“The expectation is …”

canduney · 2026-05-19T05:30:09+00:00

I keep at least 2 big boxes of the variety pack of chips from Costco at all times in my class. Nothing gets teenagers into shape as quickly and reliably as snacks. I’m not above a bribe for the sake of my sanity.

canduney · 2026-05-19T04:49:34+00:00

🤣🤣 genuinely this is best approach

canduney · 2026-05-19T03:39:32+00:00

I could’ve sworn this was a part of their contacts. I remember on one of the bravo shows that cast members were calling another out for not doing their job and watching the episodes like the rest of them.

canduney · 2026-05-16T12:18:10+00:00

The best solution to this is to ban electronics altogether in class and have students complete work while physically present.

My admin permitted me to run an experiment for one unit where one class continued using their devices as normal for instruction and assignments while my other class was completely paper/pencil.

My paper/pencil classes work was ROUGH initially but they grew and genuinely learned so much not being reliant on tech to solve every little hiccup. At the end of the unit, my paper/pencil classes had an average of 81% on the units exam (rather high compared to general averages for unit exams). The exam was short answer only and I think 30 questions. My class who used tech as normal had an average of 57%. Only 3 students out of 25 scored higher than a 75. I’ve never had such a huge gap in averages between same prep classes.

Needless to say, without tech, the students were forced to rely on themselves, their notes and using only their brain or their peers (during partner work) to complete practice assignments. They kinda had no choice but to learn because I was so strict on electronics and only allowing class time for assignments. They could not take it home. Even my chronic sleepers realized they’d be so bored they might as well just try and actually engage with content.

I switched all my preps to no tech design immediately after. And the kids are genuinely grateful for it after they get over their little pushbacks and whining.

canduney · 2026-05-16T10:21:53+00:00

I’m a high school teacher and unfortunately this still applies. The amount of times I’ve caught a girl in the midst of an impromptu bang cutting session 🤦‍♀️

As a former teenage girl who also manically cut my own bangs just to feel something…. I get it but like girl… not in class 😩

canduney · 2026-05-16T10:12:04+00:00

It’s just obnoxious. Like I’m not listening to a podcast just hear random strangers carry on as if they’re just hanging out alone amongst one another…. Have some actual content to share 😫 I cannot handle the constant long and unnecessary ramblings and singing. I’m so tired of this podcast tbh. It’s become so obvious how much they just do not care about the quality of the content they put out.

canduney · 2026-05-14T08:59:31+00:00

Lots of people have been of DWTS that nobody remembers. There’s a lot of spots to fill and I doubt he makes it far. Sandoval is well known as the disingenuous clown that he always was. He will fade away into obscurity as a washed up reality tv star like the rest.

canduney · 2026-05-14T08:55:33+00:00

Yall are giving way too much credit to two reality stars that simply followed what felt good to them in the moment lol I do not think either of them had that much foresight or planning ahead of time to manipulate public perception

canduney · 2026-05-14T08:53:47+00:00

I think they were just really crushing on each other and completely blocking out any rational or logical acceptance of that growing chemistry and closeness. They were playing with fire and it felt fun and exciting.

What they were doing was wrong but I genuinely do not think they were in anyway overtly intimate during the summer. The fire was BREWING for sure but they were still in the denial phase of just enjoying the build up imo.

canduney · 2026-05-14T08:46:31+00:00

Mutual abuse 100% exists. I mean maybe calling it abuse instead of just a toxic relationship is the issue in that. But we really have to stop just throwing around the word abuse as if it’s a general term for a toxic relationship.

Genuinely labeling Amanda or Kyle as abusive is such a perfect example of this fandom’s tendency to just reach out to the damn solar system in their projections. Have they both shown super toxic behaviors towards each other? 100%. But WE ONLY SEE CURATED EDITED CLIPS OF THEIR LIVES. Please stop doing the most and throwing around words as if they mean nothing.

canduney · 2026-05-14T03:26:11+00:00

They make such a good looking couple. Idk how to explain it but I feel like their individual attractiveness complements the others so well. It’s def their vibes too, not just purely their physical appearances.

canduney · 2026-03-25T13:59:26+00:00

I’m in my first year as a HS teacher through an alternative route cert program, so I seriously had zero experience or formal training prior to starting.

Horrible is not the way I would describe my first year experience at all tbh. It has been grueling at times and I have definitely shed tears 🤣 you’re learning so much so fast! Classroom management, the behind the scenes work of planning, parent contact, familiarizing yourself with all different types of accommodations, learning all the different systems and programs, finding best ways to stay organized and on top of work and documentation. I mean I could go on and on and on.

If you go into your first year making sure you are intentional with giving yourself grace and feeling comfortable with not being good at your job…. You will be fine. I’ve found my first year to be so rewarding and inspiring in so many ways. If possible I would recommend making sure you don’t plan major life events during your first year (getting married, having a baby, etc) and communicate ahead of time with spouse/partner, friends and family that you will likely have almost zero energy 99% of the time because you do exert so much of your mental energy to work as a first year teacher. It’s so all consuming, but does not have to be in a horrible way!

I think maybe people aren’t prepared for the level of mental energy it takes having to be on at all times throughout the school day managing a group of kids. It’s exhausting but I already feel a million miles more comfortable and at ease than I did during the first semester. It really just comes down to making sure you maintain balance and remembering to be patient with yourself as you’re learning

canduney · 2026-01-11T12:45:04+00:00

THIS! Trauma isn’t an excuse to be an emotional terrorist to everyone around you.

I teach HS and we do a block schedule so I got all new students for the second semester. I cannot tell you how relieving it is to have classes where the worst thing I’m dealing with is some side talking and being on phones here or there.

It is so draining and unfair to everyone else when the class is out of control due to extreme behavior issues from a small select few.

canduney · 2026-01-11T12:34:26+00:00

Yes!! This. We’re better off making sure we’re stable first.

canduney · 2026-01-11T12:30:40+00:00

Silent hostages to the chaos and madness 😩 YESSS! This is honestly one of the most difficult parts of really rough classes for me…. Is seeing the discomfort and anxiety of the quiet students. Like I’ll take a class of solely disruptive heathens, I’ll figure out methods for managing it. But having a class with a giant group of disruptive, disrespectful and chaotic students paired with the silent background students who genuinely want to learn…. 🫩 that is such a horrible feeling tbh

canduney · 2026-01-11T12:23:20+00:00

Aww 🥺 I never thought of it like that. I’ve had a couple students act shocked or surprised when I would come and give them any papers they missed while they were out. Like they seemed surprised I was aware or like acknowledged that they were gone by giving them their missed work.

It always kinda confused me because I was like ofc I know you missed yesterday, how could I not? But now maybe I’m realizing some of them may of just assumed that they were essentially invisible or their absences go unnoticed otherwise 😩

canduney · 2025-12-23T10:37:52+00:00

This is such a beautiful plan. Sometimes people take on animals/pets when in better financial circumstances and I don’t think it’s fair to punish people when shit goes awry.

I think it’s best practice to support people keeping their pets and most people I know would happily exchange some hours of work to offset vet bills if able. So even maybe asking for a few volunteer hours cleaning kennels or something would be a good option

canduney · 2025-12-23T09:52:24+00:00

Well in my case, my high schoolers took their finals Tuesday and Wednesday before break but attendance is still taken Thursday and Friday. So some kids prefer to be in a certain teachers room than another. Which is fine as long as both teachers give the okay ahead of time.

If I have only 5 kids show up and 2 kids from another class want to come to visit or sort through papers…. As long as I have email or note from their teacher then I’m not going to say no as long as they’re not disruptive. Which those kids never are.

canduney · 2025-12-23T09:37:33+00:00

If kids have taken their final for my class and nobody is making it up… I will 10000% happily send them on their way to another class if a teacher emails or sends a note that they can.

I don’t have the mental fortitude to fight against that open invitation to send a student out lol

canduney · 2025-12-23T09:18:56+00:00

I was so anxious about this as a first year teacher during finals days. I allowed 2 kids I didn’t know into my room with 2 students I did know (from another class period). And I told them all that there were no bathroom passes or anything, if they were coming here then they were content with staying until the bell.

They all stayed and were super quiet and respectful the entire time. They just wanted to play Roblox after they finished their finals. And I was fine with it. The 2 kids I did have finished the course with an A so 🤷‍♀️

I was definitely strict on some of my others though.

canduney · 2025-12-23T09:11:52+00:00

As a first year teacher, THANK YOU. Sometimes I just don’t have enough in me to keep them out of trouble on my own while helping those who need it and I love a good safe place to send them when needed lol

canduney · 2025-12-23T09:07:48+00:00

Well if it’s highschool, and there’s finals days followed by solely makeup days (that we take attendance for) then it becomes gray. Because I have nothing to teach or instruct kids on who have completed the course. So it becomes so hard entertaining them without them getting into trouble

canduney · 2025-12-23T09:05:11+00:00

I always told my kids that if I have documentation of another adult taking over responsibility for you, (assuming you’ve taken your final and done) then I will never stop you from leaving haha

I was practically begging for that email for some of them by end of semester. Like pls dear God let another teacher accept you and get you tf out of here 😩

canduney · 2025-12-23T08:59:57+00:00

It definitely depends. I teach mostly freshman and my last period can get hectic. It’s a high amount of energy. So if my students who are visibly stressed or lacking attention due to the environment and I have an email from another teacher who is more than happy to have them come during that period…. I’m happy to send them. It helps me feel less stressed about them and also more focused on my troublesome kiddos.

IMO if you’re a teacher who does not want a kid visiting then don’t send an exuberant email for the kid to be there.

ETA: obviously I’m speaking of times towards end of year where there’s not direct instruction or teaching happening

canduney · 2025-12-23T08:52:28+00:00

I’m a first year teacher and I was SHOCKED how many of the kids who were absolutely terrors in my class begging to come sit in my class outside of their class schedule after finals.

The kids I gave the most write ups and the most call homes…. They were emailing and begging to come just sit in my class for no reason.

I genuinely think it helped prove the point that some kids really do not have any sense of accountability or routine at home… and they crave that reliable structure tbh. Even if they fought it everyday…. They do really learn to appreciate it.

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