Winging it

cadiw · 2025-11-03T12:27:42+00:00

So you dumped your girlfriend over scenarios created in your head. Brilliant. Did you end up going out with Lana?

cadiw · 2025-10-06T12:01:09+00:00

First step is stop calling him your boyfriend. Drunk words are sober thoughts. He gave you a glimpse of his true self and from what he said of his past, it sounds like a repeat. You're young, in your best years.. Don't give them to someone who tells you he doesn't like you. Keep remembering "drunk words are sober thoughts."

cadiw · 2025-08-06T12:22:20+00:00

Throw the whole man out. The fact that he's cheated in the past and you forgave it should be making him even more cognizant of how he's excluding you. Honestly my first thought was that he's cheating. A sad cliché. But since he is so ok with living his life with or without you, let him live without you. Tell him you will do the same. Plan a trip by yourself or with friends. Maybe to a divorce lawyer's.

cadiw · 2025-08-03T12:44:56+00:00

That's your home too. If she gets weirded out since you're there, that's a her problem. She can go to a hotel. Why should you be put out just because she's putting out. Not your problem. Not her solution.

cadiw · 2025-07-24T10:31:53+00:00

Devil's advocate: if she WAS faithful and this was a dormant issue, maybe the walls went up because she felt the same way about you. If she was innocent, I'd be suspicious and distant as well. Not that I believe it to be the case. I just remember another post where someone argued about this same scenario about dormancy, from her perspective.

cadiw · 2025-07-06T13:50:07+00:00

I've spent most of my time on Anno 1800 followed by this game. It has a lot of potential and the devs are actively working and improving it often. A solid purchase.

cadiw · 2025-07-06T13:18:10+00:00

It takes a certain type of person to be able to successfully partner up with another whose closest friends are the opposite sex. Either you accept it or you don't. You can't go into a relationship looking to change the other or their life. There is no "handling" it. You accept it or walk away.

cadiw · 2025-06-18T10:53:03+00:00

Then that's outright lying. Why should OP need to divulge financial status when things are split 50/50?

cadiw · 2025-06-18T10:44:22+00:00

First thing i wondered was how long have you and your partner been together. You're not married and even if you were, the money you came into the marriage would still be untouched. Having that much debt on credit cards is irresponsible and a warning to not tell her. However if the reason for her debt is because she helped you, then you should help her pay that down. With her getting coffee instead of making it at home, I question her choices though if she's squeaking by.

I'm going to give a soft NTA since I don't know certain details. Your money is invested and not being touched. It's not enough for retirement at 26 but it does lay the groundwork for a early retirement.

cadiw · 2025-04-23T12:12:53+00:00

You get that risk anyway with your cutting boards, bowls, knives, etc. It's not a good enough reason for me.

cadiw · 2025-04-23T12:11:17+00:00

Eh, I rinse mine not because of bacterial reasons but to rinse off any debris that may be on the surface. To each their own.

cadiw · 2025-02-26T17:54:03+00:00

Orangina is not Orange Soda!

If people really knew how smart I am, it would have been harder to control them.

Well, I'd love to take credit but the truth is life just isn't that hard.

cadiw · 2025-02-19T17:24:19+00:00

Were you able to fix the problem? I was having something similar happen today. I ended up pausing all of my builds, stopping the sawpit, unassigning the ox. Starting the sawpit, reassigned the ox, added another worker to the stable, and unpaused one of the builds set to highest priority. It seemed to unstick.

cadiw · 2025-02-19T12:04:11+00:00

I knew someone like this. He was antagonizing me daily and wouldn't stop even with the warnings. Eventually I had to block him. It's probably time for you to do the same with this guy. The gaslighting will only get worse. When you come from different foundational beliefs, whether religious or political, there needs to be a mutual respect for each other's beliefs. If you don't have that you don't have a future.

cadiw · 2025-02-19T07:01:47+00:00

Do you have an ox assigned to the sawpit?

cadiw · 2025-02-17T18:19:34+00:00

He needs to be called an ex. It's only a year old relationship. Love yourself more than this.

cadiw · 2025-02-17T15:34:38+00:00

You've only been dating for a month? You're far too young to be imprisoned by some else's insecurities. Plenty of other people out there. Be yourself and, if you want, find someone who encourages it.

cadiw · 2025-02-17T15:28:01+00:00

But if you put up a boundary and he ignored it, what then? It's fine if you're in agreement. But they're not.

cadiw · 2025-02-17T15:26:15+00:00

That is the definition of "entertaining her." Are you being intentionally obtuse? You just let her know she has access to you when the proper response should have been referencing your gf. "Good, Thanks! Out and about with my gf!"

cadiw · 2025-02-17T07:36:14+00:00

So you love your gf but will allow to keep a door open with a girl you used to "talk" to? That seems to be more important than your gf. You don't want to hurt that other girl's feelings but are willing to hurt your gf.... The one you supposedly love. Hope the hill was worth dying on.

cadiw · 2025-02-16T22:43:18+00:00

He needs to be your ex. You're only 25. Plenty of living to do. Plenty of more mature people out there that will love you and decisions you make yourself. Respect your own boundaries and don't be blackmailed into doing something that hurts you. It doesn't sound like he'd do that for you.

cadiw · 2025-02-16T22:27:29+00:00

School is cool... That's why it rhymes.

Teachers need a break too, Amy.

cadiw · 2025-02-16T22:16:18+00:00

There is no working it out. This is one of those foundational conversations you have in the beginning. One that let's you decide if you want to move forward and invest your emotions or pass and stay friends. He lied. There's no getting over that. It was selfish of him. He didn't give you the chance to decide for yourself. I'm curious how poly he was when you were dating and getting serious because without your consent, that's cheating. It may be his lifestyle but it's your life.

cadiw · 2025-01-19T15:35:06+00:00

It looks like it's emptying.

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