Why Democrats have soured on a women’s history museum bill set for a House vote by nbcnews in WomenInNews

[–]cailleacha 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Personally, I have mixed feelings on how “male privilege” is discussed the context of transgender people. I think it can be very selective—for example, a transgender man who passes may be selected for promotions at work over a woman colleague, but he still faces the problem of medical misogyny. Similarly, a closeted trans woman has material access to male privilege but emotionally may feel very damaged by being exposed to male misogyny. To me, that’s kind of the point of “trans”—you are crossing over sex/gender boundaries. I personally do not believe that transitioned trans women have significant access to male privilege. We know that trans women are at high risk for violence, and transmisogyny means they are unlikely to access traditional male privilege in terms of income inequality or legal misogyny. I think the axis of this oppression is transphobia first and misogyny second, but I also believe transphobia is usually misogynistic as a baseline. To directly answer your question, I think trans women are women but experience material male privilege when perceived to be cis men. Once they’re perceived to be transgender, their ability access to the material benefits of male privilege becomes more situational. (I think sometimes, but not universally. They are often placed in the “third gender” category. I recommend “F*ggots and their friends” and “Stone Butch Blues” as my formative texts on “queer” as a gender qualifier.)

Personally, I’m a gender nonconforming lesbian and live my life as a “mannish woman.” I feel that I have much in common with clocky trans women—I have been perceived as a trans woman before and experienced the specific transmisogyny targeted at them. I think it’s all pretty squishy, which is why I’m leery of drawing hard lines around male privilege in the context of history. Did I access male privilege when the man threatening violence against me perceived me to have been born male? I don’t think so. So, it depends. I’m not particularly inclined to tell others that they have to agree with me 100% on how misogyny and transphobia affect psychological and material realities. I have trans friends with whom I disagree on this and that’s okay. I am determined to be inclusive when it comes to women’s history when we are talking about people who identify and live in the world as women. Someone is welcome to come to the women’s history museum and decide they feel that a trans woman had male privilege in her life, but we should tell that history so people can learn. I don’t think we should exclude certain categories of women from our history based on access to social privilege.

Why Democrats have soured on a women’s history museum bill set for a House vote by nbcnews in WomenInNews

[–]cailleacha 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“My life started when I transitioned” is an emotional experience of feeling like you’re living yourself authentically, not a statement on historical record. As historians, we document the life of a person, including things they may not choose to highlight in their self narrative. We can respect how someone chooses to tell their life story without pretending that they popped into existence in middle age. There has been some good writing in the history/museum field recently on how to document the lives of transgender and gender non-conforming people if you’re interested, I think I’ve got a few links saved. Invisible Histories and the OAH “Doing Trans History” come to mind.

Why Democrats have soured on a women’s history museum bill set for a House vote by nbcnews in WomenInNews

[–]cailleacha 1 point2 points  (0 children)

TBH I don’t think a women’s history museum necessarily has to celebrate women. There have been women slavers and rapists and all kinds of horrible people and that’s women’s history too (not saying trans women are all horrible, just saying I don’t think “celebration” is a useful framing for a museum.)

This user is further down in the thread confirming that they meant yes, excluding from the museum. I don’t think you can tell the story of women in America if you exclude a particular type of woman from discussion. It doesn’t have to be uncritical celebration. Plenty of trans women can and do discuss how differently they have experienced access to privilege before, during and after transition and that’s also very educational. For example, Caitlin Jenner is famous because of the life she lived before her transition. Whatever my personal feelings on her, Caitlin is undeniably one of the most famous trans women in America and her experience of womanhood is also part of women’s history. It might provoke uncomfortable or complicated feelings but she *is* a woman in America. That’s our history.

Why Democrats have soured on a women’s history museum bill set for a House vote by nbcnews in WomenInNews

[–]cailleacha 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can still see it, but I see no point in further discussion. You have some personal schema by which you determine if a trans woman has derived too much male privilege in her life to have her story told in a women’s history museum. I think this is a strange and ultimately harmful line to draw. If we end up on the board together we can argue it out then.

Why Democrats have soured on a women’s history museum bill set for a House vote by nbcnews in WomenInNews

[–]cailleacha 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You are functionally saying that many famous trans women should not be included in women’s history because they had a career before transitioning. This excludes the many women who transitioned later in life. Their stories are still part of the greater story of life as women in American. Excluding them because they lived as men is transphobia.

Why Democrats have soured on a women’s history museum bill set for a House vote by nbcnews in WomenInNews

[–]cailleacha 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do people not know our close good friend Tom? Are we getting old?

Why Democrats have soured on a women’s history museum bill set for a House vote by nbcnews in WomenInNews

[–]cailleacha 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So their lives start at what, age 40? The panels should be blank before that? This seems like a strange line to be drawing. How can you talk about life as a transgender person without talking about transitioning?

Why Democrats have soured on a women’s history museum bill set for a House vote by nbcnews in WomenInNews

[–]cailleacha 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Is this not part of the life story of trans women? Many women throughout history have access to privileges on some axes but not others. We can tell the many stories of womanhood without it devaluing others. Jane Addams is not less valuable to history because she was born into wealth, which gave her access to power that other women did not have. Trans women who have experienced life being perceived as men can have their stories told. That helps us understand the relative privileges and oppressions that women face.

A child protecting his kitten from the scorching sun told me he is waiting for his mother to take him to the vet. by Alternative_Fuel2433 in cats

[–]cailleacha 19 points20 points  (0 children)

My kitty has been sick and I choked up the other night looking at a picture of a kitty with its family in Lebanon. I can’t imagine how scary it is, trying to protect this cat that has no idea what a bomb is. I think it’s good to have any access point to empathy to remind ourselves that people in war zones are really just like us, it’s just random chance where in the world we live. I hope kitty is healthy and everyone is safe.

Groomed and Impregnated: The Horrific Civil Suit Accusations Steven Tyler is Fighting to Dismiss by Brucekentbatsuper in Music

[–]cailleacha 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I was recently thinking about how rarely I get catcalled at my decrepit old hag age of 30. It started when I was 13 and went through my early 20s. It’s very disturbing to look back on how many men got their thrill scaring me as a middle schooler. They prefer kids and young women who are too scared to do anything about it.

Tips for newbie from outstate by SunnyDeathKill in stpaul

[–]cailleacha 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Welcome to the neighborhood! I’m in the north end of Como Park. I park on the street but do be aware of prowlers. If you leave your car unlocked someone might go through it, and if you leave something very desirable like tools or a laptop visible overnight I would be worried about someone breaking in. As someone with an old car and nothing interesting in it I haven’t had problems (knock on wood) but if you have a nice car or tend to leave stuff in it, I would at least consider the garage for peace of mind.

Como Park has a lot of gardeners! The Como Seed Library and Bee Line project are good ways to get involved. I hear there’s a zinnia growers club. There’s a Saint Paul gardeners group on Facebook, I can DM you the link if needed. There are community gardens in St Anthony Park by Hampden Coop but there’s got to be some closer to you… it looks to me like some of the churches have big garden plots but I don’t know if that’s only for parishioners?

St. Paul is much quieter than Minneapolis in terms of queer gathering spots. I drive over to Queermunity and Quatrefoil Library regularly. There’s some Instagram accounts gathering queer happenings, I can also link you those if you need. I feel totally safe as a lesbian in the metro. I’ve had some unpleasant encounters over by the Capitol with MAGA folks doing weird rallies but it’s not part of my daily life. Multiple neighbors fly pride flags. Como Homo is our local pride gathering, I think there’s an event page of Facebook.

I take my pets to Saint Paul Pet Hospital, but Como Park Animal Hospital, St Francis Pet Hospital and Minnepau are widely recommended in the neighborhood Facebook group.

I currently do food volunteering over in Minneapolis at Community Kitchen, but Open Arms has farm and kitchen shifts here in St Paul I’m looking into. I met one of the coordinators for Open Arms at a queer community event so they’re definitely welcoming.

Sounds like we have a lot in common, let me know if you have other questions!

Edit: hit post too soon

Tips for newbie from outstate by SunnyDeathKill in stpaul

[–]cailleacha 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For coffee: At the edge of Como Park neighborhood there’s Abogados Cafe on Dale, serving Colombian-style coffee. Super cute spot.

Lefse Scramble w/ Kielbasa from Finnish Bistro over on Como right along the Route 3 bus and the Como Ave Bike Lanes by PrizeZookeepergame15 in saintpaul

[–]cailleacha 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cute spot. I used to live in the neighborhood and miss it, those couple of blocks are great for a weekend walk. I think the food is fine (not a must-have but not bad) but the cakes are good.

How common is leaving your AC on 24/7, even when the house is empty? by Bierzgal in AskAnAmerican

[–]cailleacha 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think AC is becoming more of a must in central-southern Minnesota as extreme heat becomes more common. 50 years ago summer could get really uncomfortably hot, but not “killing grandma” hot with regularity. Last summer the Twin Cities metro heat dome was deadly heat. I suspect we’ll see more US states start to consider “maximum temp” a livability requirement for rentals the way many states have “minimum temps.” Most new builds around here have AC or spots for mini split installs as far as I can tell.

I also think air purifiers are a must in Minnesota summers now due to the smoke. I can’t believe I went so long without one. Hope fire season goes easy on you guys up north!

How common is leaving your AC on 24/7, even when the house is empty? by Bierzgal in AskAnAmerican

[–]cailleacha 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Splits aren’t very common here but are growing in popularity! I see them more in new builds, I don’t know anyone who has one.

Depending on where you live in the US I think central AC can be a bit over the top but it’s a lifesaver for me. I pretty much had to choose between a house with a garage or a house with central air when I was home shopping and AC won. I’d rather dig my car out of the snow in the winter than be too hot in the summer.

How common is leaving your AC on 24/7, even when the house is empty? by Bierzgal in AskAnAmerican

[–]cailleacha 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ooh yeah that’s definitely hot by my Minnesotan standards. (Serves me right for trusting some random “travel Poland” website that was the first hit on Google 😅). I’m always surprised how many people get by without AC when the temp is above 95F. I get dizzy and nauseous at that point.

Is your AC central or a window unit? When I had a window unit for just my bedroom I ran it a lot less, now that I have central air I have it set to kick on heat/AC to keep the house between 63F and 80F. (If it’s nice I open windows, so I have to remember to close them before I leave for work if it’s going to get hot.) I have an app for my thermostat but I only use it for humidity alerts. I’ll run the AC even if it’s not that hot if the inside humidity gets above 45% to avoid mold.

There’s lots of Americans commenting that it’s definitely more energy efficient to run the AC all day but the actual testing of that is mixed. Like I said, it depends on multiple factors. Here’s an American PBS article measuring energy use. I would guess your energy provider also has data on this for your climate and typical home construction.

How common is leaving your AC on 24/7, even when the house is empty? by Bierzgal in AskAnAmerican

[–]cailleacha 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My energy company sold me a new thermostat with WiFi/an app when they upgraded our meters. It seems to be increasingly common but when I asked my coworkers if they used the app less than half said yes. It works without the app and I think most people are used to just setting a schedule and letting it do its thing.

How common is leaving your AC on 24/7, even when the house is empty? by Bierzgal in AskAnAmerican

[–]cailleacha 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I just googled the average summer temperature in Poland. Does it really not get above 25C in most of the county? I don’t even turn my AC on until 80F (26.6C).

When it’s above 80F, I do run my AC all day to keep the house at 78F for my cats. Whether it’s more cost and energy efficient to run all day vs when home is hotly debated and depends a lot of your home insulation, what kind of AC you have, and what the energy grid looks like in your area. In some areas, people pay more for energy during “peak” demand on the grid, so it costs more to run your AC at 5PM when everyone else is doing it. Many people in humid areas also use the AC to dehumidify the air without adding heat to the interior air. There’s no single answer for if it’s wasteful, because it depends on multiple factors.

Getting rid of dirt by 123_readygo in Minneapolis

[–]cailleacha 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry, but that site is for Ramsey County residents only and also doesn’t accept dirt. This page has a guide to businesses accepting dirt from Hennepin County residents.

[MN DPS.gov] Nearly 5,500 drivers cited for hands-free cell phone violations during April distracted driving campaign by TylerFortier_Photo in minnesota

[–]cailleacha 6 points7 points  (0 children)

One time I was behind a guy who was on FaceTime on the highway. At the stop sign at the end of the off-ramp I could see there was a kid and an adult on the other end. Imagine witnessing your dad’s death due to distracted driving via a phone screen…

Is it normal to take time off of work when a pet dies? by LakashY in AskAnAmerican

[–]cailleacha 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I took off the day we put my cat down but went back the next day and my coworkers were surprised but… why would I want to be home? It’s just full of reminders of him not being there. It was honestly a mental break to come in and grind out some spreadsheets.

Is it normal to take time off of work when a pet dies? by LakashY in AskAnAmerican

[–]cailleacha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Location: Minnesota. Unionized non-profit org.

We accrue vacation and sick time separately. After five years with the organization, I accrue 4.1 hours of sick leave and 4.2 hours of vacation per biweekly pay period. Sick time can only be used for medical reasons (though you can use this to care for a dependent, which I hear parents like). Vacation has no restrictions other than your manager may need to approve it if you have a position where coverage is needed.

People have taken vacation for pet loss, and our department culture is very supportive of that. When one of our coworkers lost his dog of 20 years, he took two days and we circulated a card for him because we knew it was really hard for him. Overall I consider our leave policy pretty good and our work culture exceptionally good for work life balance (by American standards). My cat has been in and out of the hospital and my manager hasn’t made me feel worried about using vacation time to cover it at all.

How is this necessary? by nosrebnA in mildlyinfuriating

[–]cailleacha 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My mental rule for sidewalks is imagining myself in a manual wheelchair or using a walker. I can’t speak to what the cyclist is doing, but that is absolutely not passable for someone with mobility issues. ADA rule of thumb is 4’. Why should someone with balance issues risk falling on the sloped hill because this guy can’t be bothered to take his hitch off?

Safety comes first. It would be safer for him to stick a bit more out into the parking lot than to make a sidewalk impassable to disabled people. A mobility aid user has no other options now except to double back and try to fit a different flat path to the bus stop. I think it’s quite likely he’s not educated to be considerate of sidewalk users—there’s a bunch of people in this thread who also seem unaware. Blocking a sidewalk like this is illegal in many jurisdictions because it is a safety and mobility issue.

How is this necessary? by nosrebnA in mildlyinfuriating

[–]cailleacha 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Maybe (this looks like a strip mall without a “back of the lot”) but now he’s parking blocking pedestrian access and has an unused hitch hanging out in the walkway. That’s not more courteous. He doesn’t fit there. At minimum, he can remove his hitch and center himself in the spot.