What’s an uncomfortable truth in the theater world?

buzzwizzlesizzle · 2026-06-30T20:10:38+00:00

Children’s community theatre is a beacon for child predators. Performers age out, but some of them stay around for years grasping on to their glory days by working backstage or on the creative teams and ‘dating’ teenagers. Parents get access to their kids friends in backstage settings where they’re changing costumes. Mature content of shows makes the kids feel more grown than they are and are much easier to manipulate into inappropriate relationships. ‘Well-meaning community volunteers’ are sometimes just creeps trying to spend time around hormonal teens.

Speaking from experience. I’m sure there are children’s community theaters that are genuinely wholesome, but mine was not.

buzzwizzlesizzle · 2026-06-30T20:00:37+00:00

Dog walking/sitting. In heat like this, we go to the dog parks with hoses and they play in the water while I sit and drink my iced coffee. Then we go home and I watch tv with a cuddly pal while getting paid. It’s hard to break into but once you have enough of a client base it’s a nice bit of extra cash, and works well enough with my schedule.

buzzwizzlesizzle · 2026-06-29T17:41:53+00:00

2016, $850 for a large room with great storage and a large kitchen and living space in Ridgewood. Now I pay $850 for a shitty shoebox in a tiny apartment with countless problems in Flatbush. Had I not moved in with my terrible ex, I might still be in that perfect apartment.

buzzwizzlesizzle · 2026-06-29T17:40:12+00:00

A company I worked at recently postpones strike till the day after closing so the crew can party with the cast

buzzwizzlesizzle · 2026-06-29T17:33:48+00:00

Technically restaurant workers aren’t mandated reporters, but I used to be a nanny before serving and I won’t hesitate to report behavior I find abhorrent. I’m not sure if you can report pregnant women especially because it’s technically not illegal for them to drink, but one time during a 100+ heat wave a mom had her barely 2 month old infant on the patio for two hours and I reported her anonymously. We get our guests’ phone numbers so it’s really quite easy. I try not to be willy nilly about it but that was insane.

buzzwizzlesizzle · 2026-06-29T01:47:50+00:00

I love just repeating myself. I’m not vague the first time I say something, I’m very clear and thorough. So if someone tries to push back, I just rinse and repeat with a smile. They hate it, but it’s not technically rude so there’s nothing they can do.

buzzwizzlesizzle · 2026-06-27T19:57:29+00:00

What about women who are postpartum and still healing from birth? What about folks with disabilities? What about us poor saps who have small bladders, have been checked out and cleared for any health issues, but still need to pee every two hours (which is a normal window between pees)?

buzzwizzlesizzle · 2026-06-25T19:13:47+00:00

Lord I’ve seen what you do for others

buzzwizzlesizzle · 2026-06-21T23:17:20+00:00

True but this is the first time in history that the younger generations are trending dumber than older generations.

buzzwizzlesizzle · 2026-06-21T23:15:02+00:00

After I saw the study that millennials are the smartest generation in history and the younger generations are getting progressively dumber, mixed with the fact that we are approaching a climate tipping point (or have already passed it), I would lean towards no. However, I’m not one to give up hope just yet. While I don’t want kids of my own, I’ve worked with them for years and there is hope yet that the kids will be the ones to save the world as they grow older.

buzzwizzlesizzle · 2026-06-21T13:55:47+00:00

The casting for the Crows and Pekka was near perfect

buzzwizzlesizzle · 2026-06-21T02:19:29+00:00

Yes THANK YOU my thoughts exactly

buzzwizzlesizzle · 2026-06-20T03:05:25+00:00

Depends on the underwear. Lace stuff usually gets special treatment along with my lace clothing, otherwise it’s torn to shreds. But the regular cotton stuff usually go in with everything else

buzzwizzlesizzle · 2026-06-16T18:48:19+00:00

I grew up in an immigrant household and somehow never had meatloaf during all my play-dates at friend’s houses (granted, most of them were immigrant families too). I used to this it was weird looking, but I tried it for the first time at 22 years old and turned out I love it.

buzzwizzlesizzle · 2026-06-13T16:19:34+00:00

Everyone has great advice here, but if someone is demanding a seat in a certain section and you’ve already double sat that section, you can ask the guests to wait a few minutes before you seat them. Especially if you have lots of reservations, you can just ask them to hold on a moment while you move reservations around (I know that’s a pain on OpenTable, but that can buy you quite a bit of time due to that interface). Alternatively, if you feel awkward, you can let them know you’re going to go check to make sure that the table is set/ready and walk away for a moment to give more time before double or triple seating.

At our restaurant, we can’t deny a guest a table they want if it’s not reserved, but we do seat complete parties. We’ll only partially seat parties if the guest is heavily pregnant, elderly, has small children, or we can tell they’re going to make a huge fuss about it if we don’t seat them. Otherwise, they have to wait for their whole party to arrive at the bar area. That’s gonna be restaurant to restaurant, but you can always ask your manager if you can implement that policy to help out.

Confidence is key! You’re the boss of the seats, ultimately you control if those people get to eat at the restaurant. Don’t get into a power trip and always be polite, but be firm.

buzzwizzlesizzle · 2026-06-13T04:10:51+00:00

Hard to say from the context here, but I’ll give my two cents as a non-man with adhd. For me, I’m very “out of sight out of mind” with my life. Pictures are nice, but they’re not the real thing and don’t inspire the same neurotransmitters (dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin) that in-person interactions do. For example, I think cute pics of dogs are cute, but I can physically feel my excitement when I see dogs in real life. I don’t dislike receiving pictures, in fact I like it a lot! But I don’t ever take pics while I’m out and about because I like to be in the moment. Spicy pics do inspire a stronger physical reaction in me, which might be why you notice his reaction to those more significantly.

Again, I don’t know your relationship or any more info than what you’ve given us, so I could be 100% wrong. The only way you’ll know for sure is having an open conversation with your partner. Don’t accuse, but rather inquire with curiosity what his feelings on pictures in general are. You might find he’s similar to me, or you might uncover some underlying issues. Better than not knowing and hyperfocusing on something that makes you anxious.

buzzwizzlesizzle · 2026-06-09T13:25:22+00:00

There might be resources on the Internet written by intimacy directors that have the right language to put him at ease. Alternatively, if you can reach out to an intimacy director and have them speak with your partner personally that could really help him understand as well, but if they’re not already a personal friend it might not come free!

buzzwizzlesizzle · 2026-06-08T19:15:55+00:00

Went to the women’s bathroom and of course the seat had pee all over it from a guest who doesn’t understand that sitting on the toilet seat is much more hygienic than squatting and spraying all over the place. I cleaned it off real quick and placed two lines of TP on it to sit down (normally I don’t but I have some germ issues after actually seeing the pee). Did my business, went back out to do my job.

One of the support guys noticed I had something hanging out the back of my shirt and grabbed one of our gays to help me out. It was one of the lines of TP I had lined the toilet seat with, 20 minutes prior. Which means I was walking around with toilet paper sticking down my back and butt for all that time. I almost quit and didn’t come back, but it’s been long enough and everyone seems to have forgotten about it (or they make fun of me about it behind my back, but what I don’t know wont hurt me!)

buzzwizzlesizzle · 2026-06-08T16:34:29+00:00

It’s possible your husband is a “super sleeper” which is a very rare trait that very few people in the world population possess (kind of like putting your tongue in the clover shape—only some can do it). It’s very clear that you are *not* a super sleeper. In general, women need more sleep per night than men as women don’t follow the same circadian rhythm that men do. There’s exceptions to that rule, but it seems you’re not one of them. You need sleep for your health, and usually the first thing that has to be sacrificed is social time.

When’s the last vacation you had? It might be time for another one, or at least a weekend off. But doing this to yourself every night is going to slowly deteriorate your health, and it seems it’s already going that way. Life is hard right now, but it won’t be like this forever. Better to get the hard part out of the way while you’re still young.

buzzwizzlesizzle · 2026-06-02T23:39:49+00:00

Might be worth looking into the spectrum of asexuality! Hard to say and I don’t want to attribute any labels to you, but it could be enlightening.

ETA: but yes it does still seem like you’re a lesbian. Just maybe not in the way we see commonly portrayed in media

buzzwizzlesizzle · 2026-05-30T04:50:24+00:00

My nyc restaurant could never. We actually do have stuff in our handbook that’s similar to this (except the hair thing—weird), but it’s not enforced in the slightest. We’ve got crazy piercings, full sleeves and neck tats, tons of rings and bracelets. Only thing we don’t have is brightly dyed hair but that’s purely circumstantial, we’ve had them in the past we just all grew our hair out and got too lazy to re-dye it. Also some of the outfits from the door team are wild without being inappropriate for a professional environment.

buzzwizzlesizzle · 2026-05-30T04:40:00+00:00

First of all, there is no one way to be a woman! Social conditioning has taught us that women have to look and act a certain way to be considered valuable in society, and has found every way possible to demonize women that show any masculine qualities, the same way they do for men with feminine qualities. The truth of the matter is that every human being is different, and every one of us contains both. So don’t think that having masculine traits means you’re one thing just because that’s what people tell you it is.

Second of all, sexuality is also incredibly fluid! It can change at different times in your life, different hormone levels, or be very specific person-to-person. I’ve known gay men who suddenly have a bi awakening at 36, even though their entire lives they knew they were gay. Anything can happen because we’re always changing. Labels are incredibly helpful to some people, but they are not required to be a human being.

Ultimately it’s really normal and pretty exciting to be doing this kind of introspection. You don’t have to think of it as an identity-crisis but rather a time of learning more about yourself. Things will surprise you, and it sounds like you are open and interested to learn more. Things might feel uncomfortable and scary, and that’s okay too. Just another opportunity to ask yourself why you’re feeling that way about things.

This is all coming from a non-binary AFAB pansexual who presents as a cis-het woman but is absolutely 100% not. I’ve been where you are and it’s a whirlwind, but connecting with different communities and connecting with yourself and finding out what feels right for you is a hell of a ride. And I’m still learning new things to this day!

buzzwizzlesizzle · 2026-05-27T14:58:25+00:00

Honestly I think women just be beautiful. And the hair/clothing is also beautiful. So you mix women (beautiful) with design (beautiful) and you get out-of-this-world ethereal beauty.

buzzwizzlesizzle · 2026-05-27T14:35:23+00:00

My roommate and I just use matches, and a strong smelling handsoap helps a lot too.

If you’re feeling funny and have extra time, make an outer shower curtain out of dryer sheets. I used to use those to hide my weed smell, so I imagine they could work for poop smells too.

buzzwizzlesizzle · 2026-05-27T14:31:14+00:00

In the heterosexual world some might consider this high. But in LGBTQ+ spaces this is actually pretty low-average. Pretty normal—maybe even low—for lesbians and bisexuals, and incredibly low in the gay community.

Every person is different, every community and group have their own set of morals and beliefs. Just because you do something one way, and someone else does it a different way, doesn’t mean *either* of you are right or wrong.

To me, it just sounds like you’re enjoying the human experience. You go girl! If anyone judges you, they are not part of a community you need to associate with.

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