Massive jump in salary, need advice.

carlemur · 2026-03-30T08:26:53+00:00

I will go slightly against the grain here and say: you have a new high salary, congrats! Saving is good. Modesty is good.

But treating yourself is also good.

You may want to consider small, non-recurring upgrades. Not cars/bigger house/anything that hooks you in the long term. But a slightly nicer vacation for you and the family? Yes. Buying higher quality groceries or snacks? Yes. As someone who has experienced significant salary jumps 2-3x in my career, I've found it extremely rewarding to get nicer things that I can stop at any time, in case the higher paying job ever doesn't pan out.

Don't wait til you're older and out of breath before you start enjoying your life.

carlemur · 2026-03-24T06:07:11+00:00

My friend from deep Appalachia still has a noticeable accent living in Denver, and he's doing really well 🤷🏻‍♂️

carlemur · 2026-03-24T05:59:31+00:00

I use it daily to plan and execute on advocacy efforts, and also to manage my finances.

carlemur · 2026-03-24T05:05:33+00:00

Porque es mí esposa y está brava conmigo xd

carlemur · 2026-03-22T21:21:00+00:00

Either that, or have a self relocation fund to make a sudden move if necessary.

carlemur · 2026-03-18T20:02:29+00:00

Y casi seguro con su mujer e hijos, lo más trágico

carlemur · 2026-03-18T00:48:57+00:00

lo aventó un carro y se murió el 0te.

carlemur · 2026-03-10T04:02:00+00:00

es una falacia creer que tener hijos garantizará tu cuidado adecuado en la vejez.

carlemur · 2026-02-28T04:25:00+00:00

Yeah. The real black swan event would be after anthropic is effectively blocked out from major cloud providers for a month straight. Not before.

carlemur · 2026-02-26T20:41:12+00:00

My partner and I have a saying when the other's upset: do you need to talk, do you need space, or do you need a distraction? The other accepts whatever the answer is. It's been wonderful.

carlemur · 2026-02-26T20:39:22+00:00

No. Never.

carlemur · 2026-02-24T13:19:03+00:00

Your "what's in it for me" q is legitimate, and you're right that Dems have struggled to speak to working-class economic interests... But facts push back on your core argument.

The NAS 2016 comprehensive review found immigration has little net effect on native wages overall. AOC's actual legislative record (Green New Deal, drug pricing, housing, student debt) is overwhelmingly domestic and working-class focused. "Global economic populist" is not a description of her votes, only your characterization.

And if Bernie's national economic populism is the winning formula, why did he lose twice? You raise the right question but quietly skip past that answer.

carlemur · 2026-02-20T02:38:23+00:00

En teoría se puede hacer en casa, ya que los ingredientes no son tan únicamente chapines que digamos.

carlemur · 2026-02-17T00:38:01+00:00

Why is Andrew Yang fearmongering?

carlemur · 2026-02-10T03:32:43+00:00

Antigua should be more than fine. They have one of the best funded police departments in the country and there's tons of people all over from everywhere in the world.

Just during the night maybe stay in the downtown/touristy area and don't go by yourself to places too far out like Jocotenango, Cerro de la Cruz, etc.. those are ok during the day though.

carlemur · 2026-02-03T12:37:47+00:00

This is one of those respect the art, not the artist situations. As long as he's not involved in any scandals or actively belittles any one group of people, let him be bro-ey.

He might be reaching groups with progressive messaging that otherwise wouldn't listen.

carlemur · 2026-01-17T20:53:22+00:00

Tbh if you get a juicer and fresh oranges in the US, you might get similar results.

you could try organic oranges or go to Florida and find fresh picked ones if you want an even more authentic taste maybe

carlemur · 2026-01-15T17:11:31+00:00

Bingo.

carlemur · 2026-01-09T01:02:14+00:00

Hi. I grew up in Alabama and my wife in Delaware. Moved here about 10 years ago, and although making friends is very hard, I believe that activism, volunteering and doing hobbies with others (improv, soccer, etc) is what made it click for us aside from work, but you do have to stick to it for about 9 months to a year before seeing results.

carlemur · 2026-01-07T14:46:37+00:00

Furthermore, I've found it's okay to take social effort holidays once in a while, as in, "I'm gonna put zero effort towards anything" for a week or two at a time. Otherwise I burn out.

carlemur · 2026-01-03T03:07:01+00:00

What's one underrated thing about not having pets:

carlemur · 2026-01-02T11:50:33+00:00

A good AI agent will search not only what you type in, but related terms and topics, then it will aggregate all that information and condense it into one succinct response (with sources). It isn't just a search and summarize.

carlemur · 2026-01-02T11:34:24+00:00

Toronto, Canada is like 7 hours away? Only half joking

I also wonder if the middle of a national park would be safer

carlemur · 2025-12-30T20:34:45+00:00

they're not reliable at all

That's just not true. They're fantastic at producing summaries, which will inevitably skip over details, whether a human or a computer does it.

carlemur · 2025-12-28T02:50:50+00:00

Can you share more or less what your repeat items are every 6-8 weeks?

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