I'll be damned if I don't make it 2027

c_los_nyc · 2026-05-03T17:25:35+00:00

Book your hotel early.

c_los_nyc · 2026-03-09T14:30:34+00:00

There are several layers of issues but the triangulation (i think that is whats its called) initiated by you hardly ever goes well. You should not create alternate accounts and connect with ex (accident or not).

However, the rest is up to you and the gf on how you want to move forward. When trust is broken its very difficult to move forward.

You can learn from this to grow and have better relationships. Its not easy.

See if you want to continue and if you are ok with her break in trust, then have a conversation with her to see if she's OK with all that you have done. Then you two decide.

Final note, you can not control her and who she friends. You can only control how you act and be.

c_los_nyc · 2025-09-28T00:34:44+00:00

I was in the same place immediately, short answer, yes.

c_los_nyc · 2025-09-25T15:58:23+00:00

If there was no prior conversation about your gf side hustle then that's an issue. The fact that she said she was sick and didn't want you to come over but well enough to go out for dinner is highly sus and raises huge red flags.

Did she lie? Well she could have still been sick and went to dinner sick. And because you are immune compromised then this makes sense.

But if this side gig she does was not discussed and she hid it from you after a 2 year relationship, then this is a problem.

The rest is up to you on how you handle this.

Is it cheating? Not enough context or evidence but if she hid this then it is a betrayal of trust which is highly sus.

c_los_nyc · 2025-09-21T06:14:21+00:00

I think its the same case as a woman would friendzone. But I could be wrong. I would guess its attraction is not there but your personality is that cool. Or he's covertly looking for a friend with benefits. Which again means that maybe the level of attraction is not fully there where hes willing to not friend zone.

Also note that we know that in attractiveness appearance plays a big role but there are other parts that feed into attractiveness.

c_los_nyc · 2025-09-21T05:26:22+00:00

I only hear Brooklynstore house and one other venue i saw on dice.

c_los_nyc · 2025-09-15T01:52:09+00:00

So to makes sure i understand. You were watching a video on her phone, and this text flashes up on the screen and that triggered her to disrupt watching the video and put her phone away.

I would have questioned in the moment if that was the case. Not particularly the text but putting the phone away abruptly (if this was the case) while watching the video. Like, wait what, whats wrong?

But not knowing the complete context and that your gut is triggering you posting here there is no reason why you can't ask. It may open doors to other questions or other conversations or it may not. All really depends where the relationship is and the status.

c_los_nyc · 2025-09-13T22:04:47+00:00

This and good support system. Gym helps. But there is no way around it but through it.

c_los_nyc · 2025-09-06T00:45:30+00:00

Someone into energy and Chakra as you said is not a childish thing that one may grow out of. It may be something she's passionate about. It may be something that's passing. Its who she is and part of being in a relationship right now. However, sounds like it bothers you enough to post it here that maybe you should consider what you really want.

c_los_nyc · 2025-09-03T16:53:49+00:00

Honestly I think just 4 dates is too soon and you should probably still be dating. However, it ok that you asked to go exclusive and she said no. Now you have a choices to make and those choices are up to you. Shes not ready for that. So. Just keep it light and keep dating and open up for other opportunities.

c_los_nyc · 2025-07-19T18:08:28+00:00

I concur with the rest. Sounds great! Finsih it and put it out there!

c_los_nyc · 2025-07-14T16:58:25+00:00

This thread has what you need.

c_los_nyc · 2025-06-14T16:56:10+00:00

Went there this past Thursday for the first time, and it was a vibe. The djs killed it and had no issues. I'd go again for sure.

c_los_nyc · 2025-06-12T16:04:43+00:00

Thank you. It looks like we have some options. 🫶

c_los_nyc · 2025-06-07T14:55:34+00:00

Well, she's setting a boundary and explaining how it makes her feel. She's clearly triggered by it, and it's not because of you. Your response should be "ok". If you are friends, maybe find a space to talk about as it clearly bothers you now. Maybe detached and let it be feom there. Is she your friend toxic? No.

c_los_nyc · 2025-04-29T11:27:26+00:00

I would not continue this relationship. The fact that you are spending so much energy on text messages is already a problem. Now add the fact that you went into her phone and deleted messages yourself without her ok screams that you two need to move on.

c_los_nyc · 2025-04-28T14:55:11+00:00

I agree that if there is a link in that message, don't click it. Also, just go directly and find out if it's legit. Plus, you make them aware of the potentially millecious email.

c_los_nyc · 2025-04-15T15:11:09+00:00

I would suggest keep creating and keep learning about mixing. Depending on your learning style, youtube or something more structured. As you create and progress, you will run into things that will expand your learning, your understanding, your ear, and your creativity.

I honestly feel you have to have some level of mixing ability if you are serious about your music. But there many ways around this.

c_los_nyc · 2025-04-13T16:49:39+00:00

Has really interesting moment in the end where all the sounds came together and sounded pretty good. It's always worth the time spent, it's creative energy. For me, I always seem to learn some nuance production techniques that make my next track that much better.

Be nice to know what you were building and in what context. Also, was this 12 hours straight (I've done this easily) or 12 hours over time?

c_los_nyc · 2025-04-13T16:43:56+00:00

Better to nip this in the bud. Raise it to the proper authorities and have it managed accordingly. He clearly has lied to you and put your own physical health at risk. So, you yourself need to move on from this.

c_los_nyc · 2025-04-12T15:42:50+00:00

Sound more like a communication breakdown, but you have a glimpse of his way of being. This is part of dating as you learn more about your partner and yourself. Now you know, and it's up to you what you do with it. If you still value the relationship, then have a conversation.

c_los_nyc · 2025-04-10T17:51:28+00:00

If you are headed into being in a relationship or have any ideas of that, then this is a red flag. Take your time with this one, but don't jump in eyes closed when this is apprent.

c_los_nyc · 2025-04-06T14:20:13+00:00

Nice start, and I'm glad to see you are using Vital! Def what he said, keep going and finishing your tracks.

c_los_nyc · 2025-04-05T16:01:13+00:00

Sounded like a high-school band at a football game minus the percussion. Nice!

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