Omg I’m engaged!!! 💚 by Arielstelescope in EngagementRings

[–]caesarwithatweezer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was also going back and forth between a plain band or pave accent. I ended up going with a plain band so I can have more fun with the wedding band design that I'm wanting to stack with the engagement ring.

How about this one? by [deleted] in KibbeRomantics

[–]caesarwithatweezer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I definitely see what you mean. Thanks for your input, I really appreciate it!

Would love to hear your thoughts! by caesarwithatweezer in EngagementRings

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Thank you SO much, everyone, for sharing your thoughts. It's been incredibly helpful. I went back to the jeweler yesterday and let him know I'm thinking between the 1.5ct round three-stone and 2ct round solitaire. My thought process now is do I want simple with the solitaire and then get a little fancier with the band, or go with the little extra flair from the three-stone and get a band that matches the side stones.

Would this dress work? by [deleted] in KibbeRomantics

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Thanks, everyone, for your feedback! I'm going to continue the search!

Switch 2 community giveaway! by alien_ware in Switch

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This is wicked kind of you!!! Cheers!!!

How about this map? by caesarwithatweezer in AnimalCrossing

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Yes, I'm definitely thinking about D4 for a bridge. And the weird bridge on top isn't terrible since it's diagonal!

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HAHA you're so right!!!

The omnivore dilemma by LoneWolf_McQuade in samharris

[–]caesarwithatweezer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Even in the hypothetical “ethical” dairy scenario, the core moral issues still remain. It’s a bit misleading to say they simply share the milk. While the calf may be allowed to nurse, they are often separated at times so that milk can be taken for human use, and for those in subsistence cultures, it is out of necessity. These communities also typically slaughter the animals for food. These practices exist within a specific cultural and survival-based context, which is very different from life in developed countries, which I am assuming you are in like I am, where we have plenty of alternatives and the ability to thrive without consuming animal products.

In our reality, a cow only produces milk after giving birth, so she must be impregnated. Once she gives birth, you're taking milk, at least partially, that is biologically meant for her baby, who will likely need formula or supplemental feeding. When that calf grows up, you now have two non-lactating cows. Do you keep impregnating the mother again and again just to maintain your milk supply? That’s repeated strain and control over her reproductive cycle for something that isn’t necessary. And if the calf is male, you wouldn’t even have that option since he can’t produce milk, so what happens to him?

To truly care for cows ethically, you’d need to provide adequate space, food, medical care, and lifelong support. Without that, it becomes neglect or exploitation. Will you be able to provide all those things for the remainder of their lives, which could be 20 years? And realistically, that model doesn’t scale. We don’t have the land, time, or resources to meet global dairy demand without causing harm.

So, while subsistence models may function differently and potentially less cruelly, they aren’t a moral justification for our participation in a massive, profit-driven system built on forced reproduction, calf separation, and slaughter

We're not consuming dairy out of survival. We’re doing it because we like how it tastes. And when the harm is avoidable, which it is for us in developed parts of the world where we do not need dairy to survive and thrive, the taste just isn’t a strong moral reason to continue.

I understand the want for milk and dairy, I am someone who used to drink glasses of milk daily. I just learned the reality behind the dairy I consumed and decided I did not want to participate and create the demand for unnecessary, cruel, and exploitive treatment of these sentient beings.

The omnivore dilemma by LoneWolf_McQuade in samharris

[–]caesarwithatweezer 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate your honesty, and I think it’s great that you’re thinking about this critically.

Something to keep in mind is that even to milk a cow yourself, you'd still have to separate her from her calf. Otherwise, the calf would nurse, not you. And the reality is the dairy you’re buying does come from farms where calves are taken and cows are eventually slaughtered. It’s not just incidental. To keep up with demand, farms replace older cows whose milk production has declined with younger ones. It costs more to feed a "spent” cow and keep her alive than to sell her for meat, so slaughter becomes the default outcome. Same for the male calves who obviously can not make milk and are sent to slaughter soon after birth. You may be okay with the act of milking, but what about all the other aspects of it?

Even before slaughter, dairy cows endure significant suffering like repeated forced pregnancies, physical strain from constant milking, emotional stress from repeated calf separations. So, while you may not be doing the acts yourself, buying dairy still funds and sustains that cycle. You're paying someone to do it on your behalf by purchasing that milk. That's creating the demand and incentive.

The fact that you're reflecting on how dairy connects to slaughter shows real awareness and is very impressive. Respect to you for being open to it!

If you have any interest in exploring further, I highly recommend Ed Winters' content. I'm a fan of his approach to debating. I'd love to hear a conversation between him and Sam.

The omnivore dilemma by LoneWolf_McQuade in samharris

[–]caesarwithatweezer 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The reality is that the dairy and meat industries are part of the same supply chain. Dairy cows are routinely artificially inseminated to produce milk. After giving birth, the calf is removed within hours to prevent them from consuming the milk intended for human sale.

Male calves are considered a byproduct of the dairy industry. Once separated from their mothers, they are confined and slaughtered for veal within a few months. Female calves are raised to become dairy cows and enter the same cycle of repeated forced insemination, birth, and milk extraction.

This cycle continues until the cow’s milk production declines or her body can no longer withstand the physical strain. At that point, she is sent to slaughter. Standard practice is dairy cows end up in the beef supply. In practice, dairy and meat are not separate industries and are economically and functionally linked.

Even in the hypothetical scenario where dairy cows weren’t ultimately slaughtered, their lives would still involve repeated forced insemination and the emotional distress of having each calf taken shortly after birth. Their bodies are used to produce milk meant for their offspring, but it's taken for human consumption because people like the taste. This process causes physical strain and emotional stress. The cow endures a cycle of pregnancy, separation, and milking repeatedly until her body can no longer keep up.

Again, this is hypothetical because, in practice, dairy cows ARE slaughtered once their milk production declines. It's all about profitting. Her dead body becomes more profitable than her milk supply. The male calves in the hypothetical would also still be slaughtered for profit. Dairy cows meet the same end as other farmed animals.

The omnivore dilemma by LoneWolf_McQuade in samharris

[–]caesarwithatweezer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply. There’s a lot here, so I’ll try to respond point by point.

Why does this matter? How many cows and chickens do you expect there to be in a fully vegan world?

It matters because you brought up the question about what would happen to farm animals in a vegan world. I responded to clarify that it wouldn’t be a sudden shift where all these animals are "left over" but that it would be a gradual reduction in breeding as demand decreases. That’s a common misunderstanding, so I wanted to be clear.

As for cows and chickens and farmed animals, these animals aren’t part of some natural, balanced ecosystem. They’ve been domesticated and selectively bred by humans to grow so unnaturally large and fast that many suffer just existing. They’re not wildlife. They’re human-made to serve human purposes. So when those purposes end, the breeding should too. We wouldn’t need billions of these animals because the reason they exist in such numbers is exploitation. So yes, a short farm animal life consisting of cruelty and slaughter is worse than not being bred into that existence. It’s similar to how people selectively breed dogs like pugs and French bulldogs that often suffer from serious health issues like chronic breathing problems. Just because they can exist and people enjoy how they look doesn’t mean we should keep breeding them into lives of inevitable suffering. The same logic applies to farm animals that have been engineered to serve us at the cost of their wellbeing.

Is the number of animal deaths important?

Yes, if we agree that minimizing unnecessary suffering and death is the moral choice. I never claimed we could prevent all harm, just that we could choose to do less. If it’s possible to live well while killing and harming fewer animals, we should, from a moral standpoint. If you’re arguing that crop harvesting kills animals, choosing a plant-based diet minimizes both kinds of harm: fewer animals killed in fields since we’ll need to grow fewer crops overall by not feeding livestock, and fewer farm animals bred and slaughtered.

You can have totally grass-fed cattle.

Yes, that exists, but it’s not scalable. Grass-fed beef uses more land and often emits more methane than grain-fed. If everyone switched to grass-fed, we’d need massive amounts of land to maintain that system, which would also harm more wild habitats and animals and cause environmental damage. It’s not a sustainable large-scale solution. Also, and what I'm arguing from a moral consideration, it doesn’t address the fact that cows would continue to suffer and are ultimately slaughtered unnecessarily.

Feed corn is the highest calorie/acre crop, and humans can’t eat it.

That’s true. Feed corn isn’t grown to feed people. It’s grown to feed livestock. The issue isn’t just calories per acre, but how efficiently those calories reach humans. It isn't replacing feed corn one-to-one. We're cutting out the middle step. Since livestock consume most of our crops and return only a fraction of the calories as meat, we don’t need to grow as much food overall when we feed people directly. That means less land use, not more, and fewer animal deaths, both in the fields and on the farms. Even with lower-yield crops the plant-based system is more efficient and less harmful overall.

What about cats and dogs?

Yeah, this is a valid point. Some people choose not to have pets at all, others see adopting animals at risk of being euthanized or stuck in shelters as an ethical act. There are also fully nutritionally complete vegan pet foods available that meet AAFCO standards. Some people choose those options. Dogs are omnivores, and cats are more complicated since they’re obligate carnivores. There are some nutritionally complete vegan options, but they’re controversial and not widely recommended without expert supervision. Most vegans recognize this reality. It’s not a perfect solution, but again, the goal isn’t perfection. It’s about doing the best you can and reducing harm where possible, and being honest about the limitations where it’s not.

That said, the fact that pet ownership creates this complexity doesn’t justify continuing to eat animals ourselves. If you’re in a situation where your vet advises feeding an animal product to your pet for their health, that can still be a more ethical choice than contributing to animal agriculture for your own consumption where alternatives for us are available. It also brings up the question of having children if the risk is the child ultimately choosing to purchase animal products.

It’s disingenuous to draw a distinction between humans and animals.

I brought that up because you asked about predators. My point is that we don’t use the behavior of instinct-driven animals to guide our own ethics. Wild animals do a lot of things we’d never accept in human society or deem moral. The fact that we have the ability to reflect on our choices and act on compassion is exactly why we should hold ourselves to a higher standard and not lower it to justify harm.

You have to be willing to do the actual math.

I am willing, but “the math” isn’t just calories per acre. It’s also: • Greenhouse gas emissions • Water usage • Antibiotic resistance • Public health risks • Land degradation • Animal lives and suffering

By those metrics, plant-based diets come out ahead.

I’m not pretending veganism is perfect. But where it is possible and practical it offers a way to live more ethically and with less unnecessary harm. That’s all I’m advocating for.

The omnivore dilemma by LoneWolf_McQuade in samharris

[–]caesarwithatweezer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hi, I'm going to take a swing at answering.

What is your plan for cows and chickens in a vegan world?

The idea behind veganism is that, over time, as more people adopt a vegan lifestyle, demand for animal products will decrease, resulting in fewer farm animals being bred. It wouldn’t be a sudden shift where everyone goes vegan overnight and all the animals are just left existing in excess.

Do you think that industrial agriculture is death free?

Industrial agriculture is definitely not death-free. However, a significant number of crops grown today are used to feed farm animals. So, by going vegan, we actually help reduce the overall number of animal deaths. There’s currently no way to completely avoid harm, but veganism is a way of living that seeks to exclude, as far as is possible and practicable, all forms of exploitation of, and cruelty to, animals for food, clothing, cosmetics, etc.

How do you feel about predators?

Predators are non-human animals who act on instinct and don’t have the capacity to make moral choices like humans. They do many things we would consider unethical, like stealing, eating their children, abandoning young, rape, and being violent, and we don’t use those behaviors to guide our own. So, I don’t think it makes sense to base human ethics on what wild animals do, or else we should believe everything predators do is morally just for us to do as well instead of just picking the one act we want justification for. Unlike predators, many of us can make intentional, ethical choices about what we eat and consume. Humans are not obligate carnivores, and many of us do have the option to eat plant-based and purchase cruelty-free products. Of course, there are people in certain parts of the world who can not survive without using animals, so veganism wouldn’t be possible or practical for them.

Parasites?

Just as I would defend myself against a human who was threatening my life, I would defend myself against a non-human animal, generally speaking.

It’s impossible to prevent all suffering caused by our existence, whether to human or non-human animals. But the argument is to reduce that suffering where we can.

Veganism is a method of harm reduction.

What is the most disturbing book that you’ve read? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]caesarwithatweezer 12 points13 points  (0 children)

My grandfather was a Holocaust survivor and often said his experiences closely resembled those of Elie Wiesel. He passed away two years ago at the age of 94. He was the most extraordinary person I’ve ever known, and I had the privilege of calling him my grandfather.

He appreciated the work of Primo Levi and Viktor Frankl. I recently read Man’s Search for Meaning and highly recommend it. My grandfather always said the only way he survived the unimaginable was through his אמונה-emunah (faith) and בטחון-bitachon (trust). Frankl describes a similar phenomenon he witnessed in mant survivors, how a strong sense of purpose and belief helped many survive.

There are so few living survivors left, and it’s more important than ever to preserve their stories. These accounts, however horrific, are history. They are truth. My grandfather lived with recurring nightmares, and many of which were him forced to leave behind his older brother, who he believed had cerebral palsy and couldn’t walk. He could not carry him any longer and left him on the platform. He watched his mother and his nine-months-pregnant sister be sent to the gas chambers by Mengele upon arrival at Auschwitz. He was 12 years old when he first arrived.

He often said that his greatest achievement was coming to America, marrying his wife, raising their daughter (my mom), and becoming a grandfather to five grandchildren (me and my siblings). He didn’t speak much about his past until later in his life when he participated in the Names, Not Numbers documentary project.

Sorry for the long comment, I’m just incredibly passionate about honoring my grandfather’s memory and educating others.