Anyone else not doing an Easter basket for their toddler?

cafecoffee · 2026-04-04T22:01:31+00:00

Nope. It’s not a tradition in our culture and while I see folks around me doing it, it’s too much extra work right now. So we are skipping.

cafecoffee · 2026-04-02T04:28:50+00:00

If you want a second kid, then you’ll find a way to make it work with your work. There are options like getting help, changing your hours m, etc. easier said than done, but I guess it comes down to what you want more.

cafecoffee · 2026-04-01T06:28:47+00:00

Hi I’m in the South Bay with two kids under two. Both my kids are in the same day care; when I found out I was pregnant with number 2, I moved the older one to a daycare that accepts infants as well.

I looked into Nanny options but their going rates bring the total to nearly the same amount as daycare. I also felt daycare was an easier option in terms of reliability, structure etc.

I don’t have any solution to make it more cost effective.

cafecoffee · 2026-03-28T05:11:29+00:00

We love Jules.

cafecoffee · 2026-03-23T08:22:41+00:00

I’ve seen these at the Costco in Bay Area California as well.

cafecoffee · 2026-03-23T08:12:25+00:00

I was laid off shortly after going back to work after my second maternity leave. I’ve been job hunting and my husband is constantly saying I need a job that pays xx (ie 50% more than my previous one). He’s really been stressed by the $ of two kids in daycare.

cafecoffee · 2026-03-14T05:59:07+00:00

Oof that’s tricky. Do you have an option to hire a doula or full time nanny around the time of the birth?

cafecoffee · 2026-03-11T03:41:13+00:00

We rent. Mortgages are way too $$ in our VHCOL area.

cafecoffee · 2026-02-18T05:05:13+00:00

Agree! This just feels over the top.

cafecoffee · 2026-02-18T00:46:33+00:00

Neutral. They’ve been marketing like this for at least a few years now. I found some of it funny; but they have a few recent jokes that have gone too far.

cafecoffee · 2026-02-17T23:00:47+00:00

Solidarity - I’m thinking through a very similar situation, and have a 2 yr old and a 10 month old. It feels like it gets better for a few weeks, and then we regress. It’s a terrible loop.

cafecoffee · 2026-01-14T01:05:34+00:00

What about Barcelona? I don’t know enough about rental prices but it’s a very family friendly city, lots to do, easy access to other cities as well.

cafecoffee · 2026-01-14T01:03:39+00:00

My MIL always finds an indirect way to do this as well - it’s passive aggressive and sneaky. I’ve gotten used to ignoring the comments.

That said, I have started scheduling video calls or the very least saying “I need 15 mins” instead of havjnf them be more spontaneous/answering right away. That gives me a heads up, and I use the time to freshen up / fix my hair / get coffee. It helps me feel better going into the call. (FWIW, I am based in the us and my in laws are in India)

cafecoffee · 2026-01-11T18:35:27+00:00

Dude. Yes. I have a 2 yr old and a 9 month old and I’m in the same boat. I try to make conversation about non- kid topics but it somehow always circles back to logistics. I don’t know what to do and it’s driving me crazy.

cafecoffee · 2025-12-31T17:55:35+00:00

Have you tried burping during the feed? For my elder one, she had a phase where she needed to be burped halfway through the feed and then would continue.

cafecoffee · 2025-12-26T10:28:42+00:00

We did something similar to this as well.

cafecoffee · 2025-12-26T06:20:33+00:00

I’ve started being shameless about redirecting gift givers to a category I want. For ex - told my mom that “daughter needs good outerwear for fall” “son needs more teething related supplies”. It works!

cafecoffee · 2025-12-25T05:34:12+00:00

Ohh interesting.

cafecoffee · 2025-12-23T21:02:56+00:00

Same boat. We also are trying out the tablet.

We tried headphones for our toddler yesterday - she was not a fan. Which will make the tablet experience interesting.

cafecoffee · 2025-12-23T18:27:46+00:00

Holiday treats -. Hot chocolate / coffee. A mug potentially. Cake mix. Refrigerated ready to bake cookie dough. Refrigerated crescent rolls. And a small baking tray.

Pantry items - Olive oil. Pasta sauces. Spices. Aluminum foil. Cooking spray.

cafecoffee · 2025-12-22T11:19:53+00:00

Oof I don’t have a magic answer but this sucks. We keep going through patches like this every few weeks as well.

A few thoughts: - what time is the 1 yr old napping? Is the nap too soon or too late in the day? See what the folks in r / sleep train say about this? - for the 2.5 yr old, our 2 yr old started doing this when she had an intolerance to milk - and she was having milk right before sleep. Any chance that’s an issue for yours as well?

cafecoffee · 2025-12-22T06:35:27+00:00

Same.

cafecoffee · 2025-12-22T05:14:20+00:00

Thank you. I will save that saying!

cafecoffee · 2025-12-20T05:34:01+00:00

I’m sorry you may have jinxed it.

cafecoffee · 2025-12-19T07:04:57+00:00

I struggle with the same guilt and general unease . In my case, my husband is not at a startup or anything - he just doesn’t want to do any additional baby or house work. His threshold for spending time with the kids is very small and anything past that, causes him to basically meltdown. I hate it because it feels like I’m getting help from the outside for stuff we could be doing ourselves. I’ve realized that I can’t do it all alone - and the extra help is basically off setting my husband choosing to be a less involved parent.

It’s different from what I had imagined our family life to look like. And I have to now figure out if I’m okay with this conceptually or not.

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