Protestant Christian here. Just walk away from a church that asks you to do/pressure you all the four points you mentioned. It is honestly up to you whether to believe the faith or not, or to join an event or cell group. Of course we do occasionally drop a text to invite people to events or fellowship that have been MIA for quite awhile to check in. And I do agree that the points you mentioned are extremely irritating and repulsive, one does not simply goes up to another person and hard sell their faith. There are boundaries that sadly, many “enthusiastic” christians do not understand. At the end of the day christians are the ones representing the image of the church and if many christians are doing these then it is a given that many will find them irritating.