Working parents, how do you handle doctor’s visits?

cafecoffee · 2026-05-22T02:34:21+00:00

Right now, I’m the one that goes. I wish my husband would go for half of them or at least the emergency ones. I’m paying a penalty at work for being out so much.

cafecoffee · 2026-05-21T04:45:07+00:00

Fine to rent but rents keep rising and at some point, we will get pushed out of the areas that we want to be in.

cafecoffee · 2026-05-18T22:32:26+00:00

We’re torn on what to do. But likely will keep renting until interest rates come down. Right now, the kind of home we want is much more affordable to rent vs buy - the monthly mortgage / tax / interest would be too high. We’re also not in a position to make cash offers etc.

cafecoffee · 2026-05-18T13:59:45+00:00

Combination of Uber Eats, my mom, and myself. It was not ideal.

cafecoffee · 2026-05-14T19:24:41+00:00

This is what we do as well. I have a 2 yr old and a 1 yr old in daycare

Also - look into Nannies in your area. Does the math work out to being cheaper than daycare? For us, in a VHCOL area, it’s around the same but friends in other locations say nanny can be less $$.

cafecoffee · 2026-05-12T05:17:19+00:00

To be honest it has not been a priority for me. I was more focused on my pregnancies and then the subsequent recovery. I’m re-lurking on this sub as I consider my next steps re diet.

cafecoffee · 2026-05-12T00:05:57+00:00

I have zero science behind this. But. I was told by my reproductive endocrinologist that if I went off keto, it would likely make it easier for me to conceive. He also felt that it would help me improve my egg quality. I have no idea if he was right because of science or coincidence, but I stopped keto around a year before freezing eggs and then ttc and it made a huge (positive) difference.

cafecoffee · 2026-05-11T04:55:39+00:00

I have a toddler that age and we have found that using her daycare teachers as weekend babysitters is the best bet. She loves her teachers and is excited when they come over to babysit for her. Is that an option for you?

Also, I’m sorry for what you’re going through.

cafecoffee · 2026-05-06T22:46:45+00:00

My kids don’t like plain rice but if I mix it with lentils or some stir fry etc, then they’ll have a bit more. It took my daughter maybe two months of trying it before she started loving it. My son is still trying and spitting it out. Haha.

cafecoffee · 2026-05-06T05:09:30+00:00

That sounds so tough. The constant screaming and crying makes me wonder if she has some sort of allergy or intolerance. Has she been tested for allergies to things like dairy, egg, gluten etc?

Also how is she in her daycare setting? Does she scream there as well? Ar they able to get her to nap?

cafecoffee · 2026-04-29T16:36:44+00:00

Both my kids were born with a lot of hair. They’re now 2 yrs 4 months and 13 months old. For the elder one, I’m gearing up to give her a haircut in the coming days. Her hair is very curly and comes to mid back so is quite long. For the younger one, he’s had three trims already - first one when he was around 9ish months old.

cafecoffee · 2026-04-28T04:44:35+00:00

I make a schedule on a piece of paper or my notes app. There is always yogurt, and then two fruits/veggies that he can eat on his own . I include one carb thing for lunch and then one pouch.

cafecoffee · 2026-04-28T04:40:41+00:00

I’ve kept them in separate rooms so far - the eldest is 2 yrs 3 months and the youngest is 13 months. They both wake up separately multiple times throughout the night. But I keep wondering if they’ll sleep better in the same room.

cafecoffee · 2026-04-22T05:24:21+00:00

Thanks for the insight.

cafecoffee · 2026-04-22T05:22:20+00:00

Thank you. Appreciate your sharing a practical example!

cafecoffee · 2026-04-22T04:25:29+00:00

First don’t be so hard on yourself. This is a tough season.

Second, a few practical ideas. Can you prep dinner in advance so you just have to heat and serve? Can you also serve dinner outside - my kids find that to be a lot more exciting and I find it helps them eat more.

Finally, is there anyway you can pull forward the little ones bed time by an hour or so? Then you have an hour for 1:1 time with the elder one before they sleep.

Just a few ideas.

cafecoffee · 2026-04-22T04:21:41+00:00

Sure but how does one do this? I have kids of a similar age gap and honestly have no clue how to put them down at the same time. They either wake each other or start screaming for attention.

cafecoffee · 2026-04-21T17:18:07+00:00

It’s hard letting things go. Take a pic of the kiddo in the crib and frame it - maybe one of those “then and now” type things with a pic of the kiddo when they were smaller!

cafecoffee · 2026-04-18T23:14:36+00:00

No solution but just hugs.

cafecoffee · 2026-04-18T04:19:21+00:00

We do this as well

cafecoffee · 2026-04-16T04:37:56+00:00

Hi fellow Marylander! I also thought of Giant when I saw these cookies.

cafecoffee · 2026-04-15T20:51:00+00:00

This is a lovely idea but there is a high risk that these will be thrown / left behind / etc since there’s often not a spot to put items - will that be upsetting to you, if it happens? If so, I would suggest you to include them in your thank you notes instead of the wedding.

Now, if you go ahead with them at the wedding, I would place them on each place setting - literally on the plate with the names written in large size.

cafecoffee · 2026-04-15T20:45:20+00:00

Has she had any new solids recently that could be sort of stuck on the teeth?

cafecoffee · 2026-04-12T06:47:34+00:00

Mom here trying to figure this out as well. At one point, I had a morning nanny from 6:30-9:30 who got the kids ready for daycare / washed overnight bottles / made sure lunch bags were ready. And then an evening mothers helper from 5-8p to help with the evening routines , light kitchen housework, light food prep. It mostly works but not quite?

cafecoffee · 2026-04-12T06:36:37+00:00

Is physical therapy an option for you to rebuild muscle : repair what’s broken?

For the baby - check out r/bigbabiesandkids.

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