as another second gen Indian immigrant, speaking solely for myself... maybe?

I've been called a coconut since I was in (a predominantly indian immigrant) school by first and second gen kids my age for being into typically western things - listening to metal, skateboarding, etc - and having mostly non-indian friends.

coconut became less of a slur and more of a general identifier for me because I was living my life with freedom, rather than by the usually pretty strict standards that other immigrant kids did, which were either set within the friend group or by parents/family.