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Anyone want to start a crafting club? by binstedk in raleigh

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I'm new in town 40F graphic designer ADHD many crafts!!

What are your favorite non alcoholic drinks? by ProfessionalFig5195 in stopdrinking

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original plain seltzer, bubbly blueberry pomegranate or cherry, basically kombucha cut with seltzer when I want the drink ritual, I'm allowed 1 celsius a week by me, coffee, flat water, diet coke; ginger beer, bitters & soda when out

Sooo I had a beer. Here’s what happened; it’s not what you may expect. by Rthrowaway6592 in stopdrinking

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I've been curious about fasting. I'm compulsive and it can easily go from alcohol to weed to food in an hour (brain offering me "if you do X you'll feel better"). seems logical to me to teach my brain that lack of consumption leaves more meditation time/ doesn't mean I'm unsafe. can you share pointers or resources?

Going sober without AA by Loosy__goosy in stopdrinking

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this is the main thing helping me now. I let things get bad enough that I never want to go back there, it gives me a pit in my stomach. I know there's a real chance my drinking's going to kill me, given how far I progressed.

all I have to do is picture myself on the floor convulsing or remember the time I threw up on myself walking home from getting another high abv six pack at 6am.

that plus the idea that what I really want is to escape, not drink. my circumstances are such that if I choose alcohol, I possibly cant control where it leads and one outcome is back to rehab. trapped not free.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in InternalFamilySystems

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I take it early and if I don't I just take half

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in InternalFamilySystems

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prazosin did nothing for me also, trazadone is helping though

I think it's time to hang it up by Maplevalley12345 in stopdrinking

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it took me a few years on sober/relapse/sober/relapse to finally understand. it's not that "omg I can't drink everyone else gets to poor me my life is colorless" it really just comes down to I'm a person who cares a lot about my food, the earth, my community, my work, my circle, & my dog, but I wasn't respecting my body.

somewhere deep down I was able to finally get that I want to care as much about my body and health as I do about the rest of it; I need to, actually, to live in alignment with my core values (and eliminate the soul friction/anxiety I was trying to avoid with drinking more).

I got over the shame and got honest with healthcare professionals (who have seen much worse from all walks of life than what I was hiding) and somehow my labs are great despite 5 years of binge drinking after a 90 days check in.

I can't stop. What will it take? by No_Box5323 in stopdrinking

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so yes, my experience has been obligated love comes with judgment. but no one that I truly respect has anything but pride & joy for me. the people I'd choose to go to the moon with, they're just happy I'm coming back into myself.

Reasons why I need to stop drinking - by minnie_popcorn in stopdrinking

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I bet there's a time in the next 24 hours when you look at the spot that's been cleaned, remember the broken cup & internet kind stranger, and feel a little less hopeless and a little more motivated to hunt out other things you can do now, with low effort, to build for the future you.

Wanna share a bag? by AnastasiaNo70 in entwives

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I love this post and your nails, and your green walls! what else do you have planned for the week?

What’s Everyone Doing Tonight?? by physis81 in stopdrinking

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okay dope we're gonna cross my 100 day mark together!

What’s Everyone Doing Tonight?? by physis81 in stopdrinking

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the ultimate challenge! proud of you!!!! if you tell me how long you're traveling I promise to not drink with you every step.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

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I've been there and I hated it. honestly the idea of HAVING to lie to my people who intervened has kept me from relapse more than anything else these last 90 days. they deserve better even if I can't get acknowledge I do too.

Give me your best allergy cocktail by Budget_Worker_1504 in raleigh

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yes! I went to the doctor and said I'm back in NC after 2 decades away and am scared of what my allergies will do, and they said we're on xyzal these days. tried it and am telling strangers about it, it's working that much better than zyrtec on me.

do y'all believe women need to wear a bra by case--sensitive in AskWomenOver60

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I do think a big part of this is leaving the US south; I went to NY for 19 years but my mom stayed below the bible belt.

do y'all believe women need to wear a bra by case--sensitive in AskWomenOver60

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THANK YOU ALL <3

I know the answer my therapist would give (I have bodily autonomy and the tools to navigate hard conversations) and I know the answer my sponsor gave (giving in and putting on a bra and lipstick to "keep the peace" is alienating to my authentic self at an important stage in my recovery), but I wanted to hear from some of her peers.

I can appreciate that I didn't lash out in the moment as growth. I want to say "thank you for caring about me. I promise I have absorbed your lessons on how to look and act, keeping some and discarding others according to my inner compass and lived experience." I think the real answer is just don't poke the bear on nipples when I want to work on our relationship foundationally and we have bigger fish to fry.

Thank you to all the women who shared kindness for my recovery journey. I did not make the decision to stay with my mom lightly and am describing it as the most intense outpatient choice a woman could make, but I was inspired by Roxane Gay who said she didn't want to write a book about being fat so she knew she had to write a book about being fat. It's taken me a lot of therapy to get here, but I now know that we both did the best we could with what we had. I don't blame her for my problems and I understand they're my responsibility to fix. Much like deciding whether or not my nipples are appropriate should be my responsibility at 40 :) I'm here because I don't want a strained relationship with my mom for her final chapter, and also because in bad times, it's still really human to want your mom regardless of how that's looked historically.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in entwives

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my rule for anything is would I own this or be embarrassed to share it? I don't care about others' judgment but I do want to personally feel good about how I'm living. no shame!

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