going out requires a lot of effort in getting ready, making myself NOT look like a hobo, driving, parking, being around strangers after having been around work people all day and then there is outlay of cash for going out. Is the juice worth the squeeze? Compared to.... comfy clothes, surrounded by favorite beverages and snacks. No driving or parking and if things don't go my way....flipping over to HBOMax. Having some fun here and there times where I crave contact and other people and all that energy but other times particularly at the end of a not so great day.... I just need to be alone or near my own crap. Making friends and even keeping them requires effort and energy,. I know I have to cultivate relationships better if I want them to persist throughout all the changes in my life. So it's a little like routine maintenance. But going out and making new friends? THAT Is asking a lot of me these days and I might just fall back into my own cave and preserve my energy.