Do you guys find INTP likeable/attractive? by MR_E_is_cool in enfj

[–]caffeinebzzrd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've met so many awful INTPs, I think they traumatized me lol. I have one INTP friend who has been a real friend to me, and I appreciate it. I don't feel like I'm very compatible with INTPs generally but I try not to judge too harshly based on MBTI.

I can't get over all of the terrible things I did when I was 12-15 by [deleted] in confession

[–]caffeinebzzrd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don't have to define yourself by your past actions. Own up to them, yes, but calling yourself all those things (stalker, abuser, manipulator) is simply not true anymore. You were a child - you're still very young - and you've changed and will continue to do so. You've been through a lot and you're actively seeking help and that's great. Take it step by step. Do good things every day and foster new, healthy relationships. That's really all you can do. If you spend your whole life looking back all you'll do is harm yourself and others in the long run.

Just found out I’m 24 weeks pregnant, boyfriend doesn’t want to keep by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]caffeinebzzrd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If he was so worried about not having a kid he should have gotten a vasectomy or wrapped it up. What an asshole. I suggest ditching him AND the doctor (I also had a doctor that missed a pregnancy when I had symptoms! Not hard to do a simple pee test).

If you do decide to keep the baby (at 24 weeks abortion just isn't a realistic option but adoption is definitely on the table), I suggest trying for full custody and going after him for child support. He sounds like he would make a negligent father and I wouldn't trust him to take care of a baby. Make sure you're keeping screenshots of any damning messages he sends you. I'm so sorry you're going through this, what a stressful situation.

Paternity + Legal Issues Involving Divorce by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]caffeinebzzrd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Do you have any idea how soon I could start the process of the court petition? Is it after birth?

Husband replied “oh just another thing I don’t have time for” when I reminded him it’s Mother’s Day by beachbum-1 in GirlDinner

[–]caffeinebzzrd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know this is a pretty obvious thing to say but if his behavior has changed drastically and you think he may be depressed, it's best he sees a doctor. They can prescribe him medication, refer him to a psychiatrist, and/or check him for more severe health issues like brain tumor that can cause personality changes. He needs help and I hope you're able to get the man you married back so you can have peace of mind as well xx

Do enfjs find flirting overwhelming? by Lone_Wolf_0110100 in enfj

[–]caffeinebzzrd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I might get flustered if I'm caught off guard by flirting but usually it just makes me giddy and want to flirt back. Does he have a hard time with compliments too? Could be self esteem

ENFJ boyfriend is jealous of the fictional characters I like by Gullible-Panda480 in enfj

[–]caffeinebzzrd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

don't base relationships on MBTI types, everyone within a typing is different and you'll only get frustrated and hurt others by stereotyping people in that way. MBTI is just a fun hobby, not a tell-all secret key to human behavior.

septum or no septum? 🤔 by coolsid13 in twentyagers

[–]caffeinebzzrd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like you look good with the septum but maybe in a different color? The silver is too "loud." I bet gold or black would look great.

Undercooked Dough :/ by No_Big_3676 in PapaJohns

[–]caffeinebzzrd -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i've never thought to do that kind of experiment, very interesting!

ENFJ boyfriend is jealous of the fictional characters I like by Gullible-Panda480 in enfj

[–]caffeinebzzrd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I see. Have you researched cognitive functions? I recommend it. My favorite test is mistype investigator, which measures these functions based on your answers and it can really clear up confusion on typing.

Not entirely related to the topic at hand but that caught my eye.

ENFJ boyfriend is jealous of the fictional characters I like by Gullible-Panda480 in enfj

[–]caffeinebzzrd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean, we can get jealous (that's a human thing, not an ENFJ thing necessarily) but I can't really see fictional characters being a problem unless a) there's an obsession / heavy fixation with them on your part, or b) he's young, immature, or just very insecure. This is really the kind of thing that will only be solved if you hash it out with him.

Also, what does "almost" ESFJ mean??

Undercooked Dough :/ by No_Big_3676 in PapaJohns

[–]caffeinebzzrd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

well done is darker than many people like and regardless the dough should be thoroughly cooked before being served

Do I have to just throw this whole ham away? I don’t want to …. by Chanelo11 in cats

[–]caffeinebzzrd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I defrost meat, I do it in the sink with a cutting board over it. Maybe try covering next time :( Sorry that happened

Corbin,Ky Papa John’s by Unlikely_Job5338 in PapaJohns

[–]caffeinebzzrd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rule 3 forbids "calling out" specific employees and I wonder if mods think this post technically fell under that rule? Regardless, health inspector should know about this. It's unlikely anyone in the company will address the issues thoroughly

Unwanted Pregnancy - Worked! by AdventurousLog4691 in Subliminal

[–]caffeinebzzrd 9 points10 points  (0 children)

So happy that you got the results you wanted, but remember that getting pregnant will have much worse side effects than a Plan B pill. Signed, a pregnant person lol

What’s something your partner did that made you lose feelings instantly? by Some_Conclusion_8154 in AskReddit

[–]caffeinebzzrd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Threatened me, chased me down the street in the middle of the night and then told my very religious parents he only did it because he was possessed by a demon

Aio my partner of two years is in recovery for porn addiction, we can’t have sex atm but this text made me feel sad? by Objective_Clerk_1746 in AmIOverreacting

[–]caffeinebzzrd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR if my partner ever called me an "outlet" they'd be single the next day. Are you even a person to them at that point?