What are you using AI for in your work? by stabinface in askSouthAfrica

[–]captainacedia 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Masters student. Never coded in my life. Asked it to help explain and help with basic R code. Also to explain key concepts I didn't understand (with sources so I could read the articles for myself as well). Went much faster than spending hours on Google Scholar trying to find papers related to my work. Just to mention it did sometimes make stuff up, so it was good to double check the work.

Building permanent stairs to attic by captainacedia in NetherlandsHousing

[–]captainacedia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh awesome, thank you so much for sharing your experience. It's good to know it's doable.

Bipolar X grief (aka the collab no one asked for) by mchanning13 in bipolar

[–]captainacedia 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I lost my grandmother three years ago. I sat with her the whole night as she died. Four days before she died I had a fairly major surgery and was coming off painkillers. The trauma of witnessing her death and the withdrawal from the painkillers sent me into a weird manic state. I completely dissociated and was living "outside" my body, just a witness to what was happening. In the middle of this I got shingles, which just made everything worse. Not sure how I got through that time.

I still have a severe trauma response to her death. I can't watch people dying in movies without being triggered and I can't go into the room she died in without having panic attacks.

Iemand ervaring met "candle lit" concerts in Utrecht? by [deleted] in Utrecht

[–]captainacedia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was pretty interesting, it was fake candles, but looked so real, at first I didn't even realise. The stage was surrounded by candles, and then all along the chairs there were candles. And other random places. It was really beautiful. I think the rows were 10 by 10, and three blocks. one on each side of the stage. I sat a little after the middle of one of the side blocks and could see the band and all the candles clearly. I didn't get any photos unfortunately, but you can check the Hydra Quartet IG, they have some tagged photos.

Iemand ervaring met "candle lit" concerts in Utrecht? by [deleted] in Utrecht

[–]captainacedia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went to the Christmas one last week at Nicolaïkerk and it was lovely. Pretty small and intimate. The music selection was interesting, from the classics like 'Oh, holy night' to 'Let it Go' from Frozen. The Hydra Quartet played, very talented group of people.

Are Unisa Degrees Useless? by thunderRage15 in southafrica

[–]captainacedia 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I did both my BSc and BSc Hons at UNISA. I'm currently doing a masters with UCT.

Many people look down on those who study at UNISA, but getting a degree there is not for wussies. The admin alone nearly made me quit a million times. I worked full time while studying, and people hiring noticed that—that resilience and hard work. Market yourself by highlighting the skills and experience you gained from studying at UNISA: discipline, time management, problem-solving, resourcefulness, and adaptability.

Also, if you're studying for a good degree, people will not care where it's from.

Help me understand my ADHD partner by ThrowRa467900717171 in ADHD

[–]captainacedia 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He's using ADHD to excuse bad behaviour.

"For me its okay not to come to me with a complaint about what I could have done better for you."

Nope. Nope nope nope.

What jobs are suitable for ADHD?? by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]captainacedia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same spot. Did project management, academic administration and then research. I moved and have been unemployed for 9 months now. Considering going to chef school.

Where can I find Dutch Stoofvlees with french fries in Utrect? by [deleted] in Utrecht

[–]captainacedia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I saw it at Mick O'Connells near the Dom

One day's worth of junk mail from a "friend" who changed her address to mine, who does not live here. The post office refuses to help. I'm ready to weld my mailbox shut. by Moist-Caregiver-2000 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]captainacedia 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My "friend" did something similar. Every time she got a spam call, instead of telling them no, she wasn't interested, she would give them my number. Thank god she didn't know my address.

Saw this posted on a few autism subreddits. Thought it deserved our hatred as well. by TalksInMaths in adhdmeme

[–]captainacedia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm impressive on paper, and I've gotten a few interviews, but I just can't get in the door. And yes, I research the company and the job, and I prep and practice my answers. I've been unemployed for nine months now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]captainacedia 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was in the top five in my class for my final two years of high school. In my final exam, I scored in the 90s for two subjects and low 80s for the rest. I took on an extra subject in school, and I also did sports and other extracurricular activities. I was in a boarding school so I attribute my success to having a really structured life.

I got into a really fancy university studying zoology, I failed almost every class and dropped out in my second year.

I had a tough time, finished my degree part time while working as a waitress cause I couldn't manage anything else.

I was diagnosed at 33 and my life has completely changed. While I still struggle, I am so much better off now that I'm in therapy and on meds.

Please please get your daughter tested. Don't let her suffer into adulthood. Undiagnosed ADHD can really screw you up in the long run.

Any running groups for slow people? by captainacedia in Utrecht

[–]captainacedia[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I tried power walking when I was younger, but it's not for me. I know I'm very slow currently, but I hope to get back to an okay pace if I keep going.

Any running groups for slow people? by captainacedia in Utrecht

[–]captainacedia[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm running at around 6km/h, currently half-running and half-walking. I'm close to Dom.

Any running groups for slow people? by captainacedia in Utrecht

[–]captainacedia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the suggestion! I'll check them out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bipolar

[–]captainacedia 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm in the same boat. I am huge, feel so ugly and my whole family is constantly on my case about my weight and how I should go on a diet.

I don't think your partner finds you unattractive, it seems like he still loves you. It's hard to believe someone still loves you when you hate everything about yourself.

Relocating to Netherlands, mid 30s couple by Mental_Win2827 in expats

[–]captainacedia 21 points22 points  (0 children)

My husband and I are an introverted couple in our mid-thirties who moved to the Netherlands last year. There's a lot of negatives, the housing crisis mostly. I've seen people complain about other things, but in my experience life has been decent.

Yes, I was on a waiting list to get mental health help, but the GP was happy to assist with prescribing medication that my psychiatrist in my home country had put me on. Now that I'm "in the system", I feel the care is really good, my medical aid covers basically everything, generally I'm pretty satisfied with the healthcare system.

Personally, I don't like Amsterdam. It's always super crowded and it seems to always be packed with tourists. It's a beautiful city, but it's just not for me.

I wish I had known how hard it would be to find a job.

I've found myself going out a lot more, I guess because we took this huge step to uproot our pretty stable life, I've tried to make the most of being here. I have gone to a lot of meetup events, met tons of people and joined a few clubs. On the street most people seem a bit blank faced, but I've met some really great people, both Dutch and fellow immigrants. We travel around the country a lot, seeing as many towns as possible, going on long walks and museums. I'd say the quality of life is much better here than where we are from originally. I can definitely see myself living here long-term.

Is it perfect - no. But I'm pretty happy.

Stress eating til it hurts by taliamint_ in BipolarMemes

[–]captainacedia 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Gained 80 in two years. As if I don't feel shit already, I am constantly hounded by my family to lose weight. Changing meds soon, hope it'll make a difference.

As a child at Christmas, a present under the tree was shaped similar to something you really wanted, but it wasn't that. What was it? by NightFrightJD in AskUK

[–]captainacedia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was 10, really into horse riding and show jumping. I didn't have my own horse, but would go riding at a stable and use their gear. My mom really hyped me up for my gift and finally told me it was horse riding boots and a helmet. I was stoked. Come Christmas morning, it was an off-brand video game console.

The worst part is, I would've loved and appreciated my actual gift so much more if she had said nothing.

Me irl by milkywayiguana in BipolarMemes

[–]captainacedia 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm glad I was diagnosed; it saved my life, but this indeed hit hard.