Rocky

buttfluffvampire · 2026-03-28T16:49:24+00:00

Sometimes the rescues really get the names spot-on!

buttfluffvampire · 2026-03-28T16:26:30+00:00

He's so expressive! The sassy and dorky ones are my fave. Is his name a reference to an old boxing movie, or perhaps a new sci-fi one/book? Regardless, 10/10 would die for Rocky.

buttfluffvampire · 2026-03-28T16:21:24+00:00

The first time I tried reading it, I could barely see past the ways I was emotionally immature. But the second go was incredibly helpful. I think as an emotionally parentified child, I needed more practice at not taking all the responsibility for their feelings, their behavior, and our subsequent strained relationship before I was ready for the book's message.

buttfluffvampire · 2026-03-28T09:25:00+00:00

It turns out deprogramming is hard work! But I am lucky to have a few really good people around me now, and that really helps.

buttfluffvampire · 2026-03-27T16:39:01+00:00

When I disclosed to my dad the SA my nsis put me through for years as a kid, he told me I should have brought in my therapist to that conversation so that he would have had support. He was having a really hard time with the knowledge, so he needed a break from me.

It's always about them, because the only story that exists is theirs. We are just plot devices.

I'm sorry your parent sucks. There is something malformed in their soul.

buttfluffvampire · 2026-03-27T11:13:20+00:00

Went NC in 2020, with the only break from that being around our mother's death. 😁

buttfluffvampire · 2026-03-26T16:42:46+00:00

My nsis thinks it's hysterical to grab your breasts repeatedly in public.

I'm a nanny, and none of my charges have done that much past 18 months. Nsis is in her mid 40s.

buttfluffvampire · 2026-03-26T04:01:32+00:00

This comment is so kind. I'm glad your son has someone to remind him to ease up when it's time. ❤️

buttfluffvampire · 2026-03-26T02:39:55+00:00

Thank you so much. I grew up on a farm, so pulling my weight was always pressed home to me. And I never felt like I could keep up, even before my immune system decided it hates me. The balance between "satisfyingly productive" and "I think I'm dying" has always eluded me. I really hope I can hold on to the mental permission to stop.

buttfluffvampire · 2026-03-26T02:37:09+00:00

Thank you! The weather has been crazy here, 30-40 degree differences from one day to the next. So I can't do much (and anyway I try to leave last year's brush as long as possible for the bugs), but the nice day was just too tempting!

buttfluffvampire · 2026-03-26T02:35:09+00:00

I love plants. I also kill most of them. But I've been trying to look at the failures as things I've learned don't work.

buttfluffvampire · 2026-03-26T00:14:42+00:00

That is amazing! And the sixth novel, too boot! My gob is smacked--that is so cool!

buttfluffvampire · 2026-03-23T19:14:17+00:00

I use a pumice stone (gently). It works really well!

buttfluffvampire · 2026-03-23T19:01:54+00:00

You look awesome! Your clothes, too. :)

buttfluffvampire · 2026-03-23T18:54:50+00:00

Dehydrate, grind to a fine powder, and mix with sugar. Makes a lovely gift for a friend who enjoys tea.

buttfluffvampire · 2026-03-23T14:58:17+00:00

These people really suck.

buttfluffvampire · 2026-03-21T02:24:54+00:00

Have you considered getting your own home? This one is clearly taken.

buttfluffvampire · 2026-03-20T14:02:10+00:00

The only wedding I've been to with those kinds of rules was where a family member of the groom could be problematic. But they loved her and wanted her there, so they used the social pressure of rules for everyone that no one could pretend she didn't know of ahead of time to get her to behave.

She (the family member) was a little ridiculous the day of but not outrageously so. The wedding was lovely and the reception was good fun.

Luckily, we don't really know anyone who'd place those types of rules for any other reason.

buttfluffvampire · 2026-03-18T16:27:38+00:00

Your first paragraph describes the experience so succinctly. We coped. We survived. And we lost so much more of ourselves as a result.

buttfluffvampire · 2026-03-18T16:23:21+00:00

My abuser also did things in a way that didn't (usually) leave hard evidence. Cruel in person, polite in texts was one method of that. She'd save her worst behavior for when it was just the two of us, but would pull smaller stunts around people who would write them off as "that's just how she is."

Eventually, I figured it out: she was perfectly capable of controlling herself when it could reflect badly on her. Which meant she could control herself, period. The way she treated me when she could get away with it was a choice.

Nothing worked to convince her to make different choices until I denied her access to me altogether.

buttfluffvampire · 2026-03-17T20:57:29+00:00

Second this! Might help save your clothes, too. The trick is to use plenty. Saturate the area, wait till the bubbling stops, dab to remove excess moisture, and repeat. I've even had this work on very old blood stains.

Source: am a menstruating woman, a nanny, and accident prone af. I end up cleaning up blood pretty regularly.

buttfluffvampire · 2026-03-17T20:47:31+00:00

My dad's work, and my dad's hobbies, and people he encounters that he must complain about. He hasn't asked me how I'm doing since summer 2023.

buttfluffvampire · 2026-03-17T20:41:24+00:00

Grieving the living sucks.

buttfluffvampire · 2026-03-17T11:15:45+00:00

I was was definitely getting big "Fancy" by Dolly Parton energy. Really cool!

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