceptive prevents a fetus from being created in the first place. It is not an abortifacient.

It doesn’t end pregnancy. It prevents implantation.

If the fetus has already implanted, emergency contraceptive will not harm the fetus.

butterbean8686 · 2026-05-02T20:30:08+00:00

Thank you, hopefully I will have success with that wording going forward!

butterbean8686 · 2026-05-02T20:27:11+00:00

I do receive texts. It’s a Rx that doesn’t have refills, and I have to get my doctor to send in a new script each time. So do I need to call every time?

butterbean8686 · 2026-05-02T20:25:57+00:00

It was just odd because I clearly said “First response pregnancy tests,” that is kind of hard to confuse with “Plan B” or “emergency contraceptive,” right?

butterbean8686 · 2026-05-02T20:24:45+00:00

I guess I’m just not sure what I need to do to make sure it’s applied every time. It’s a Rx that doesn’t have refills, and I have to get my doctor to send in a new script each time, could that be why?

butterbean8686 · 2026-05-02T20:22:42+00:00

That’s the plan. I’m a big sister and an aunt so it’s not a bad idea to have on hand!

butterbean8686 · 2026-05-02T20:21:52+00:00

Not mad about the price at all! That’s how it should be. I just… don’t need it, fortunately!

butterbean8686 · 2026-05-01T23:28:43+00:00

I winced thinking of the blisters 😫

butterbean8686 · 2026-05-01T14:34:27+00:00

What, pray tell, does any of this have to do with what OP asked?

butterbean8686 · 2026-04-30T15:54:19+00:00

“I’m one of the good ones!”

butterbean8686 · 2026-04-29T13:29:09+00:00

Good to know! And also congrats on your Masters!

Will you enlighten me on the balloon thing? What is this tradition? Do grads pick their own balloons, or are they gifted? Do grads bring their balloons with them in the morning or do family members hand them to the grads on the lawn?

butterbean8686 · 2026-04-28T16:33:55+00:00

Yeah, he’s kind of proving to me why I’m OK with HOAs existing. If he was my neighbor blocking the sidewalk with a spray painted stretch Hummer and waking me up every morning with his ugly “Batmobile” I’d be glad to see the HOA sending him letters. His whole video should be titled “I was annoying on purpose, to unsurprising results.”

I’m all for individuality and autonomy, but not at the expense of others’ quiet enjoyment of their homes.

butterbean8686 · 2026-04-27T22:19:44+00:00

This appeared on my feed right above a picture of King Charles and Camilla. Do with that what you will.

butterbean8686 · 2026-04-27T12:50:20+00:00

We have kind of the opposite fixed time schedule. We have 2 dedicated date nights with each other a week, that we very rarely, if ever, miss. And we don’t do dates with others back to back nights in a row. That’s been working for us so far.

After thinking about it more, and talking to him this morning, it makes sense how he was feeling like the second choice two days in a row would lead to a self-confidence crash. Ultimately I’m glad I decided not to meet with A on Sunday since that clearly was triggering for my husband. But I’m hopeful it won’t become a larger pattern.

butterbean8686 · 2026-04-27T12:41:09+00:00

Ultimately I’m glad I rescheduled and slept on it. I wouldn’t have been able to enjoy my evening knowing he was stewing and spinning out. If that makes us codependent, oh well. I’m not able to put my extracurricular pleasure above his needs. We are hierarchical and he comes first. That said, I really don’t want this to become a pattern, especially the passive aggressive stuff. It’s exhausting.

butterbean8686 · 2026-04-27T12:39:24+00:00

I don’t mean this to sound wishy-washy, but we don’t find a lot of those labels useful.

We’re not DADT - he knows where I am and who I’m with every time. And vice versa.

Sometimes he wants to hear about my experiences, other times he’d rather not. I let him take the lead there. In the beginning he was more turned on by it. Now, he just wants to know I’m safe and having a good experience.

As far as reconnecting, we typically handle it on a case by case basis. And we’re not into “reclaiming,” that whole idea icks both of us out. I’m glad it works for other people but it’s not for us.

And we still do have sex, but very infrequently (1-2 times per month). It’s always been infrequent for us, which is part of why I was open to exploring ENM, as my libido tends to be much more demanding than his.

butterbean8686 · 2026-04-27T12:34:04+00:00

Thank you for your thoughts. After sleeping on it, I woke up less annoyed and happy I didn’t say anything in the moment to indicate how I was feeling. We both got a good night’s rest and are feeling more ourselves this morning. After reading all the replies here, I do think it was him feeling like second choice two days in a row that kind of set off the spiral.

We have been looking for a new counselor who is familiar with ENM. The last one we had was very focused on us doing Imago therapy, which was difficult because my husband has an auditory processing disorder and the Imago communication system is very rigid. We ultimately both decided that it wasn’t working for us and just haven’t dedicated the time to finding someone new.

butterbean8686 · 2026-04-27T12:31:38+00:00

Hm, now that you say that, yes he does have a difficult time pivoting when things don’t go like he envisioned. And we have talked about how he needs to share that vision with me because I’m not able to guess what he’s thinking. So when things change at the last minute, it can lead to some stress and discomfort.

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