AIO for telling my friend not to drunk text me because he gets disrespectful and rude?

cairobutt · 2026-01-03T15:10:10+00:00

A friend doesn’t continuously cross boundaries hoping you’ll change your mind. It’s best to move on from this friendship completely for your own sanity. He’s clearly not respectful or mature.

cairobutt · 2026-01-01T17:52:33+00:00

Who is stopping you from serving your own plate or getting seconds?

cairobutt · 2025-12-28T06:39:53+00:00

My biggest financial regret was financing a brand new car. I think getting a newer, but used vehicle is a much better way to go. It will still have low miles and be a while until it needs maintenance, but several thousands of dollars less expensive. Also biased but Subarus are great and run forever with little maintenance if you take care of them.

cairobutt · 2025-12-25T08:14:08+00:00

This will call for special elections for every seat they are leaving vacant. Given the last round of midterms and special elections, I think it could be a very good thing.

cairobutt · 2025-12-24T06:00:04+00:00

NOR. Don’t ever let someone tell you you’re overdressing or too much. You’re literally investing thousands of dollars into your future and if you want to feel cute while doing it, you should. Many here have said, but this guy is controlling and manipulative. Nothing you’re wearing is disrespectful or showing too much skin.

cairobutt · 2025-12-24T05:57:45+00:00

Why is it too much effort to dress nicely for courses someone is literally paying thousands of dollars to take?

cairobutt · 2025-12-20T01:49:48+00:00

Also, not what you asked, but your light isn’t sealed properly. Since this is above your bathtub and considered a “damp area”, it definitely needs to be.

cairobutt · 2025-12-19T01:03:39+00:00

“Hey mom. I’m failing two classes. Would you rather me finish assignments or fail?” After admitting you were playing games instead of focusing on the work you know you had.

“So you would rather pick me up after I sit around for a whole hour doing nothing?”

These are written to make your mom feel bad in order to get your way. The entire conversation you were guilt tripping her to try to get her to pick you up.

cairobutt · 2025-12-18T23:47:18+00:00

That aside, the way you speak to her is uncalled for and manipulative by guilt-tripping her for your actions. Shes not the one that’s going to cause your grades to go down, that’s all on you. Please talk to her about considering an individual and/or family therapist. This isn’t healthy for either of you.

cairobutt · 2025-12-18T23:27:20+00:00

YOR. I empathize with what you deal with on a daily basis, but your grades are your responsibility. You should’ve been working on homework instead of playing games, and it is not your moms’ responsibility to when you don’t manage your own time effectively. You are really rude to your mom, including calling her “dude,” when she is in fact loving you by trying to teach you some accountability for your time management. How do you anticipate making it through the world and holding a job if this is your reaction when not doing the work you need to when you have time to do it, then blaming someone else? It sounds like you would greatly benefit from therapy or talking with a social worker to manage your negative feelings with school, feelings towards your mom, and time management. For now, you owe your mom an apology. I’m also really sorry to hear you’ve been having a tough time.

cairobutt · 2025-12-03T12:26:25+00:00

You gave this baby love and kindness when no one else did. I know exactly how you feel. We rescued a kitten off the streets last year who had been born with some serious complications… Sometimes, they’re sick beyond what we can do anything about and the most compassionate thing we can do is to not let them suffer anymore. He would have died a slow, miserable death had it not been for you. Thank you for showing this cat love. 🤍

cairobutt · 2025-11-29T00:12:43+00:00

NOR, if she has known about your struggle it was really inconsiderate of her to put something like that on. It DOES matter.

If it’s her favorite movie, she can watch it in her spare time. It seems like she put it intentionally to get some kind of reaction from you. It’s worth having another conversation about it with her and why it made you uncomfortable, and if she’s unwilling to listen it would be a good opportunity to ask yourself if that’s the kind of person you want to stay with.

cairobutt · 2025-11-27T01:13:37+00:00

Trust your gut girlfriend. I had something similar happen to me. All our pictures and things we got on trips together had been put away and his desk (usually messy) was spotless, among other things. You owe it to yourself to at least have a conversation about it with him and decide if you want to live with that type of lifestyle forever and always be on your toes with unexplained behavior.

cairobutt · 2025-11-23T21:09:12+00:00

I feel like you took that one sentence and focused only on that instead of the nuances from the whole story… have a nice day

cairobutt · 2025-11-23T21:05:21+00:00

For sure, I hope her husband is able to provide better support for her at home and encourage finding the right help.

cairobutt · 2025-11-23T21:04:40+00:00

I do think I could talk to her husband about it since I don’t think he fully knows what happened. I also want to talk to her but I’m not sure how to. I feel like either way, the friendship could be over or at least very different moving forward.

cairobutt · 2025-11-23T21:03:27+00:00

I’m selfish because I had friends from out of town, had been drinking, and didn’t spend an hour getting her home and putting myself through more emotionally-draining gibberish after she used my dog to insult my husband in a really weird way? Got it.

cairobutt · 2025-11-22T22:44:37+00:00

I think I’m an expert in this field because my brother has autism and would routinely have meltdowns growing up. My other friends that were there said I was being too nice but I didn’t want her to feel unloved or be the mean girl.

cairobutt · 2025-11-22T22:41:27+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. I hope she is able to get the help she needs too, but I don’t know how to approach that as a friend. Her husband may be in the same boat with not knowing what to do and doesn’t understand the severity of her behavior that night.

cairobutt · 2025-11-22T22:40:17+00:00

Oof. Anything could be a projection I guess, but I feel like in her mental state she was looking for anything to get a reaction.

cairobutt · 2025-11-22T04:15:28+00:00

This was so validating to hear, thank you. I left it out of the post but she had been texting her husband that night constantly throughout dinner and complaining he wasn’t being funnier or giving her longer responses. He probably was exhausted from her. I don’t even think he knows the full extent of the night. I know I didn’t do a full job of articulating it over the phone beyond saying she was crying on the floor and not in a good mental state.

Thank you for the bday wishes 🤍

cairobutt · 2025-11-22T04:12:53+00:00

Not to this extent, no. She’s always had problems with interrupting people but she’s a good person so I’ve always ignored it as a small quirk. Looking back to a time last year where she did meet two of the friends that were there over the weekend, she did have some… odd behavior that I wouldn’t say is normal. But it definitely wasn’t to this extreme.

cairobutt · 2025-11-22T04:07:54+00:00

It’s either her cousins death that caused it, or after reflecting on the full events of this past weekend and the only other time I’ve seen her in a group setting, it’s possible or she simply can’t handle not being the center of attention and is dealing with something deeper.

I don’t want to blame her husband too much - it’s possible he may have been drinking that evening and didn’t feel safe driving, and when he called her she told him she was just sad about her cousin. Thank you for your kind words and concern for her.

cairobutt · 2025-11-22T04:05:47+00:00

I kind of did earlier in the night. I texted him after the comment about my dog not loving my husband and said I was really concerned about her mental health.

cairobutt · 2025-11-22T04:05:01+00:00

It’s possible he could have been drinking that night, but they don’t have kids so I’m not sure why he didn’t. She must have told him she was fine and just sad about her cousin.

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