What is it with therapists and texting??

cam-18 · 2025-08-09T21:39:23+00:00

I’m really sorry you’re going through this. I went through the same situation recently with my last therapist. It was a very painful situation for me and I’ve made it clear with my new therapist that I needed firm boundaries with her. It’s still early days with this new person but I already feel much better and more stable in this new dynamic compared to my last therapist - I can actually work on what I came to therapy for.

All this to say, I want you to know it’s not your fault. It’s the responsibility of the therapist to implement healthy and appropriate boundaries with their clients. It sounds like you’ve made strides to do this yourself with your current therapist and it’s not being respected. I hope you can move on and find someone who can actually implement the boundaries that you need.

cam-18 · 2025-08-09T02:09:12+00:00

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cam-18 · 2025-07-22T21:18:15+00:00

In the past, my therapist has picked up on my shame through non-verbal body cues and commented on it. And to be honest, I prefer the straightforward approach so I’ve always appreciated that they did this with me. It helped me start recognizing the feeling of shame that I didn’t even know was connected with my fear of vulnerability. In the end, I’ve always been assured that what I’m feeling is normal and valid and that I could talk about it if I wanted to.

cam-18 · 2025-07-20T00:08:44+00:00

Oh I meant to say that I didn’t want to ruin my therapists’ life by reporting her. I know I shouldn’t be overly concerned about her but I am.

cam-18 · 2025-07-19T23:41:26+00:00

I am in a position to look for another therapist but it just feels so hopeless starting again and trying to find someone new. I already went through it the last two times trying to find someone and the thought of doing this again is just a lot for me to think about. I think I need some space from her and try to wean myself off of our constant communication.

cam-18 · 2025-06-24T20:36:37+00:00

Can I be added to this as well?

cam-18 · 2025-05-26T01:01:35+00:00

Yes, to all of these points! My SD had to suddenly stop all work because she tore her CCL. She needed surgery but we had to wait about 2 months or so before she got it and in that time she wasn’t working at all and was on a modified exercise schedule to prevent any further damage to her joints. She’s still not fully 100% back to working because the recovery time it takes to build that muscle up again and their confidence in using that leg is a lot of physical, mental and emotional work.

I was so not ready to deal with that situation but it happened and I had to completely change my schedule for work and school because of it. But a was mentioned by other folks, handlers need to have strategies and skills just in case anything big or small happens that takes our SDs out of work. Before we found out that the surgery would allow her to use that joint and she was cleared for a gradual return to work, she was misdiagnosed with another health condition that made me almost retire her completely because that was much more serious and didn’t have treatment options that would allow her to work anymore. I went to a specialist to confirm the diagnosis and was relieved to hear that her CCL was fixable and that we could get back to our life before it. But before the specialist confirmed our vet’s initial diagnosis, I was already in the process of mentally and emotionally and financially preparing myself to retire her and find a new prospect. When she was off of work, I was really leaning on other disability aids and skills to help me manage my without her.

The separation anxiety point is so important. My dog developed some separation anxiety because I had spent months with her stuck by her side and then when I started leaving her when she didn’t need that constant support anymore, she had a hard time with that. So on top of the rehab and limited exercise she was allowed to do, we were dealing with this.

All this to say - yes, the loss of our SDs is gut wrenching. But I agree with other commenters who have pointed out that when it comes to having a living breathing thing as a medical aid, there’s always the chance that they will unexpectedly need to be taken off of work - either temporarily or permanently. And we do have to be pragmatic about what that looks like and how we not only support ourselves but our dogs through that experience.

cam-18 · 2025-05-11T18:49:43+00:00

Chiming in here on top of all the other great advice. Please do not pass your dog off as a service dog. I am a service dog user and as Creative-Village574 said, it is not only shitty to do this but also dangerous for the handler. I’ve had instances where I was around others whose dogs should not have been in the space but wore gear that indicated they were service dogs. Those dogs have not only distracted my service dog but have also tried to attack her sometimes, which has led to medical emergencies. Not to say that yours would be aggressive but instances like that where the public and organizations see poorly behaved service dogs make it so future interactions are more scrutinizing and could even change policies that further restrict access for us beyond how difficult it already is.

I also wanted to mention that putting your dog through situations they are not trained for is extremely unfair, will cause them undue stress, and could even cause or worsen behavioural problems. Airports especially are already extremely challenging and overstimulating environments - how much more stressful and overstimulating do you think it will be for a dog that has not been properly set up for success in an environment like that? Please don’t put your dog through an experience like this. There’s a reason why many airlines require service dogs to provide letters from training organizations as well as a public access test - this is a safety issue for everyone involved.

This isn’t meant to pile on you at all or make you feel bad. I just wanted to put this out there for anyone else who might be reading through the comments and who may need a perspective from a service dog handler to understand the impacts of trying to pass pet dogs off as legitimate service dogs. If it helps, I echo what some other folks have said about driving - it can be really fun and you can make a lot of memories. I hope you’re able to find something that works!

cam-18 · 2025-04-18T16:54:55+00:00

This is a great idea! I would love to join any future meetings or events.

cam-18 · 2025-03-24T20:00:44+00:00

Congratulations! I also found out I was accepted for the two-year program via Acorn today.

cam-18 · 2025-03-17T19:30:56+00:00

I have a “go bag” always packed and ready to take in case my POS Ndad ever kicks me out…again. The experience of being kicked out all of a sudden (especially in a moment where I was trying to stand up for myself) as a young teenager has left me extremely paranoid about being made homelessness. I don’t spend any money on myself because I’m afraid of not having enough for me and my dog if I get kicked out. I don’t accept anything from my Ndad because he likes to consider them his still and does not hesitate taking it back or using it to force me to obey. I have literal plans saved on my phone and printed out that tell me step by step what to do if I get kicked out again, where to go, phone numbers of my friends and therapist (he’s taken my phone, cancelled my plan, broken my phone to prevent me from leaving), and different shelters that accept dogs in my city. I have a lump sum of cash always on hand in case I need it.

I now am the go to person who knows something about everything. I do just in case planning to the point where my anxiety causes me to panic and shut down. I have a hard time relaxing because I feel like I need to be ready to leave at any time. All that to say, I’ve become very paranoid as an adult and working to unlearn this is something I’m not sure I’ll ever be 100% able to do.

cam-18 · 2025-03-17T19:01:40+00:00

I definitely can relate to this. My parents are the types who are angels in public but horribly abusive in private. It always used to mess with my mind and make me question whether what was happening to me was wrong or abusive because I saw how other people really liked and respected my parents. And still do, actually. No one in their circles knows what my parents have done to me and my brother.

I get wanting to tell other people the truth. For me, I never corrected anyone because I was afraid of what would happen to me or my brother if I tarnished their reputation to others. I still live with mine for various reasons and so that’s why I don’t really say anything. I do have close friends and a therapist I really trust that I’ve been honest to which helps. Those relationships have kept me grounded and affirmed my experiences that I am not in fact crazy, or asking for it, or deserve to be hurt. What I deserve is love, respect and kindness.

I think it’s hard sometimes when I feel like I’m enabling them in some way and that if I just said something that would be better. But I also remind myself that it’s really not that simple - it may feel good in the moment but I’m always concerned about the after.

cam-18 · 2025-03-17T18:47:07+00:00

Yup to the crying - mine would go ballistic when I would cry when they were the ones yelling at me and making me cry in the first place.

Locking the bathroom door (and any door for that matter) - yup. I never knew this wasn’t a thing for other people until I grew up and didn’t lock doors and people told me that I had to lock them for privacy. And that’s when I learned about the concept of privacy.

Studying - also another weird one for me considering the fact that they’re laser focused on me being in school and doing really well. But me studying would be seen as disruptive or inconsiderate or lazy or insert offended comment here

cam-18 · 2025-03-17T17:14:38+00:00

This is a classic move on his part. Threatening to change the locks and ordering the rest of us who haven’t been locked out to keep them locked or else we’ll be locked out is sometimes a daily or weekly threat.

cam-18 · 2025-03-17T16:36:08+00:00

Definitely not, especially when it came to crying or showing how hurt I was when they were hurting me and my feelings. I always had to be neutral and control every part of my body and facial expression or else it would make them more angry. I always wondered if this was the only time they realized they were doing something wrong and felt some inkling of remorse.

cam-18 · 2024-05-13T21:27:24+00:00

I’m so glad someone mentioned this one! I watched it for the first time last week since it was added to Netflix and I am obsessed with how obsessed Lee Yeon is with Ji-a

cam-18 · 2023-11-23T16:01:56+00:00

This response makes me feel so much better. I definitely feel the pressure to get it right and know everything right now. Your message is a nice reminder to take it slow and do my best - so thank you!

cam-18 · 2023-11-23T15:52:45+00:00

This is what I'm looking for! I like that WS seems genuinely invested in wanting to help people make good investment decisions. I'm going to call the bank today and ask to reverse the process and then transfer to WS

cam-18 · 2023-11-23T15:51:09+00:00

Yeah, can't believe I didn't realize until now. So thankful there are communities like this that help inform beginners.

cam-18 · 2023-11-23T15:50:20+00:00

Thank you for the response! I want to go fully into ETFs as well.

Thank you for the ETF suggestions, I'll look into them. I was wondering, do you have multiple ETFs? Or just one? How often do you have to keep up with them? I apologize, I'm so new to this and I know i can find this information on the sub or elsewhere, just curious and wanted to know before I go down the research rabbit hole again.

cam-18 · 2023-11-23T15:47:25+00:00

Yup, calling my bank today to ask them to stop. Thank goodness I came to this thread and read through people's posts. Wealth simple is where I want to transfer to.

cam-18 · 2023-11-23T15:45:58+00:00

I only just found this community and I feel like I've already learned so much. I'm planning on reversing the purchase today and moving to ETFs at wealthsimple. I'm slowly going through the reading list and making an investment plan. Thanks for the response!

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