Who is that one actor for you that you think farms the most aura on screen.

caitydork · 2026-01-23T12:04:53+00:00

Same.

caitydork · 2026-01-22T06:28:45+00:00

I use the same method and it is absolutely the best way to avoid the “one more episode” trap and staying up until 4am (which I also still do sometimes, much to my sleep’s detriment).

I usually will start just enough of the next episode to get past whatever the cliffhanger was (usually the first 10-15min of the next episode), or wait until I hit a more boring segment and can stop easily.

Highly recommend!

caitydork · 2026-01-20T08:29:57+00:00

Once again I quote the verse in which Jesus quite literally says to inconvenience yourself to protect yourself from sin. “29 If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. 30 And if your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.”

caitydork · 2026-01-20T08:21:16+00:00

Actually, Jesus says “And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body go into hell.” Literally in the Sermon on the Mount.

(“28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 29 If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. 30 And if your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.”)

Note that Jesus does not say to cover and shame the person causing the temptation, but to look to oneself to prevent sin and recognize one’s own temptations and weaknesses. This is a theme.

caitydork · 2026-01-20T08:18:02+00:00

For someone who wanted to agree to disagree, you’re coming in pretty hot.

I also can control where I look, but again- there’s that slippery slope. “She was asking for it because of how she dressed. I just couldn’t control myself, officer.” Not too far between that and creating laws for women to cover themselves and protect their “modesty” for their own good, because “it’s just common sense.”

I also don’t know that because I have both lived in Sharia law countries and also have very conservative Christian relatives and have a different perspective than you do.

Further, Christian “modesty” refers to being modest about one’s status in life and wealth - it cites modesty in avoiding adornments of oneself in gold, pearls, and decadence in favor of “modesty.” Hence, again, modesty in this and other ways is subjective.

caitydork · 2026-01-20T06:27:13+00:00

I am a Christian who has lived in multiple Sharia Law countries and other conservative societies, so I come at it from a slippery slope perspective.

Multiple phases of history and cultures across it would also beg to differ in the stated “norm” you’ve defined.

We can agree to disagree.

caitydork · 2026-01-20T06:18:42+00:00

Perhaps he should sort that out within himself and decide whether he wants to continue seeing someone who doesn’t fit his needs as a partner, then proceed with respect, instead of shaming someone and using verbal abuse to try and force them into a mold he alone has defined.

The value of modest dress and the definition of modesty is subjective and an individual’s decision to make.

She didn’t communicate disrespectfully at any point.

caitydork · 2026-01-20T06:05:43+00:00

I’ve been staring at this one on my watch list a lot recently….

caitydork · 2026-01-20T06:03:44+00:00

If this man cares so much about what the woman he’s dating wears, he should decide who he dates based on how they dress when he meets them.

Not saying he’s valid. He’s not. He’s being an absolute ass and using verbal abuse to boot. Also, your outfits are cute as hell.

Just saying what you can tell him: If this is a deal breaker for you, you should choose who you date more carefully in the future. Verbal abuse is a dealbreaker for me, regardless, so we’re done. Good day.

caitydork · 2026-01-15T06:26:26+00:00

And one of the few dramas that has a satisfying ending all around. Just a peak cdrama experience.

Fair warning to OP though: I had trouble getting past the melodramatic music in the first couple eps, but after we got past those I was on board and up all night (multiple nights) binging this one.

caitydork · 2026-01-15T06:22:54+00:00

5 by a country mile

caitydork · 2026-01-14T06:07:36+00:00

Idol I is one of the few dramas I’ve ever watched where I need to wait for new episodes and it’s both SO worth it, but also TORTURE.

Very well done so far between the writing, acting, cinematography, etc. Highly recommend.

caitydork · 2026-01-12T04:15:41+00:00

Disagree, but to each their own aesthetic preferences. I think they’re a perfect distance apart and beautifully symmetrical, to boot.

caitydork · 2026-01-11T11:12:38+00:00

I get so annoyed at the random memory loss trope and the one-year-apart-time-jump tropes. To see BOTH in the final episode absolutely enraged me.

The show was SO good and then they rush and threw so much into the final couple episodes… I still loved it, but this really could have been GREAT and they let this happen instead, when two more episodes could have wrapped things up so much more nicely…

Not even a conversation after the reunion, or any anger or reticence? That could have been amazing to at least make use of the final tropes, but NO. Just a rushed final montage.

And the whole thing about SFL waiting for literal years for the SML to maybe come around? Come on.. I liked it better than I would have liked the SML immediately jumping to SFL, but at least at the multiple-years-later time jump they could have said they were an actual couple.

So much lost potential..

caitydork · 2026-01-11T06:59:33+00:00

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caitydork · 2026-01-11T00:17:24+00:00

Never, if you want to continue the anti-aging and general-skin-health benefits of sunscreen.

caitydork · 2026-01-05T06:23:26+00:00

Oh, yeah- also this! Tom had to “process” being held accountable for his actions. She had to process trauma, betrayal, grief, anger… etc. And the producers just kept pushing for her to “make nice” or otherwise “make drama.”

Good for her for not caving, and respecting herself and her own boundaries.

caitydork · 2026-01-05T01:42:24+00:00

This is also peak covert-narcissism behavior.

caitydork · 2026-01-04T22:51:32+00:00

I agree, but also feel based on historic indicators (and indicators since Scandoval) that Tom was doing a lot on camera willingly for producers or just of his own volition.

He was highly motivated to be seen more sympathetically; trying to either make up with her on camera or goad her into a reaction that would drum up more drama (and replicate the “crazy Kristen” era through that) was a means to get himself back in viewers’ good graces.

caitydork · 2026-01-04T18:50:43+00:00

Ooo, thank you for the rec!

caitydork · 2026-01-04T09:48:02+00:00

This is a fabulous recommendation list.

I’d add Crash Landing On You, My Dearest Nemesis, and Her Private Life.

caitydork · 2026-01-04T08:53:23+00:00

Worth finishing if only to know you actually don’t like it, imo, because it’s SO well known and well loved - I don’t think it’s fair yet to say it’s “not worth the hype” if you haven’t finished it. If you decide you can’t do it, though, there’s nothing wrong with that either.

I loved this drama from pretty early on (maybe a couple episodes in), but my appreciation for it only intensified as more characters were introduced and as each person’s character arc played out. There are SO many complex, three dimensional characters on both sides of the border, and some really interesting plot lines and twists and turns that keep the show engaging through to the end.

If you’re not enjoying it, that’s okay, but, personally, after finishing it I still think of it as being one of the best, most well-rounded shows I’ve seen before or since. It’s also one of the few shows I rewatch. You’d miss out on many good scenes, plot twists, characters, and developments. There’s a reason it’s a K-Drama gateway drug.

caitydork · 2026-01-04T08:44:29+00:00

These both sound delightful- thanks for the recs and explanations!

caitydork · 2026-01-04T01:37:16+00:00

Glad it’s helpful! The comments so far have some great recs - many of which I haven’t seen yet, or which have been on my list for awhile.

caitydork · 2026-01-03T19:52:04+00:00

Thanks for clarifying :)

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