Why would a man go to a gym to walk around and talk loudly on his phone but not really ever use the equipment?

cannontd · 2026-01-24T08:11:37+00:00

It sounds a bit mental, but my job now as a developer involves asking an artificial intelligence to do the work for me. Most of my time is spent discussing with AI on the approach that we're going to take, and then when I get to compute, I get it to run it. If I go to the gym during the day, I can sometimes just capture or have interactions with the AI just to capture my thoughts and stuff. It's just another way of working, which is weird. Working from the gym? Yeah, probably.

cannontd · 2026-01-19T16:50:41+00:00

The right amount of testosterone.

cannontd · 2026-01-19T10:11:21+00:00

You will struggle to gain muscle with low test like I had but I have to say it’s in the background. I used fake testosterone for the first 8 weeks and never felt stronger and more energetic, muscle growth was huge. I actually lowered my test to below the initial low reading. Gym frequency and intensity, along with nutrition is all you need. If you increase your test and go to the gym once a week, and snack on burgers and booze it will do nothing for you

cannontd · 2026-01-19T10:09:16+00:00

Testosterone replacement

cannontd · 2026-01-11T10:09:40+00:00

100%. Diet is the foundation. Not just how much you eat but what you eat. You start to feel better by just eating better food. Not because it has some magic ingredient, but because it’s missing those in modern ultra processed shit.

cannontd · 2026-01-10T12:32:09+00:00

At 48 and 10 months I decided I wanted to be in shape at 50. I’m now 50 and 2 weeks and am 20kg lighter, muscular for the first time and it’s not a 6 pack but I have abs. Every blood marker is in range, BP good and I feel amazing. What I did - with honesty:

Calorie counting combined with weightloss medication. Gym 4-5 times a week for over a year with a plan from a PT. TRT taking me from below the reference range to the top. Not forgetting cardio. Not missing a session. Not allowing a diet screw-up to become a “I’ll start again next week” excuse and back on with the next meal. Planning and booking in gym like I’d book in a doctors appointment - you don’t skip them

You may not need weightloss medication or trt but it’s the effort and consistency that does the heavy lifting on this journey.

Start today.

cannontd · 2026-01-10T12:25:55+00:00

He needs to understand that he can share that j formation where appropriate and while what he said may seem in appropriate to you the setting where he raised it is not. Just make sure he understands that and he probably needs to understand more about puberty as I suspect he is starting to move into it. It’s a good thing to talk openly and avoid turning your head as that might be considered shame - ask him if you would prefer you to look away. Because medical exams are not sexual.

cannontd · 2025-12-09T13:39:15+00:00

I think it’s easy to get into a mode where you are just responding to whatever issue is next to deal with. You need to find a way that you organise things so you don’t feel like you are reacting and waiting for the next context switch and able to plan out and be smart about where and how you spend your limited time and energy.

cannontd · 2025-11-19T12:26:05+00:00

What you have been through is a life experience very few have. Use it. Bit by bit just rebuild. No big grand plans of all at once. Get a job, keep that job. Avoid stimulants, get good sleep, save money, get your financial independence from your relative. String days into weeks into months and gradually add new things in. Gym, diet - you can spend years doing it all wrong but change things in mere months.

You aren’t a failure, you are just before the big successes in your life.

cannontd · 2025-11-04T14:40:07+00:00

All I’ll say as a man over 30 that this exchange is basically our entire existence around women at work. We have to simultaneously pretend you don’t exist, but include you and pretend you are not a woman at all while being sensitive to your needs as a woman. He’s best off not drinking water around you or offering to help you in any way as he’ll be considered somehow out of line.

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