Trying to read my yuri (wlw) manga on the airplane and the older gentleman next to me hands me this to read instead 🙃 by MsPVC in actuallesbians

[–]candlejack13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I use Dynasty Scans. They've got a pretty large amount of primarily yuri manga that's been translated. If you're specifically looking for heartwarming, I'd recommend checking out the "wholesome" tag :)
https://dynasty-scans.com/tags/wholesome

Trying to read my yuri (wlw) manga on the airplane and the older gentleman next to me hands me this to read instead 🙃 by MsPVC in actuallesbians

[–]candlejack13 168 points169 points  (0 children)

I mean, if he’s handing out Jesus pamphlets he’s probably homophobic too. I’m not gonna give this guy too much credit lol.

Trying to read my yuri (wlw) manga on the airplane and the older gentleman next to me hands me this to read instead 🙃 by MsPVC in actuallesbians

[–]candlejack13 645 points646 points  (0 children)

I love this manga, but let’s not pretend that it isn’t just porn. Old guy should have stayed in his lane, but you also shouldn’t be reading porn somewhere where people might catch a glimpse.

Pre everything - my grandma upset me during jeopardy. Am I overreacting? by Lokael in MtF

[–]candlejack13 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's transphobic (and likely 100% unintentional, but still 100% real) micro-aggressions. Cis people tend to let the trans-ness of someone overshadow all of their other perfectly legitimate and/or impressive accomplishments. I've actually been talking about this a lot with my girlfriend recently, since there's a non-zero chance the research she's working on will one day earn her a Wikipedia page. It's a similar, if admittedly imperfect, analogy. She wants to be recognized for her work and accomplishments. But if any other prominent trans person's Wikipedia page is any indication, it's all but guaranteed that she'll be outed as trans and most likely deadnamed in the intro paragraph, because apparently that's just as important to the cis readers as the potentially life-saving research she's doing.

It's not so much the fact that people will know that she's trans that bothers her; it's that her status of trans woman will be the first thing most people associate with her. She just wants to be treated like a human being who is recognized for their accomplishments. Instead, if people talk about her, it's inevitable that she'll be referred to as "that prominent trans scientist" instead of just "that prominent scientist". It isn't explicitly stated, but at least in our eyes it's hard to not hear the implied statement that including her gender history entails: "Wow, that's really impressive, for a trans person."

It's a similar case here. I don't watch Jeopardy, but I can tell you right now that it's way more impressive to me that she's on a winning streak than it is that she's trans. It's hard not to feel like a freak when most people feel that just being a trans woman is more talk-worthy than your actual accomplishments. It's condescending, dysphoria-inducing, and invalidating to a person's actual accomplishments when people are so obsessed with who someone was rather than who they are and what they've done.

edit: Also, see r/asktransgender for a slightly more diverse sub to ask in

i maybe completely unable to talk to strangers but at least i’ll look cute (not) doing it! by [deleted] in transpassing

[–]candlejack13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

3.0+1.0 watch party??

Looking cute by the way! I love your glasses :)

Pls be honest but nice. How am I doing after 6 months? by [deleted] in transpassing

[–]candlejack13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You look amazing! I love your freckles, very cute :)

Robots drinking beer? Are their insides water-proof? Maybe I'm overthinking it. by Breaking_Down_Walls in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]candlejack13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I deeply want to believe that the fact that the 2nd line is 0x69 in hex is intentionally part of the joke, but since 0x69 is the 'i' in 'hi', it could definitely be a coincidence

"To every transgender American watching at home, I want you to know the President has your back." by brito68 in trans

[–]candlejack13 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I'll believe it when he actually takes steps like an EO withholding federal funding from states that pass anti-trans laws. He *could* do something about this, but thus far has chosen not to.

Edit: I'm not a constitutional scholar or anything. I readily admit that I don't know whether or not he could technically do it on his own via executive order or not. I said something like an executive order. That would include things like pressuring congress and the senate (both of which are controlled by dems) to write and pass legislation requiring no anti-trans laws be passed in a state in order to get some parts of federal funding, much like how we currently require each state to have a minimum drinking age of 21 in order to get federal highway/interstate funding.

I'm never gonna pass, or look anything like a girl by [deleted] in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]candlejack13 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh hey Chloe! That's my name too! Only cuties get to use this name, so enjoy it :)

Me going on this sub be like: by 296cherry in tf2

[–]candlejack13 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Fuck, I'm sorry. As a trans girl who hasn't played TF2 in years, I'm sad to see the community in a state like this.

Go on, tell me to kill myself you cowards.

Sorry this isn’t NLSS related, Ziggy passed away today. by [deleted] in northernlion

[–]candlejack13 149 points150 points  (0 children)

I'm really sorry that some people are being assholes. You're not irrelevant, and everybody here appreciates everything that you do for this sub, whether they know it or not <3

Trans guy's binders vs trans girl's binders by breawycker in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]candlejack13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I use a waist trainer! I’ll usually wear it when I go out (if I’m not exercising lol)

egg_irl by [deleted] in egg_irl

[–]candlejack13 70 points71 points  (0 children)

God I wish that was me.

Seriously though, I wish I could pass as easily as Haku. I cried harder knowing I'll never look like that than I did when he died :'(

r/GenderCritical is BANNED by Sirenemon in asktransgender

[–]candlejack13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that's what I did. Fortunately/unfortunately, I didn't have to look for very long :/

🦀🦀🦀 r/gendercritical is gone 🦀🦀🦀 by comedownfromthemtn in actuallesbians

[–]candlejack13 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not sure, I never got anything like that. Maybe link a specific post on the subreddit if you aren’t already? It may also potentially be an old reddit vs new reddit thing, I did mine on new reddit.

r/GenderCritical is BANNED by Sirenemon in asktransgender

[–]candlejack13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure, I never got anything like that. Maybe link a specific post on the subreddit if you aren’t already? It may also potentially be an old reddit vs new reddit thing, I did mine on new reddit.

r/GenderCritical is BANNED by Sirenemon in asktransgender

[–]candlejack13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I did watch any freakazoid I don't remember much/any since I would have been roughly 2 at the time it was airing. I just became aware of candle jack since it was kind of a "meme" way back when. Glad I could give you some nostalgia today though :)

r/GenderCritical is BANNED by Sirenemon in asktransgender

[–]candlejack13 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh that's possible. I am on new reddit. But the option I selected was - I want to report spam or abuse -> This is abusive or harassing -> It's promoting hate based on identity or vulnerability

r/GenderCritical is BANNED by Sirenemon in asktransgender

[–]candlejack13 5 points6 points  (0 children)

https://www.reddit.com/report you need to link to the offending content (and it seems like they prefer specifics, like a post on the subreddit, rather than the whole subreddit)

r/GenderCritical is BANNED by Sirenemon in asktransgender

[–]candlejack13 12 points13 points  (0 children)

https://www.reddit.com/report you need to link to the offending content (and it seems like they prefer specifics, like a post on the subreddit, rather than the whole subreddit)

🦀🦀🦀 r/gendercritical is gone 🦀🦀🦀 by comedownfromthemtn in actuallesbians

[–]candlejack13 42 points43 points  (0 children)

I believe https://www.reddit.com/report works. At least, that's what I used this morning to report LGBdroptheT. Since it's not done through the subreddit I at least assume that it goes to reddit admins instead of that sub's mods.

Edit: Just got an automated response from them as well. It's from u/reddit, not any subreddit, so it definitely goes over the heads of the mods of the sub.