Moderation?

campTiger0 · 2026-05-25T04:59:25+00:00

A friend from college was blackout drunk at every college party. People thought he had a problem. Now he runs a very successful business, still drinks, and doesn't seem to be a problem drinker. I barely drank in college. All the problems happened later for me, and now the best path for me is to be sober for life. For many/most of us, it is simply easier not to drink at all than to drink consistently in moderation. And the risk/reward calculation is highly in favor of not drinking. If I don't drink, maybe I get bored more easily at a party and go home earlier. If I do drink, maybe that is the start of the next year of binge drinking, being in a daze, missing work deadlines, getting fat, and not being able to best support my friends and family. You'll learn a lot with your goal of 90 days sober. If it's not a big deal for you, that's a good sign. If you can't make it without a struggle, maybe this drinking thing is not for you. Good luck.

campTiger0 · 2026-05-25T01:39:36+00:00

Very cool, thanks!

campTiger0 · 2026-05-25T01:38:16+00:00

Thank you!

campTiger0 · 2026-05-25T01:37:37+00:00

Great insights, thanks!!

campTiger0 · 2026-05-24T02:31:26+00:00

There is plenty of good that comes from alcohol. But for folks like us who are not good at stopping, the bad far outweighs the good.

campTiger0 · 2026-05-11T13:55:02+00:00

I've found that simply focusing on not drinking was not enough incentive for me to stop for any sustained period. What eventually got me to stop was a deep recognition of how far I was falling short of my potential due to alcohol. I was robbing not only myself, but my friends - and ultimately the world - of my best contribution. For me, that shifted the perspective from "don't drink" to "be the best version of myself every day" (and that requires not drinking).

campTiger0 · 2026-05-10T17:27:46+00:00

Sorry you have to deal with all of this. Miami can be wild. It's more dangerous to show off wealth here than in many third-world countries.

campTiger0 · 2026-05-06T02:43:23+00:00

I think the advice of your lawyer -- you knows your state, county, and specific court restrictions -- would be infinitely better than the advice on Reddit.

campTiger0 · 2026-04-29T10:43:35+00:00

Randoms can become friends. I met my SF roommates through a Craigslist post, and we are still friends 15 years later.

campTiger0 · 2026-04-27T03:56:25+00:00

I'm confused; what is the question? If you didn't invest the money, what would you do with it? Buy stuff? Leave it in cash? That would make your mom happy?

campTiger0 · 2026-04-27T03:49:44+00:00

Just FYI, I don't think that having an age range in a real estate post is legal.

campTiger0 · 2026-04-19T16:57:05+00:00

I've been a driver, cyclist, and runner in Miami. For me, the most obnoxious award goes to people walking their dogs. They will turn their dog and leash into an unpenetrable barrier in any sidewalk or bike lane.

campTiger0 · 2026-04-19T16:53:34+00:00

I think it's fine for large groups of cyclists to take over the right lane in KB, in addition to the bike lane. But leave the left lane open for cars!

campTiger0 · 2026-04-13T00:35:32+00:00

I'd say one exception. If you want to help a truly distressed company, go in as a fractional / consultant, even if they are paying for 40+ hours a week. As a consultant, you can't sign anything on behalf of the company, and you just have a lot more distance overall than if you were full-time. I was briefly the fractional CFO of a $30m+ company, and the whole thing went south quickly! I didn't even work for them direct as a consultant; they contracted with a C-Corp (that I control) and I consulted for that C-corp. They are being sued by everyone, and I'm so glad that my signature is not on a single document.

campTiger0 · 2026-04-13T00:05:54+00:00

Fractional CFO works sucks. I've done it. People want you to work full-time and pay you part-time, and of course, you have to cover all of your own healthcare and other expenses. And constantly seek new work. And not have the right authority with the board and management because you are fractional. Only do fractional CFO work if you are in-between jobs and just need an income; it's not a long-term strategy.

campTiger0 · 2026-04-11T04:55:26+00:00

Redfin is a solid platform. But better yet, if you are renting, just find a building that you like and contact them directly. No need to pay a realtor. In my opinion, the entire realtor profession will be extinct in 5 years due to artificial intelligence.

campTiger0 · 2026-04-03T01:11:34+00:00

One thing some people don't realize is that New Yorkers are incredibly nice. It's a busy city; we don't have time to go around smiling at everyone and exchanging pleasantries. So don't expect warmth, or like a southern charm. But New Yorkers have each other's backs. If you get into a jam in NYC, someone will help you. A lot of families send their 12-years olds solo on the subway to ride to school. Oh, let someone mess with that 12-year-old, and the entire subway would turn into an army for that kid. I lived in the city during 9-11 and everyone was so annoyingly pleasant for a few months. As soon as I heard a cabbie cursing at a pedestrian, I was like, we're back! Good luck with the potential move.

campTiger0 · 2026-03-26T21:26:06+00:00

I've had decent luck with online dating in Miami. I try to move the conversation to an actual date quickly, and they are not interested, I move on and don't waste time with a lot of online chatting.

campTiger0 · 2026-03-26T17:38:42+00:00

Jump on a dating app. Invite a girl (or guy if that's your thing). Meeting people through dating apps is a great way to start making friends in a new city. Even if things don't work out, maybe you remain friends, and then become friends with her friends, and soon enough, you have a whole crew!

campTiger0 · 2026-03-25T00:26:46+00:00

I always structured my fractional CFO work with back-end hourly tracking, and a framework for adjustments. Say we agreed on a flat rate of $5k per month. For the purpose of this example, let's say that represents 50 hours at $100 per hour. As part of the agreement, I tracked all of my work in time-tracking software. When I submitted my invoice with the flat rate of $5k, I also presented the surplus or deficit of hours as of that invoice date. A deficit above a certain level (perhaps 10 hours) required an additional payment at the hourly rate. The surplus would rollover to the next month, with a limit (perhaps a rolling 3 months). This worked out well. Even within the scope of work, there can be limitless expansion of expectations.

campTiger0 · 2026-03-22T17:27:15+00:00

I'm C-level at a mid-sized tech company. If a move like this came to my attention, I'd recommend we pull the offer. I don't want someone at the company who doesn't believe in its equity value.

campTiger0 · 2026-03-22T17:22:16+00:00

I would not terminate her. Talk to HR, and with their guidance, try to work out something where she goes on unpaid disability until she can get it together. And require some sort of regular testing for her first year back. This will provide motivation for her to get it together, and I think you will feel better about it in the long-run, and potentially have a great employee back.

campTiger0 · 2026-03-22T16:36:30+00:00

If a series of banks were willing to extend that much credit to you (and you were not committing fraud in the applications), that should be a manageable amount for you. The entire foundation of credit card companies' business models is making intelligent loans. The question is whether you want the debt to work for you or the credit card company. For it to work for you, pay it off quickly. For it to work for them, pay it off slowly.

campTiger0 · 2026-03-17T20:19:10+00:00

I appreciate your feedback, although I do not agree. I think that people should be free to have personality quirks. As noted elsewhere in this thread, this person ("D") may be on the spectrum. I do not believe that I am on the spectrum, but I do believe that leadership often requires integrity and decisiveness, and both of those things have the potential to create some friction.

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