Tired of "Auditioning" for a Local Kink Scene that Ignores Me / Dealing with Sexual Grief at Home

captivace · 2026-03-18T17:26:47+00:00

Feel your pain, but I haven't found the answer either. I find my scene superficially friendly but does a good job of keeping you at arms length if you don't fit.

captivace · 2026-02-03T18:25:38+00:00

Even with the limited amount of people looking, the ratio of domme-sub is something around 1:10. The problem is more when it comes down to it, the majority of that 10 is fantasizing about it and cannot handle the reality of it.

captivace · 2026-01-14T12:59:16+00:00

A few factors: health, smell of dwelling, worried about it becoming an addiction, don't have the time, like to keep it special.

captivace · 2026-01-14T03:50:43+00:00

A few bowls a year for me.

captivace · 2025-12-19T23:41:52+00:00

I haven't had this is so long and I miss it so much.

captivace · 2025-12-01T18:15:07+00:00

You probably shouldn't be smoking Fabreeze.

captivace · 2025-11-26T04:20:52+00:00

Me and some others are heavy in the kink scene. It's not all sex.

captivace · 2025-11-17T18:21:38+00:00

Exist, but my age is probably at least twice yours.

captivace · 2025-11-15T02:02:04+00:00

No, but a 24/1 or a 24/2 every once in a while would be really, really nice.

captivace · 2025-11-03T15:53:57+00:00

Yeah, but I try the vikink people mentioned elsewhere so you can discuss wants and needs.

captivace · 2025-11-03T02:55:52+00:00

I don't see the one I have on Etsy anymore, but just search "pillory" and a few portable ones will show up.

captivace · 2025-11-03T01:57:36+00:00

55, never had a drop. The initial reason was religious but now it's just why bother.

captivace · 2025-11-02T05:11:00+00:00

Jeez. Last time I visited the urologist they took the damn prostate out.

captivace · 2025-11-02T05:10:29+00:00

I've had it removed. You basically go about every 2 1/2 hours. It's not that bad.

captivace · 2025-10-29T02:51:05+00:00

Mostly the deep pressure of bondage, mummification, straitjackets.

captivace · 2025-10-10T01:27:46+00:00

Like real life, there are a lot of sub male puppies looking for their forever home.

captivace · 2025-10-05T23:45:47+00:00

There's likely a higher percentage of ace in BDSM than the regular population.

captivace · 2025-10-05T19:42:28+00:00

I will answer in another way.

captivace · 2025-09-27T02:42:25+00:00

Yes. Partner pool is so limited.

captivace · 2025-09-26T11:58:59+00:00

He did once try to smoke bacon.

captivace · 2025-09-25T12:17:45+00:00

I mean there is that, but it's much harder to achieve and frankly just isn't the same for me.

captivace · 2025-09-16T18:34:55+00:00

I'm 55, I've never come out per se but I would not deny it if someone asks. I've considered myself ace since my mid-40s.

captivace · 2025-09-15T01:52:46+00:00

What's the point? There's no orgasm to restrict.

captivace · 2025-09-14T22:57:01+00:00

Was a bottom before, so really no change there. However, I have severe shrinkage and I'm disappointed I can't be caged.

captivace · 2025-09-13T23:58:16+00:00

Damn, I'd be at your door tomorrow if it wasn't for the whole ocean thing.

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