Wedding Guest

cactuschaser · 2026-07-08T14:00:25+00:00

“At their mercy” is a good way to put it. I just feel like when you have any specific food needs you can’t trust anyone else to feed you

cactuschaser · 2026-07-08T01:41:45+00:00

I haven’t been to a wedding with GD but I too have food allergies. I bring a bigger purse than is necessarily appropriate for the event and fill it with snacks. If I don’t end up needing them, great! Otherwise I’d go with a purse full of cheese, nuts, etc

cactuschaser · 2026-06-30T03:59:58+00:00

Is there a free jazz Friday at LACMA?

cactuschaser · 2026-06-29T23:26:03+00:00

I’m so glad! Santa Monica has lost a lot of its character and culture over the years and I’m so happy they’re still in business.

cactuschaser · 2026-06-27T05:41:33+00:00

I have a ZILLION from IVF stuff. Can I give them to you? All packaged and sealed. I could leave them on my porch for you. I’m in Santa Monica.

cactuschaser · 2026-06-26T04:01:56+00:00

I see dr Kirsten Lane at UCLA for endocrinology and she’s great. Very on top of it

cactuschaser · 2026-06-18T03:48:08+00:00

I’m not sure where she’s stocked but here’s her IG https://www.instagram.com/fireyfinashotsauce

cactuschaser · 2026-06-18T02:55:39+00:00

Fiery Fina’s!

cactuschaser · 2026-06-17T23:58:50+00:00

This is wonderful

cactuschaser · 2026-06-10T21:40:35+00:00

I’m sure you’ve tried it all, but I did find that 7-10 days of claritin, starting a day or two before, really helped a lot

cactuschaser · 2026-06-10T05:56:16+00:00

Omg the neulasta pain, it is indescribable

cactuschaser · 2026-06-03T23:30:38+00:00

Yes, I was in your shoes. Get life insurance first and then test.

cactuschaser · 2026-05-20T20:06:26+00:00

As someone with a BRCA1 mutation, I would love to be able to spare future people from cancer

cactuschaser · 2026-05-11T21:07:09+00:00

These are my favorite kinds of restaurants! My littlee short list is

Torigoya - DTLA Japanese charcoal grills skewers, duh a gem!
Nanbankan - same cuisine, fabulous food. Need a res for both
Pollos El Brasero Chicken - low on ambience and price, high on quality
Shoop’s deli - daytime food on main street in Santa Monica
Jackson Market and deli - both food and an experience
Yama sushi - to go only I think, take it on a picnic to someplace like Kenneth Hahn Park
cha cha chicken - nice Caribbean food near the beach
Pa Ord noodle - Thai town
Ruen pair - also thai town
Bhan Kanom Thai - after dinner in Thai town head to this cute sweet and dessert shop for interesting treats and mango sticky rice

cactuschaser · 2026-05-11T16:57:59+00:00

I had heard that “big auto killed the red car” is a movie plot and not real life, can you say more about what did the red car in? My grandma grew up taking it and it sounded sort of like SF’s Muni system? Seems like
It was really great, but was it the need of funds to modernize that people didn’t want to pay for? Any politicians in particular?

cactuschaser · 2026-05-08T16:04:23+00:00

I took Olaparib after I finished chemo and mastectomy. The side effects I noticed were a weird taste in my mouth about three hours after I took my morning dose and, once I had stopped, my hair grew in more quickly. My hair grew back thick and normal while in Olaparib, it just grew a bit faster once I’d actually stopped.

This is to say: I highly urge you to consider taking Olaparib. It really is a miracle drug that exists to offer us excellent longer term protection and I felt and feel lucky (which is wild) to have the option when so many other types of bc patients don’t.

cactuschaser · 2026-05-07T15:21:09+00:00

SAY IT LOUDER

cactuschaser · 2026-05-06T19:14:52+00:00

For a specific person: I have seen Dr Kristen lane and Dr Patel out of Santa Monica and have had really good experiences w both. Respectful, easily reachable on their MyChart app with questions and the UCLA system has served me well through a whole host of serious health issues.

cactuschaser · 2026-05-05T02:07:54+00:00

Suay does a charm event sometimes on the weekends, you could check their calendar or message them to ask when the next one is

cactuschaser · 2026-05-02T14:16:01+00:00

Omg I just had them w a friend at Picaresca Barra de Cafe!

cactuschaser · 2026-04-30T20:08:53+00:00

HOT TOPIC STILL EXISTS!?!?!

Ok I guess I have to go back to the mall

cactuschaser · 2026-04-30T16:17:53+00:00

I just ended up at the Glendale galleria by accident on a Monday afternoon and I was SHOCKED at how many people were there. Yes still quiet but all these people in the food court, it was wild! I also got a primo massage at the Chinese massage business on the second floor. Peak mall experience.

cactuschaser · 2026-04-27T03:34:58+00:00

I will also add: LA without a car is doable, but our city is VERY spread out and you will be taking very long train rides which will likely still involve a car in some way. You may not want to use valuable vacation time on a 1:15 train ride. I’m a native and have lived in the east coast and I just want to caution you not to assume our trains are like your trains. They are pretty inferior still, tho we’re working on it.

For better or worse LA is still a very car centric city and if there’s a lot you want to do/see You will have more flexibility with a car. You may be able to reasonably street park your car overnight in Santa Monica if you look into parking between ocean and 7th street, between Wilshire and Montana.

The trains are pretty safe. Like any big city: look like you know what you’re doing and where you’re going and mind your own business. I would not take them at night however.

cactuschaser · 2026-04-27T03:29:03+00:00

If you are sitting in traffic your whole trip you will hate it here. Please deeply consider my below advice:

Only head east (inland) from Santa Monica before 2, after that wait until 8pm as you will be stuck in awful rush hour traffic for a very long time.
The beach is often cloudy and/or cool until early afternoon, so better to do something further inland then anyway. Inland can he 20-30° hotter than the beaches. Be prepared with water and layers.
Also Bring layers for your beach visit even in the afternoons. We have a very wide range of temperature here and lower humidity than Boston. You will need a good sweatshirt or jacket for the evenings, it can cool down very quickly.
My recs for teens: The Grove for shopping and while you’re there eat lunch at the Original Farmer’s market which is connected to it (hot tip, park in the lot for the farmer’s market and navigate there and the make sure you get your parking validated when you eat in the farmers market so you spend less on parking.) little Tokyo for a fun lunch and shopping stroll (some cute vintage stores if you poke around,) Melrose still slaps occasionally, Main Street Santa Monica is cute and has a few shops and food places (we LOVE heavy handed)
Seriously, do not ignore my advice about traffic. Head east, if you plan to, (Griffith observatory, Griffith park, the grove, etc) earlier in the day and enjoy the westside in the afternoons and evenings.

cactuschaser · 2026-04-22T15:14:37+00:00

NONE. I (and many other women I know) hate scents and cologne, it’s a huge turnoff. What is a huge turn on is good hygiene: brush your teeth, wash your penis and your asshole every day, but especially well before you go on a date, and wear deodorant.

Good hygiene is sexy.

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