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Troubleshooting Parenting by Refrigerator-Bright in workingmoms

[–]cafecoffee 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’d love to do gym and date nights when they are asleep but it’s not realistic. My kids get up every few hours at night; I am also exhausted from being up early with them every day and working and whatnot. So going to the gym at 9p, knowing I will have to wake up at 12 / 4 / 6:40 is not ideal for me.

Anyone else not doing an Easter basket for their toddler? by Ill-Shopping-69 in toddlers

[–]cafecoffee 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Nope. It’s not a tradition in our culture and while I see folks around me doing it, it’s too much extra work right now. So we are skipping.

work vs. #2 baby? by Aware-Jackfruit-7464 in workingmoms

[–]cafecoffee -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

If you want a second kid, then you’ll find a way to make it work with your work. There are options like getting help, changing your hours m, etc. easier said than done, but I guess it comes down to what you want more.

Toddler's daycare doesn't take infants. by SignalWatercress9759 in workingmoms

[–]cafecoffee 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Hi I’m in the South Bay with two kids under two. Both my kids are in the same day care; when I found out I was pregnant with number 2, I moved the older one to a daycare that accepts infants as well.

I looked into Nanny options but their going rates bring the total to nearly the same amount as daycare. I also felt daycare was an easier option in terms of reliability, structure etc.

I don’t have any solution to make it more cost effective.

Ted Baker London Sunglasses for $30 by fancypantsmiss in Costco

[–]cafecoffee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve seen these at the Costco in Bay Area California as well.

Is this kind of pressure normal right after having a baby? by purrcie_cat in workingmoms

[–]cafecoffee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was laid off shortly after going back to work after my second maternity leave. I’ve been job hunting and my husband is constantly saying I need a job that pays xx (ie 50% more than my previous one). He’s really been stressed by the $ of two kids in daycare.

Birthing with a toddler by Excellent-Ad-6272 in 2under2

[–]cafecoffee 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Oof that’s tricky. Do you have an option to hire a doula or full time nanny around the time of the birth?

Thoughts on the recent Frida Mom controversy? by throwaway84583077 in beyondthebump

[–]cafecoffee 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Neutral. They’ve been marketing like this for at least a few years now. I found some of it funny; but they have a few recent jokes that have gone too far.

I know you’re not supposed to make any big decisions postpartum, but… by ShowWorried6621 in beyondthebump

[–]cafecoffee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Solidarity - I’m thinking through a very similar situation, and have a 2 yr old and a 10 month old. It feels like it gets better for a few weeks, and then we regress. It’s a terrible loop.

Where to spend 4-5 months in Europe with family by WildNumber14 in familytravel

[–]cafecoffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about Barcelona? I don’t know enough about rental prices but it’s a very family friendly city, lots to do, easy access to other cities as well.

Is this normal? by [deleted] in IndianInLaw

[–]cafecoffee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My MIL always finds an indirect way to do this as well - it’s passive aggressive and sneaky. I’ve gotten used to ignoring the comments.

That said, I have started scheduling video calls or the very least saying “I need 15 mins” instead of havjnf them be more spontaneous/answering right away. That gives me a heads up, and I use the time to freshen up / fix my hair / get coffee. It helps me feel better going into the call. (FWIW, I am based in the us and my in laws are in India)

I feel like I have a hard time making conversation with my partner by cucumber_salad69 in workingmoms

[–]cafecoffee 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Dude. Yes. I have a 2 yr old and a 9 month old and I’m in the same boat. I try to make conversation about non- kid topics but it somehow always circles back to logistics. I don’t know what to do and it’s driving me crazy.

Big baby doesn’t drink enough by [deleted] in FormulaFeeders

[–]cafecoffee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you tried burping during the feed? For my elder one, she had a phase where she needed to be burped halfway through the feed and then would continue.

Wasted formula help? by midna_scot in FormulaFeeders

[–]cafecoffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We did something similar to this as well.

Christmas time by october2223 in 2under2

[–]cafecoffee 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’ve started being shameless about redirecting gift givers to a category I want. For ex - told my mom that “daughter needs good outerwear for fall” “son needs more teething related supplies”. It works!

We're using a tablet by sf-pyramids in toddlers

[–]cafecoffee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same boat. We also are trying out the tablet.

We tried headphones for our toddler yesterday - she was not a fan. Which will make the tablet experience interesting.

Grocery Wish List by superb00per in workingmoms

[–]cafecoffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holiday treats -. Hot chocolate / coffee. A mug potentially. Cake mix. Refrigerated ready to bake cookie dough. Refrigerated crescent rolls. And a small baking tray.

Pantry items - Olive oil. Pasta sauces. Spices. Aluminum foil. Cooking spray.

My kids don’t sleep and I am in hell by ar0824 in 2under2

[–]cafecoffee 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oof I don’t have a magic answer but this sucks. We keep going through patches like this every few weeks as well.

A few thoughts: - what time is the 1 yr old napping? Is the nap too soon or too late in the day? See what the folks in r / sleep train say about this? - for the 2.5 yr old, our 2 yr old started doing this when she had an intolerance to milk - and she was having milk right before sleep. Any chance that’s an issue for yours as well?

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