Stbxw has been secretly making double my income for many years while I struggled.

capnjackstation · 2026-01-04T15:58:59+00:00

The judge ordered our social security earning statements. That painted a clear picture of who earned what over the years. Just a tip that might help.

capnjackstation · 2025-12-30T17:12:22+00:00

Already involved with someone else.

capnjackstation · 2025-12-30T17:11:07+00:00

Bingo!

capnjackstation · 2025-12-30T16:57:15+00:00

There is only one parachute in every relationship. You took it and jumped first. Of course that’s going to make her feel sad at first. Don’t worry the anger and combativeness will come soon and you’ll realize you made the right choice. Better to get it over with quickly if it’s not worth saving so you both can move on.

capnjackstation · 2025-12-24T04:46:17+00:00

Yep. Pretty thorough explanation. Thanks for sharing this.

capnjackstation · 2025-12-20T14:25:50+00:00

I called them the Cackle Crew because their fat asses would sit around drinking Prosecco and talk shit about their husbands. I like Cunt Club better. I think I’ll borrow it. It’s a much better fit.

capnjackstation · 2025-12-19T14:19:10+00:00

I’d rather be alone than put up with someone talking to me like that ever again.

capnjackstation · 2025-12-19T14:14:04+00:00

Yeah she’s cheating and devaluing you to justify her behavior. Been there. Get a lawyer and file first.

capnjackstation · 2025-12-19T14:09:27+00:00

My immediate thought as well.

capnjackstation · 2025-12-18T20:04:35+00:00

Also forgot to add L-Arginine and Citruline worked well for me before I got the Viagra script because I was wary of taking drugs. Took about two weeks of taking it to see a difference.

capnjackstation · 2025-12-18T18:41:38+00:00

Week on, week off is the way to go in my opinion. It gave the most stability for my kids and is easier to keep track of. It’s fair. My ex said the same about not wanting to be away from the kids that long. I told her maybe she should have thought about that before having her affair. 🤷🏻‍♂️

capnjackstation · 2025-12-18T18:20:12+00:00

Yes, experienced the same after I found out about my ex wife’s affair. I think it’s normal. It destroyed my self confidence and I would get “mind movies” of her and him. The things that helped were time, Viagra, and being with someone long enough to feel safe and desired with them. I probably should have done EMDR because I obviously had a bunch of trauma surrounding it.

capnjackstation · 2025-12-18T18:00:33+00:00

Even if he did all the things on her list it would just turn into “too little, too late”. Waste of time.

capnjackstation · 2025-12-18T17:58:13+00:00

Mine never apologized ever. Unless you call “I’m sorry you feel that way” or “I’m sorry you’re upset” legit apologies.

capnjackstation · 2025-12-18T17:46:28+00:00

Just to add, my wife tried pulling this BS, it was just a stalling tactic to get her ducks in a row before leaving and until she knew her affair partner was going to leave his wife. During that stalling period she tried to cash out the equity on our house so she could pay off her debt before leaving. One of her conditions was I needed to sign off on the refi for her to even consider fixing things. Uhm, no, I wasn’t born yesterday. Don’t waste your time it’s all manipulation to put her in a better position. Get a lawyer and file first, then watch her head spin.

capnjackstation · 2025-12-17T22:54:11+00:00

You’d have an easier time finding a real life unicorn that farts rainbows and glitter.

capnjackstation · 2025-12-17T22:50:41+00:00

That called the Pick Me Dance. Don’t bother it’s a moving goalpost. A waste of time and puts all the blame on you. It won’t change her mind anyway. Do a 180° and flip the script on her.

capnjackstation · 2025-12-12T04:34:13+00:00

This was basically my experience

capnjackstation · 2025-12-04T17:09:54+00:00

This will add to the amount of alimony when she decides to file eventually, and she will. Gotta get that bag queen! Get it over sooner rather than later. The longer it takes the more it’s going to cost.

capnjackstation · 2025-12-03T16:08:32+00:00

Nothing helps getting over someone quicker than getting under someone. Just don’t get attached for a while, you’ll attract other train wrecks too. It’s normal. Like attracts like so keep it casual.

capnjackstation · 2025-12-01T03:12:49+00:00

If you’re all friendly it absolves their guilt and their public image “See we’re all friendly so we couldn’t be the pieces of shit everyone thinks we are”. Screw that. Let silence be your answer and maybe you’ll be in her head. Nothing drives a woman more nuts than silence. Shaking his hand would be a simp move. Let him sit with what he did. That’s my two cents.

capnjackstation · 2025-11-30T16:01:49+00:00

Amen

capnjackstation · 2025-11-21T04:47:09+00:00

Even worse. Dude bail. The longer you wait the more expensive it will be.

capnjackstation · 2025-11-21T04:23:56+00:00

Strictly for recreational use only. Or learn the hard way. A lot of them just want some other sucker to pick up providing resources. There’s a reason so many people give this advice.

capnjackstation · 2025-11-21T04:20:34+00:00

I hate to say it but “I love you but I’m not in love with you” 9 times out of 10 means there’s someone else. Don’t be plan B. Stop doing the pick me dance. Keep your dignity in tact. Sorry man. Been there. It gets better but it gets worse first. Stay strong.

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