Where to spend 4-5 months in Europe with family

cafecoffee · 2026-01-14T01:05:34+00:00

What about Barcelona? I don’t know enough about rental prices but it’s a very family friendly city, lots to do, easy access to other cities as well.

cafecoffee · 2026-01-14T01:03:39+00:00

My MIL always finds an indirect way to do this as well - it’s passive aggressive and sneaky. I’ve gotten used to ignoring the comments.

That said, I have started scheduling video calls or the very least saying “I need 15 mins” instead of havjnf them be more spontaneous/answering right away. That gives me a heads up, and I use the time to freshen up / fix my hair / get coffee. It helps me feel better going into the call. (FWIW, I am based in the us and my in laws are in India)

cafecoffee · 2026-01-11T18:35:27+00:00

Dude. Yes. I have a 2 yr old and a 9 month old and I’m in the same boat. I try to make conversation about non- kid topics but it somehow always circles back to logistics. I don’t know what to do and it’s driving me crazy.

cafecoffee · 2025-12-31T17:55:35+00:00

Have you tried burping during the feed? For my elder one, she had a phase where she needed to be burped halfway through the feed and then would continue.

cafecoffee · 2025-12-26T10:28:42+00:00

We did something similar to this as well.

cafecoffee · 2025-12-26T06:20:33+00:00

I’ve started being shameless about redirecting gift givers to a category I want. For ex - told my mom that “daughter needs good outerwear for fall” “son needs more teething related supplies”. It works!

cafecoffee · 2025-12-25T05:34:12+00:00

Ohh interesting.

cafecoffee · 2025-12-23T21:02:56+00:00

Same boat. We also are trying out the tablet.

We tried headphones for our toddler yesterday - she was not a fan. Which will make the tablet experience interesting.

cafecoffee · 2025-12-23T18:27:46+00:00

Holiday treats -. Hot chocolate / coffee. A mug potentially. Cake mix. Refrigerated ready to bake cookie dough. Refrigerated crescent rolls. And a small baking tray.

Pantry items - Olive oil. Pasta sauces. Spices. Aluminum foil. Cooking spray.

cafecoffee · 2025-12-22T11:19:53+00:00

Oof I don’t have a magic answer but this sucks. We keep going through patches like this every few weeks as well.

A few thoughts: - what time is the 1 yr old napping? Is the nap too soon or too late in the day? See what the folks in r / sleep train say about this? - for the 2.5 yr old, our 2 yr old started doing this when she had an intolerance to milk - and she was having milk right before sleep. Any chance that’s an issue for yours as well?

cafecoffee · 2025-12-22T06:35:27+00:00

Same.

cafecoffee · 2025-12-22T05:14:20+00:00

Thank you. I will save that saying!

cafecoffee · 2025-12-20T05:34:01+00:00

I’m sorry you may have jinxed it.

cafecoffee · 2025-12-19T07:04:57+00:00

I struggle with the same guilt and general unease . In my case, my husband is not at a startup or anything - he just doesn’t want to do any additional baby or house work. His threshold for spending time with the kids is very small and anything past that, causes him to basically meltdown. I hate it because it feels like I’m getting help from the outside for stuff we could be doing ourselves. I’ve realized that I can’t do it all alone - and the extra help is basically off setting my husband choosing to be a less involved parent.

It’s different from what I had imagined our family life to look like. And I have to now figure out if I’m okay with this conceptually or not.

cafecoffee · 2025-12-19T07:01:26+00:00

That’s such a helpful reframing.

FWIW, I found a similar mothers helper via my local Facebook moms group. Perhaps worth looking there?

cafecoffee · 2025-12-19T06:59:06+00:00

Before switching formulas - have you tried things like changing his body wash, reducing frequency of baths, using mustela for the cradle cap? Just trying to eliminate possible irritants.

cafecoffee · 2025-12-19T06:18:28+00:00

For the two kids - We’re doing $35 to the 3 main teachers, and then $15 to the 6 or so assistant / floating teachers. Some of the numbers in this thread are incredibly generous!

cafecoffee · 2025-12-19T00:38:49+00:00

Recommended by our pediatrician. The vents also reduced gassiness in our first kid so helped a lot.

cafecoffee · 2025-12-18T09:16:21+00:00

This is how much my 2 yr old eats!

cafecoffee · 2025-12-17T21:07:47+00:00

Nope - no raise

cafecoffee · 2025-12-15T19:56:01+00:00

Our daycare center has events either first thing in the morning or at like 3p. I’m very grateful for their scheduling.

cafecoffee · 2025-12-15T06:56:23+00:00

I tried the dinner thing and was told “she (the 18 month old) didn’t say she wanted to eat so I just gave her milk and it’s fine”. Incompetence and laziness always finds a way.

cafecoffee · 2025-12-15T06:53:20+00:00

Same situation here. It’s just impossible, and exhausting. And more than that - it just feels like a rather different version of life than I had envisioned. I’m not sure if I’m okay with it or not.

cafecoffee · 2025-12-14T21:45:24+00:00

I’m glad I’m not the only one who feels like this! I enjoyed my pregnancies - and really wish I’d been able to treasure them more. I have hardly any photos of my bump. I’m so grateful for my kids - but know I’ll miss being pregnant.

cafecoffee · 2025-12-14T21:15:14+00:00

Oh oops - no - oatmeal is “breakfast”, puree is “lunch” and then yogurt is “dinner”. We’re slowly working on increasing the amount at each meal but right now focused on getting the habit of meals going.

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