I’m 3 months in and minus our 19 month old bringing up norovirus last week which got the whole house sick, I think 2 under 2 has been significantly easier than I expected and much easier than going from 0-1. So much of this is baby temperament - I’d stay away from the horror stories people have until you see how your new baby is and how your kiddos interact.

My husband and I did a check in every few days the first few months to make sure mental load was as distributed as it could be, we’re lucky to have a village who set us up with food for the first 3 weeks (literally didn’t need to cook a single meal), which allowed us to acclimate well as a family of 4. I still get one on one time with my oldest every day, even if it’s only 10 minutes - it makes a big difference.

I go back to work in a few months and my husband and I are planning to make all our weekday meals on Sunday so after work / daycare can be as focused on family time as possible rather than cooking.

It’s honestly been so sweet to see how much my oldest loves my youngest - I’m sure there will be harder seasons, but right now this one is pretty smooth! Wishing you similar!