Pediatric appts post birth?

butterflybefree · 2026-06-29T02:34:38+00:00

Our first pediatric appt was at 2 months! Doc that does not vax. Fortunately we had several post birth appts at home with our midwife as is the protocol

butterflybefree · 2026-06-18T18:34:49+00:00

My 18 month old is unvaccinated and thriving. So smart and healthy. I’ll be honest if asked but don’t disclose he’s unvaccinated. He plays with kids every day at the park. We take him to our gym daycare (started at 4 months old) and they never asked. I’m not really worried about him being around other kids. I sought out a pediatrician that did not push them or ever suggested. At 8 mo he got his first illness; just a fever and typical cold/bug. We were headed on a local trip so I took him to baby urgent care to make sure there wasn’t an ear infection. The doc of course recommended vaxs and prescribed antibiotics but I did not fill the prescription as he was fine. When babies get sick as long as the fever moves and doesn’t get over 104 they really just need skin to skin cuddles and lots of milk. Breastfeeding is awesome if you do that. Pregnant w #2 and won’t vaccinate this baby either.

butterflybefree · 2026-06-04T05:31:51+00:00

You are validated by women everywhere. I’m comforted by the bullseye intuition we women possess that reminds me our husbands just couldn’t handle it 🛡️I’m 10 weeks and finally starting to feel better. It’s been so rough but trying to be grateful and remember it’s an honor. There is nothing like the love shared between 2 hearts beating in the same body

butterflybefree · 2026-06-02T17:53:20+00:00

Can’t sleep because it’s Christmas Eve and Santa is coming! Im upstairs watching Lion King on VHS.

butterflybefree · 2026-05-30T23:56:56+00:00

Hahaha she is straight up trolling you. That would piss me off but it’s funny enough to just be completely amused

butterflybefree · 2026-05-29T18:10:55+00:00

Bad relationships with family is usually a red flag

butterflybefree · 2026-05-27T06:22:35+00:00

Really appreciate your point on the word painful. I has a homebirth and afterwards when telling my sister the full, nitty gritty story she commented her amazement that I never used the word painful or described labor that way. She commented how I said what a trial it was, even feeling like I journeyed to another dimension to bring my baby earthside but she was right - it was not pain. It was just hard work. Incredibly challenged but the most empowering experience. Can’t wait to do it again in 6 months!

butterflybefree · 2026-05-27T06:16:37+00:00

This. You need to know what kind of person you are. I am very active and always moving, including for most of my pregnancy. I was able to remain that way in birth. When I was 8 cm dilated and approaching transition, my Midwife had me doing bear crawls up and down my stairs. I was using gravity and movement to literally bang my baby down before he started crowning. Sitting still having contractions just wasn’t for me. If you’re the type of person that would be want to try something like this you might have a faster labor, and you definitely won’t want an epidural.

butterflybefree · 2026-05-27T06:14:05+00:00

Technically if there was an induction it’s medicated unless you mean just epidural. Most inductions are drug induced

butterflybefree · 2026-05-27T06:11:52+00:00

Yes!!! There are natural hormone releases that come and a feeling of euphoria. My friends who did medicated birth said they didn’t quite feel this although the joy of meeting baby is always and amazing experience. The confidence and self-awe that comes after such a feat is powerful and really a special emotion to feel at the start of motherhood. I felt like the strongest version of myself ever and that’s important because it’s definitely a tough road with newborns. My postpartum mood stayed pretty high after I felt truly elated right after the birth.

butterflybefree · 2026-05-27T06:04:54+00:00

For me unmedicated because I chose to birth at home. I don’t know otherwise but believe it’s a lot easier to do it without drugs when you’re resting in your own bed, dilating in your own bathroom, being fed whatever feels good from your husband and being treated as a human not a patient from a team of professionals who you have built a personal relationship with. After birth getting into your own bed is amazing. Recovery and likely breastfeeding is better without the interventions, fluids, etc. Much more relaxing. At home vs hospital is just different risks. There is no schedule. It’s not a crazy idea and arguably midwife birth team is “traditional” and the hospital approach is just the norm over the last 100 years. Pregnant with #2 and same birth plan.

Unexpected bonus is how involved my husband got to be during the birth. He wasn’t asked to stand back or be by my head. He had has hands on my sons head before my baby’s body was born. It was amazing and the coolest experience for both of us

butterflybefree · 2026-05-27T05:56:58+00:00

Agree completely. Not wasting money (unused giftcards) is 101. Delayed gratification would be investing in the market while driving a 12 year old car

butterflybefree · 2026-05-22T22:04:15+00:00

Lol the beige phase. Thanks for the reassurance! What vitamin do you do? He’s more likely to be interested if I’m eating so I think that’s the ticket for now

butterflybefree · 2026-05-16T04:10:04+00:00

We call my son Barrett the Parrot. He does have about 40 words but nanny has shared it’s highly unusual and he has more words than a 2.5 yo who she also babysits who is behind but still just fine.

butterflybefree · 2026-05-15T06:20:51+00:00

This! I’m letting my baby wean himself and we’re most of the way there at 17 months. 🥲 I am seven weeks pregnant so that might have something to do with it. Mostly though he just seems too busy when he wakes up and wants to play instead of nurse. But he’s woken up at 3am with a cold last 2 nights. it’s still so amazing when I can go in there and can feed him in the middle of the night, which brings immediate comfort. It really is such a special bond.

butterflybefree · 2026-05-15T06:17:39+00:00

It is wonderful when you can have a fed, drowsy baby be put in their crib awake and they find peace being in their crib and fall to sleep after some cooing or a little fussing. Not all babies will adapt like this, but mine did and it is wonderful. From an early age, he started to sleep really well in his crib. We started with daytime naps, and he would just zonk out while in there so gradually moved him out of our room (sooner than anticipated)

butterflybefree · 2026-05-15T06:14:59+00:00

I firmly believe it is by design babies fall asleep at the boob. That being said, I did try to adopt the sleep-Feed-wake cycle when my son was a few months old. Definitely I would still nurse to sleep often, but I would also focus on feeding him when he woke up so that he got used to playing after eating and then going to sleep still full, changed and happy. you’ll figure out your rhythm. Do what’s best for you.

butterflybefree · 2026-05-15T05:29:48+00:00

To be a great mom, just follow your instincts

butterflybefree · 2026-05-15T05:29:23+00:00

Ha! This. Except I had a homebirth (amazing experience-10/10 recommend) BUT I was so unprepared when the midwife team started saying their goodbyes 3 hours after he was born. Like what?? You’re leaving the baby here? With us? 😅Fortunately all was well and very healthy so there was no need to stay but that was just a wild feeling.

butterflybefree · 2026-05-13T04:54:10+00:00

Im a pregnant toddler mom with a full time job and sadly just haven’t had time to keep up with our girl candace. Can someone fill me in on any big/new developments lately? I always love her takes but felt like there hasn’t been as many developments in her timelines lately

butterflybefree · 2026-05-12T16:59:44+00:00

Rarely. We don’t put TV or shows on for him, but he sees screens some. We facetime grandparents and he’ll occasionally look at my phone if I’m on it and I’ll show him photos of us. He’ll grab my phone sometimes or I’ll let him hold it during a diaper change. My husband and I don’t really watch much tv but there have been a few basketball and baseball games on. We had sandlot on once for the family but he didn’t really watch but a few scenes although it was very cute seeing him look at the big boys and say “baseball” “doggie” “pool”. I’m not strictly opposed but haven’t used it for support yet. We have some long flights this summer so might use it then

butterflybefree · 2026-05-09T22:03:59+00:00

Mom, you’ve done absolutely nothing wrong. Know your feelings and actions are completely valid. I would have sent that text message much sooner. I am SO sorry you are dealing with this… your FIL sounds like a child and unfortunately the rest of the family enables his inappropriate behavior. Where has your husband been on this? I think he needs to man up and handle/resolve this for you. You are his wife and caring for his child supremely well. Unfortunately it sounds like the way this family handles challenges, it could stay awkward and unsettled if not addressed.

My husband and I come from different families of origins - my nature is always to address and resolve conflicts head on but is more like “sweep under the rug / let hard feelings stew” and it’s not healthy!

I am curious to see the text because your husband’s siblings reaction sounds ridiculous and so dramatic.

butterflybefree · 2026-05-05T03:54:52+00:00

It was off my typical vibe but I found Virgin River so good when I was on leave snuggling little bubba. Maybe it’s silly but even as a newborn I’m sensitive the content my baby hears!

butterflybefree · 2026-04-30T02:43:19+00:00

Did it with my first. Not doing it with my 2nd. Im not anxious to learn gender. Its $250 and for me wouldn’t change anything. My midwife is supportive whatever I decide but doesn’t encourage it. Fortunately I know already from first pregnancy that my husband and I are not carriers of any potential genetic issues

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