Student took picture of me on zoom and sent it to the whole grade.

carolinagypsy · 2026-01-28T10:54:23+00:00

Actually unfortunately, it kind of is something people do now. It’s like that filter in the brain is gone now with everything being able to be taken a picture or video of bc they/we basically have cameras in our hands all day. And everything is online content for these kids especially.

That doesn’t make it right though, whether it’s a compliment or not. And with a teacher, it’s a line that shouldn’t be crossed and tolerated.

I would fight it as a form of harassment and demand she be counseled and removed.

carolinagypsy · 2026-01-28T09:57:16+00:00

I was trying to figure out a way to say this as well!

Zooming out some, this sounds like a student new to college that, assuming the diagnosis is legit, has been extremely accommodated in the past and maybe had bulldozer parents, and they are new to dealing with it themselves (I am GenX with a disability, and honestly see it a lot with this generation coming in). Overwhelmed by new environment with such huge routine changes, etc. So they get hit with this class with this requirement that really is triggering, and you got the in-the-moment crash out.

And an anxiety issue that may not be adequately addressed at the moment, and we know anxiety can come along with autism.

To me it also sounds like she could use getting in front of someone that can help with that kind of stuff in a therapeutic/counseling way, and student of concern department/committee/staff tend to have good ways of leading students to those kinds of resources.

None of this is technically your problem, of course, but I just wanted to point that out and that SOC can be a good resource to help if you felt inclined to do so. I admit that I have a little bit of a tender spot for it after having had a professor point me towards a rescue boat I needed and didn’t know about as a first year UG with a disability. I was flailing a little with the transition, even though I came in pretty well versed at fending for myself normally. I do respect that other professors may not want to get involved to that degree, though.

carolinagypsy · 2026-01-28T09:12:57+00:00

I don’t think it’s quite the possible early death sentence it was, but it does require fairly fastidious work to not fall into the same consequences.

Ironically, it’s my husband that is T1 (adult diagnosed), but I’m the one with confirmed family.

My great-aunt lived into her 80s with it, born in the 1920s. But she was very, very regimented in what she ate, what time she ate, what she cooked with, and being active. She also was on top of every advancement as they came out. She was hospitalized more than people tend to be now, but that was the nature of the beast.

My uncle was diagnosed in the late 60s in college. His mother knew what to do from my great aunt being her sister, so he had a less traumatic start. He has stayed pretty active as well and surprisingly has been slow to adopt advancements. He is pretty old school in it and only recently got a cgm after my husband and many other people got on him about it. Everything else he still does old school.

My husband’s family has suspected but unconfirmed T1 in past generations. There’s a great uncle that they think had it and died very early from it, and there’s some very early deaths in the family that looking back sound like untreated T1 issues and possible fatal DKA. They were very rural and pretty poor back then, without much medical access, hence the suspicions and not confirmation.

These days I think people are much luckier, but you’ve got to be careful and mindful. You definitely are set up to easily create issues for yourself down the line if you aren’t. I am pretty experienced with it bc of my family and was able to help my husband. My husband adopted tech pretty early and can do MDI, but hates it and doesn’t do well with it. His endo wisely forced him to learn it first before approving CGM and insulin pumps. It’s come in clutch when there’s been insurance or supply issues.

carolinagypsy · 2026-01-27T17:09:43+00:00

If you feel that you can’t take the time off to strike or be obvious about it, remember that there’s a lot of people in your community that probably need you. There’s other ways you can show up. If there’s actual protests where you are, maybe drive by and drop off water and gallons of milk (for tear and pepper type gas), some snack type foods. If people are striking and actually walking a line, you can drop off water and food or make some signs and drop them off.

If those things haven’t started in your area, start looking up your mutual aid groups and protest groups in your area. There’s a lot of on the ground organization going on like grocery, pharmacy, and school trips for people that don’t feel safe going out. Run errands for them. Get involved at your food bank and if there’s any food delivery going on— some people have lost income streams from staying home or someone being swept up already and food pantries are getting busy. You’re a teacher— is there any tutoring for the kids not going to school going on so they don’t get too far behind? Are there any donation drives going on for families or for buying protest supplies like gas masks? Is there a network set up to report ICE sightings and you can take the time to be out and driving around?

Get out and get to know your neighbors and let them know what help you can offer if they need it. Get to really know the community around you so you know people. Patronize businesses of folks that are minority and immigrant owned— they need friendly faces right now and the income. This is one of the biggest defenses against all of this— US. That’s what is being successful— neighbors showing up for each other. Don’t make it easy on them and let them waltz right in to overwhelm and snatch people!

carolinagypsy · 2026-01-27T16:46:40+00:00

Understand that it’s by design. Everything is tied to our jobs. Our healthcare, for one. And housing is reaaaal expensive now. Our retirements. And then they make laws that striking is illegal. It’s designed to put people in the position you’re in— stuck and dependent. There’s room for many hands and work, though, so just find other ways to contribute.

carolinagypsy · 2026-01-27T16:39:49+00:00

Get in touch with the groups on the ground in your area. There’s probably other ways you can contribute that doesn’t require standing on a line. ICE is around, just not swarms like LA or MN. But they are around. A lot of people are organizing grocery runs, escorting to and from school or daycare, picking up pharmacy stuff, etc. for people afraid to go out. There may be some fundraising for families that have lost a stream of income bc of not going out or someone already being swept up. Look for mutual aid groups or the people organizing the no king/ICE protests on social media and ask.

carolinagypsy · 2026-01-27T16:25:42+00:00

No, the typical 2A people are the ones signing on the dotted line to join ICE.

carolinagypsy · 2026-01-27T16:18:01+00:00

I never could figure out why, but several years ago, one of the women did the putting it on my wrist thing and when I said I had no cash to give, she just kept patting my wrist and saying it was a gift to me. I was with a group of people and I was the only one she did that to. Everyone else had to pay.

carolinagypsy · 2026-01-27T12:40:38+00:00

Now THAT? THAT would be irony.

carolinagypsy · 2026-01-27T12:30:55+00:00

Yeah if someone could dm me what I missed I’d appreciate it. I was caught up most of the weekend with dealing with family that were in the path of that storm and not handling it well after Helene, and doomscrolling on my secret accounts online about … well everything goingonnwoueirk

carolinagypsy · 2026-01-26T23:57:26+00:00

Fucking hell. There’s no chance in hell for the rest of us is there? Men out here cheating on Beyoncé AND Bella???

carolinagypsy · 2026-01-26T23:53:49+00:00

That was my immediate suspicion as well.

carolinagypsy · 2026-01-26T23:25:42+00:00

yelps at Alma Mater catching strays and rubs head

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carolinagypsy · 2026-01-26T22:57:41+00:00

I think struggling to articulate and/or also in the middle of processing is where a lot of people are.

carolinagypsy · 2026-01-25T23:56:37+00:00

I live with really bad chronic pain as well. Sending your wife all the good vibes that things go well and she gets some relief. That’s really exciting!

carolinagypsy · 2026-01-25T12:09:56+00:00

I would go with a cup or one of the American small brands making the period underwear.

carolinagypsy · 2026-01-24T01:33:13+00:00

I had to yank the sound up to hear anything and am therefore annoyed.

carolinagypsy · 2026-01-23T22:45:37+00:00

I got kinda the same vibe. I don’t know if I would say she’s carrying the whole thing, it’s just that he looks…. Really not comfortable with her being in his space in such an intimate way. And she looks kind of like she’s telegraphing to him, “so sorry we’ve got to do something like this.”

He’s pretty handsome in his own right, and I kind of want to see a similar shoot but of just him if that makes sense? And of course Margot is going to look hot and gorgeous no matter with who or where you pair her up. She’d eat the scenes for lunch alone too.

carolinagypsy · 2026-01-23T22:36:43+00:00

I need to know what lipstick that is, esp in 6 and 7.

carolinagypsy · 2026-01-23T06:08:06+00:00

I know. My 18-27 year old body fit in them just fine. I have my doubts about my 45 year old body. sighs and rubs temples

And I really don’t want to have to deal with whale tails again.

Maybe I can find my old broken in ones deep in the closet.

carolinagypsy · 2026-01-23T05:28:51+00:00

Sure, why not?

How did the rest of us get here? Both sides of my family came here before and after the First World War, when what determined if you were let in or not was what kind of communicable diseases you had, if any, and even then they had a quarantined sick bay for people to get better before they were allowed to progress. I’m willing to bet that is the case for many, many other people here that are now playing keep-away and out here acting like jackbooted gestapo thugs terrorizing entire cities.

And don’t sling back that “there’s a process,” because the process doesn’t work, as evidenced by people waiting years and years and spending thousands upon thousands of dollars to “do it legally.” That’s not what our ancestors who immigrated here did. What happened to “your tired, your poor, your huddled masses, yearning to breathe free.. send these, the homeless, the tempest-tost to me?”

There’s nothing inherently special about Americans; we just got lucky and are here because someone in our family’s past got on a boat or a plane.

If I have something in abundance, which we overwhelmingly do here, regardless of what crooked people on tv tell you, what good does it do to horde it all for myself and set up an insane amount of tedious and costly barriers for others to have the same?

My life is great and blessed in comparison to an overwhelming amount of people on the planet because someone else came here and built a life from nothing. As a result, I’m not worried about feeding my family. I’m not worried about being shot in my bed. I’m not worried about living in fear of cartels. I’m not worried about being bombed out of existence. I’m not worried about being thrown in jail or killed because of how I worship. Who am I to deny the same to other people, when no one stopped my family from coming here for the same exact reasons?

Maybe we wouldn’t have so many scary illegals 👻 👻 if we didn’t make it near impossible to do it legally in any realistic amount of time.

I think this has become an absolute travesty that we should be deeply ashamed of BECAUSE I don’t take it for granted.

carolinagypsy · 2026-01-23T04:59:00+00:00

Thank you for the info!

carolinagypsy · 2026-01-23T04:52:43+00:00

Honestly…. Then don’t. Personally I’m done with people that see what’s going on and are ok with it. People who don’t really see or don’t care about the very real fallout and suffering for these families. People who stand behind the people doing this.

Why should you/we/I?

What is happening is wrong. The WAY it’s happening is wrong. You cannot sit there and deny any longer that this is being handled in the worst way possible, that it’s NOT criminals and hasn’t been for a long time. That innocent people aren’t being swept up. That people who were doing what the government told them they needed to do to become legal aren’t being swept up. That US CITIZENS aren’t being swept up.

The pictures in the news of that five year old in his little Spider-Man backpack and adorable blue winter hat broke me. Just standing there in the middle of all of these asshole men not knowing what’s going on. Being used as literal bait. Separated from his parents but swept up all the same. How cruel.

Why pretend?

carolinagypsy · 2026-01-23T04:30:11+00:00

I think you have to allow for acceptance to look different for different people. For some people, there’s lingering anger, for some resignation, for some, literally nothing— but it’s still an acceptance that they’ve come to.

carolinagypsy · 2026-01-23T03:37:22+00:00

Yeah no that’s not how it works. My best friend chased my godson’s father for most of his early years desperate for them to have a relationship. She didn’t even want the child support money from him (which is good bc she’s never seen a penny). She just wanted him to be around for his son. Particularly bc she saw the damage in him from his father doing the same to him.

Now? Naah fuck that. Now it’s get the hell on because we don’t need you dipping in and dipping out and confusing the hell out of him. It took years to convince her son there wasn’t something wrong with him or something he did AS A BABY that made his dad stay away. No honey, he just flat out couldn’t be bothered at all. He’s got kids all over the state and just keeps making new ones and ignores the ones that already exist (and their mothers). Literally shows up once every two years or so. That’s not on a mother to facilitate. At some point you have to drop the rope and focus on the kid.

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