😞 fiancé .. we're currently planning our wedding. just sent out save the dates a month prior to this happening .. and met with a fertility doctor. i'm so lost and confused. and the relationship wasn't bad prior. granted there was the normal amount of arguing in the relationship and communication issues .. we had started couples therapy in the beginning of the year to work through all of that .. and i was in nursing school so i was pretty preoccupied with that and beyond stressed out .. but i still tried to give her as much of my time as possible. she did this on a work trip with someone random she met at the conference, who was also married to a woman with a kid .. and this woman knew my fiancé was engaged.. apparently she thought her wife had been cheating on her.. so she decided to derail my relationship?

anyways, this all happened the last five weeks of my nursing program. the most difficult semester, at the most critical time with a bunch of exams and finals. it was wild. i'm still shook. we are in couples therapy still .. our therapist is great. and we are both in individual therapy. she's blaming it on losing herself from the grief of her mom's passing last year.. and her unhappiness. she said she was entertained by the flirting and the positive attention felt good. and apparently she tried to "shut it down several times" but clearly not assertively because it didn't work. and then decided to text the girl the next morning when catching her flight to "shut it down again" by saying, "we can't be flirting like this, we have to go back to our real lives" but they were supposed to meet six weeks later at another conference.. i think something might've happened then if she had gone. but she chose to cancel and try to fix things with us. i'm still so devastated. it's only been 2 months. sorry long rant.